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Breast Cancer Awareness Month: What to Say (or Not Say)

Because I’m seeing so much pink this week, I find myself thinking about all things related to FBC (f-bomb breast cancer). It’s amazing how a few (million) pink ribbons reactivate the memory of experiences (and f-bombs!).

One of the things that comes to mind (that you dear readers discuss with me frequently!) is:

What to say or WTF not to say to someone with FBC.

Here’s the thing: it’s hard to be a friend to someone who has FBC. It just is. I know. I really do. I can’t tell you the number of times people have asked me: What can I do? How should I be? What should I say?

So, I thought that for the next few days I’ll share some things that were said to me when I was sick that felt a little, well, cloudy… and offer a more Silver Lined way to respond.

I’d love your thoughts. What did you hear when you were sick and what would you like to have heard?

Hollye began writing as a way to discuss her journey with breast cancer. She believes that breast cancer happens within the ecosystem of family, friends, and community. Consequently, she decided to take the holistic approach and write about breast cancer with style, humor, and silver linings. Hollye writes from the uniquely candid perspective of both her personal and professional experiences. She is a pediatric and adult palliative care nurse and social worker with graduate degrees in bioethics and child development. Hollye has worked as an educator, clinician, trainer, and consultant at the City of Hope National Medical Center, the University of Chicago Children’s Hospital, the University of Chicago Pritzker School of Medicine, and Northwestern Memorial Hospital. She speaks nationally about bioethics, grief and bereavement, and a family-centered approach to facing life-threatening illnesses. You can follow her blog at The Silver Pen, email her at hollye@TheSilverPen, or follow her on Twitter @hollyejacobs.

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