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Jul 22, 2012 07:45 AM Jill1962 wrote:
It warms my heart that my journey has benefited others and that there has been something positive that has come out of all of this.
I feel that being positive and having hope is paramount in getting thru this journey with all your marbles intact!
One of the things that I do is to listen to my EMDR cd's when I am feeling stressed, although I should listen to them daily as they are helping my mind heal. What is EMDR you ask : This is a form of hypnosis that was first used to help Vietnam Vets with PTSD, it helps you to stop the negative self talk in your head and move past the trauma of the fear.
I found a great Psyc Doc 17 years ago that practices in this and it truly saved my life. He learn't it from a Doc in the USA so I know that there are Doc's out there that know how to do this and I would highly recommend it to anyone.
If anyone is thinking of doing this I would first check them out with the Psychological Association in your area to make sure they are legit!
It may not be something for everyone but it sure helped me get my life back. I knew I needed help when my DH would say "next year we will go to Mexico for vacation" my thoughts were " yes if I'm still hear" so I stopped that thinking and 17 years later still going on great vacations to Mexico! Thank you Doctor Wilensky!
I also play a lot of racquetball and take it out on the little blue ball, even when I was going thru chemo I played and used to beat all they guys so they started calling me "Cheroid" because of the chemo/steroids I was on and wanted to test my urine before each game... sore losers ;P
The reason I mention this is that I didn't put my life on hold and managed... come hell or high water to get out and do the things that I loved and be around all my friends as "it was something I was going thru and not who I was" and I was accepted by all of them and before long all they saw was Jill in a bad hat... which I was allowed an equipment time out for if it flew off during a match ;p
Now get out and live your lives ladies.... there's no do overs.....
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on!
Dx 5/8/2006, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIb, 4/18 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-