Jul 30, 2012 09:05 AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Morning....hope you all have a marvelous Monday....back after work.
Dx 9/27/2007, IDC, 5cm, Stage II, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
Posted on: Feb 7, 2009 05:29 PM
I am an "older" woman with breast cancer (I was diagnosed at 65 and am now 66). I notice that most of the posts seem to be from people younger than I am (often by quite a bit...). I'd love to "talk" with others my age, exchange info about their diagnoses, effects on their lives, etc. I see that there is a forum for young women.
Someone suggested that maybe it's that older people aren't so computer-savvy or aren't used to being in online discussion groups. However, for those who are, it would be great.
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Jul 30, 2012 09:05 AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Morning....hope you all have a marvelous Monday....back after work.
Jul 30, 2012 10:06 AM Kaara wrote:
Another Monday...more laundry...how does it pile up so quickly!!
Watched the olympics last evening...our USA women gymnists are just awesome!! I felt so sorry for the one who lost out to the overall competition...she worked so hard and just one little slip and it was all over. The pressure they must be under...I just wonder how healthy that is for a young girl. This is by far my favorite of all the events.
Have a great day everyone!
Jul 30, 2012 10:29 AM Wilsie2 wrote:
I am proud to be "older", will have my 68th birthday on Saturday and going gambling with my daughter! Mindless amusement where you can escape the "real world" for a while.
I need an "attitude adjustment", as I thought I was free and clear 15 years ago, and used to tell women who were newly diagnosed, look at me! I have been though it all! Surgery, chemo, radiation, and see? I am just fine! Then the ugly beast crept back in to my life in January. I am usually the "eternal optimist" but have had my life shaken my the new development. I am finished 14 abraxane treatments and am on aromacin now, my energy and hair coming back, but always feel like I am waiting for the other show to drop.
No one to tell but you guys, please bear with me. Thanks for listening.
Jul 30, 2012 11:39 AM Wilsie2 wrote:
Thanks for your support. My right hand pretty useless, too.
Jul 30, 2012 11:43 AM Kaara wrote:
Wilsie2: So sorry you are having to deal with this again...what a nightmare. I am a newbie to this, having just had my surgery last December. I haven't even reached the one year mark yet, but I am trying to be positive about the future. I'm doing everything possible with lifestyle choices..diet...exercise..supplements, but little in the way of conventional choices. My one compromise is I'm taking tamoxifen in hopes that it will prevent a recurrence. All we can do is everything we can and then hope.
Sending you lots of positive energy.
Jul 30, 2012 04:54 PM Isabelle2 wrote:
Wilsie, is that a little Pom I see? I have a mini Pomeranian, sable, looks like the same colour..she just turned 9 end of June..best little dog I ever had.
This is my first encounter with BC...lumpectomy & 12 nodes removed May 24th..start my 1st of 25 rads on Thurs. Aug. 2. I am on day 34 of Femara & so far main side effect is emotional and a little bit of afternoon tiredness which is so unusual for me. I guess I should consider myself lucky if anything about C. is lucky. I am so grateful that I am not younger and dealing with this & raising children. I so admire the younger women on this site who are still dealing with children & jobs.
Jul 30, 2012 05:07 PM Chevyboy wrote:
Now Wilsie, how can you gamble if you are having trouble with your right hand??
I'm having my 75th tomorrow! I hated from 70 to 75, but now that it's here, it doesn't sound so bad, Ha! It sure could be worse! We went gambling too! But NEXT time, I'm going to take up a book, instead of money, and spend my time THAT way...AND with a Starbucks sweetened iced coffee Grande'!
My DH gave me money to spend, but of course I couldn't hang onto it. So it's much more fun to hang onto your money! What are you guys doing with your hands???
And sorry Wilsie, for having found it again.... But you are an inspiration to me.... I can have the same attitude, "IF".....!
Isabelle...Our little Sheltie is also 9... "our other Daughter"..... And I know what you mean about being one of the younger gals, with small kids, and having cancer.... I don't know what I would do!!! So yes, we ARE lucky.... Come talk to us again real soon!!!
Jul 30, 2012 05:08 PM IllinoisLady wrote:
Wilsie2 --- welcome to the very seasoned women here on the Older forum. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this again. Had to have been a new primary after all this time. I do think anyone who has had a "turn" at cancer probably has a higher possibility of a return at some point.....but of course, we all hope and pray it is not us.
Just look at it this way.....maybe an "attitude adjustment" but for 15 years you were able to be a positive model as to what a really good outcome could do. I bet you have no idea how many people had hope and great inspiration....and every word you said to others was true.
You sound like you have a good handle on things, but truly, I would be devastated. Here's hoping everything smooths out once again. In the meantime......we love to "get together" here and talk about most anything including cancer of course. I hope you will come back often.
Actually trying to rain here, but such minor spitting....I don' t have a lot of hope. Temps were not too bad today, but the drought is really abysmal and I am really tired of it. Several chances for it to rain this week...so all if not lost if we don't make it today.
Hope you all stay well.
p.s. excuse any typo's. The spell checker just won't turn on today.
Jul 30, 2012 05:14 PM, edited Jul 30, 2012 05:15 PM by IllinoisLady
Hey hi Isabell....been wondering where you were.
My little fellow....about 4 yrs. old above and is going on 9 now. His name is Baby Boss and he is the BOSS in no uncertain terms. We also have a Puggle, BishonPoo Terrier and Lab Retriever as well as a Min-Pin. Too many, but hey, you have to have some problem don't you ????
Again, hope you all have a fantastic day.
Jul 31, 2012 06:50 AM Chevyboy wrote:
Okay, my turn...Lacee is 8, I think..... A little Sheltie.
I have trimmed so much of her fur off for the Summer, but she will look like this again by November. She kind of resembles a little Teddy bear now.
Jackie! And you have Crocs? Man, I live in those things! I have a pair in almost every color, Ha! Been wearing them since I had Plantars' Fasciitus. (sp?) But aren't those high-heels so CUTE that they make now? I mean the 10 inch stilletto's with ribbons & gems? I'd fall head first into the Petunias with a pair of those on. I think you can only wear them to a rowdy bar, & get completely snockered. I could wear them if I didn't try and stand up..... ever. They are kind of trampy looking, right?
I would have bought a pair, about 30 years ago, if they had them.... And you have to have the "attitude" to match!
Jul 31, 2012 07:57 AM Kaara wrote:
Hi Ladies: Love your pets! They are all so adorable. Jackie, I had no idea you had so many! One day I'm going to have one, but it will have to be when I can no longer travel and be on the move constantly like I am now. It wouldn't be fair to a pet to have to put them in a kennel every time I left home for a week or two.
Chevy: Happy early birthday to you! Hope you have something special planned. Believe it or not...the photo of those shoes...I have a friend that I worked with that wears them every day. Also my DGD wears them...I actually saw her at Easter in a pair so high that she towered over me..lol! I told her..."never walk on my hardwood floors in those shoes..they would make holes in the wood like nails". Her BF won't let her walk on his floors either with them on!
I've never been a gambler...just never felt the thrill of winning or losing for that matter. Just give me the money and I'll go shopping and at least have something to show for it in the end. That's just me...I know others enjoy it and that's fine...no judgments here. Whatever floats your boat.
It's raining today. I was trying to work in the yard last evening pulling some weeds, and I got chased away by a bumblebee of all things. He just kept buzzing me until I went inside. I hate that, but I don't want to get stung again and have a problem with shingles like I did the last time I was stung by a bee. Anyway it will be easier to pull the weeds after a nice long rain which it looks like we're going to have today. A good day to curl up with a book.
Have a great day everyone.
Jul 31, 2012 08:24 AM IllinoisLady wrote:Life expectancy would grow by leaps and bounds
Cheerfulness is the best promoter of health
and is as friendly to the mind as to the body.
Jul 31, 2012 09:35 AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Good morning......hmmm, Kaara....could you share some of that rain. Starting Thursday.....we have several days in a row listed as having a good possibility for rain. We are just hanging in their with this drought and it is getting very tiresome. Hope later this week we break out of it for awhile and actually get enough to do a little good....though this late in the year...no matter what we get we will tend to just dry out all over.
I'll be checking back some time after work.....hope you all have a fantastic day. See you later.
Jul 31, 2012 09:55 AM Kaara wrote:
Jackie: LOL...I guess that's why I feel so good...I'm cheerful and have a green veggie drink almost every morning instead of bacon;) Hopefully my efforts will pay off in the end.
I remember when I was growing up in Texas...almost everything was cooked in bacon grease. Now that was really healthy..not...but it sure made the food taste better. Between that and the charred steak and chicken on the grill, it was a perfect setup for my bc later in life. Who knew! I can't change what has already happened but I can try to make a difference going forward.
Jul 31, 2012 05:16 PM IllinoisLady wrote:
Oh Kaara.....all those things you mentioned may have had very little if anything to do with your later in life cancer. Food was generally much better many yrs. ago....with cattle and pigs ( bacon ) fed better.....and that along with all the garden food was I know much better than what passes for food now. I will say though,....I think it did take a good spate of time for us to catch on to the red meat thing.
But.....we do have to watch every little thing now. My motto is moderation, with plenty of good water and exercise.
I have to run and help dh with a project.
See you all later.
Jul 31, 2012 06:03 PM carolehalston wrote:
Welcome Wilsie. I'm so sorry about your recurrence. Your story is what we all fear will happen to us. I'm three years out with 2 more years on arimidex.
Cute dogs. DH and I were cat people when we had pets. Now we're "petless" and will probably stay that way. Pets are so expensive, especially vet bills.
Enjoying the Olympics.
Happy Birthday, Chevy!!!
Jul 31, 2012 06:34 PM Wren44 wrote:
Carole, DH and I decided not to get any more pets because of vet bills and our age. Now we foster for an animal shelter. I usually get cats with injuries and keep them until they are well enough to go to new homes. I have to keep telling myself they're not my pets, just rental pets.
Jul 31, 2012 07:41 PM Isabelle2 wrote:
Okay, I will post my little Sassy on here as soon as I can figure out how to do it. One more day till #1 rad...Thursday. Have talked about it so much I feel as if I have already been there. lol
Jul 31, 2012 09:29 PM IllinoisLady wrote:
Can't wait to meet Sassy......
p.s. I'm assuming that rads are done exactly the same way in Canada as they are here. If so, they are easy, but depending on how many you need to do they tend to get boring. Also, you may get some bouts of fatigue.....I had a fair amt. of walking to do....thru a motel, and then into the rads office, then back to the V.A center hospital where I had a long walk to go get lunch.....and then back to the motel. I have always thought the amt. of exercise helped me. I got fatigued twice and I will say it was like nothing I had ever felt before. I actually felt I had to lay down and sleep or I would just not be able to move again. So.....even though it may seem like the wrong thing.......probably a modest amt. of walking might be fine to keep you from not having much like me, or maybe none at all.
See you all tomorrow.
Aug 1, 2012 06:32 AM Chevyboy wrote:
Morning gals! Hi Wren! When the girls gave us Lacee, we thought, "Oh no! Aren't we too old to raise another puppy?" Well, 8 years, and so many love filled years later, our lives would be so empty without her.... I think she makes it easier to accept the other things life dishes out as we get older.... We always have someone there to hold....and she makes a great listener!
So very great of you guys to take in those pets! Wow! I admire you....and thank you! You and your DH are their guardian angels.
Aug 1, 2012 08:44 AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Morning......the quote is to honor what Chevy said. Most of the time we don't want things to change.....seems they might be too hard. We get to a place where we don't want to make a commitment to an animal....too much change when we feel things are settled in a way that is comfortable to us. I'd like not to have so many......but seeing their eyes light up when I come home every day.....and a couple like Baby Boss who think it is their only job in life to follow you around and stay right next to you --- just make it so easy to forget all that it takes to keep them going.
Certainly not the fair weather friends we sometimes have/get.
Still waiting for rain here.....I'd give up but I'd just have to start "mouthing" about something else. I'll see you all again after work. Have a wonderful Wednesday.
Aug 1, 2012 07:12 PM Kaara wrote:
Jackie: The closest I came to getting a pet was when my DGD had her Min Pin...his name was Mickie and he was the cutest little thing. I could hardly bear to see him in the house with all of DD's other animals...two bulldogs and a german shepherd. I was afraid he would get squashed. Of course, DGD tired of him, but before I could speak up and take him, my DD's friend scooped him up. He's now living the life of riley like one of Paris Hilton's dogs...wears outfits and everything and sleeps on a jeweled pillow. He might not have had it that good with me...lol! He loved me though...every time I came around he would come to me to be picked up and cuddled. At least I know he's well cared for.
Aug 1, 2012 08:38 PM termite wrote:
Welcome Wilsie, sorry you are going through this again.
Jackie and Chevyboy, your dogs are cute. We have a 3 year old black Lab. He is very lovable.Always wants to be right by us. We also watch our sons yellow lab at times. The two dogs get along great. His name is Sarge after some cubs player. The dogs in the past were Sammy and Wrigley. Our boys were cub fans and named the dogs.
My work place is changing owners. I have to go to another childcare center for training for their procedures and policies for management. Everything is so different. I am not so sure I will remember how to do all their reports that are done daily. I thought I would retire from the place with the old owners in a few years. Change is not always fun. I have met some very nice people at the training center though.
We need the rain also. Tomorrow is suppose to be another 90 degree day. Hopefully, it will not be humid as well. Our lawn is brown and the flowers are dying.
Hope everyone is doing okay.
Have a great day
Aug 2, 2012 08:33 AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Joy and openness come from our own contented heart.
If instead of a gem, or even a flower, we should cast the gift of a loving thought into the heart of a friend; that would be giving as the angels give.
- George MacDonald
Aug 2, 2012 08:38 AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Termite...I think there is a quote that says something to the effect that the only constant there is, is that things will change. I'm sure that is pretty true. Just as we get almost completely comfy with something, along comes something to throw us back in the mixer.
I hope you are able to find your "comforts" zone again with these new people and that work will soon be more pleasure than anything else.
Hoping for rain and we just might get it. There is a chance as well the next couple of days.....surely one of these days will prove fruitful for us.
I hope you are all going to have a wondrous day. I'll be checking in again after work.