Topic: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

Jul 30, 2012 09:05 AM IllinoisLady wrote:

Morning....hope you all have a marvelous Monday....back after work.

Hugs, Jackie

Jul 30, 2012 10:29 AM Wilsie2 wrote:

I am proud to be "older", will have my 68th birthday on Saturday and going gambling with my daughter!  Mindless amusement where you can escape the "real world" for a while.

I need an "attitude adjustment", as I thought I was free and clear 15 years ago, and used to tell women who were newly diagnosed, look at me!  I have been though it all! Surgery, chemo, radiation, and see?  I am just fine!  Then the ugly beast crept back in to my life in January.  I am usually the "eternal optimist" but have had my life shaken my the new development.  I am finished 14 abraxane treatments and am on aromacin now, my energy and hair coming back, but always feel like I am waiting for the other show to drop.

No one to tell but you guys, please bear with me.  Thanks for listening.

Jul 30, 2012 11:39 AM Wilsie2 wrote:

Thanks for your support.  My right hand pretty useless, too.

Jul 30, 2012 04:54 PM Isabelle2 wrote:

Wilsie, is that a little Pom I see?  I have a mini Pomeranian, sable, looks like the same colour..she just turned 9 end of June..best little dog I ever had.

This is my first encounter with BC...lumpectomy & 12 nodes removed May 24th..start my 1st of 25 rads on Thurs. Aug. 2.  I am on day 34 of Femara & so far main side effect is emotional and a little bit of afternoon tiredness which is so unusual for me.   I guess I should consider myself lucky if anything about C. is lucky.   I am so grateful that I am not younger and dealing with this & raising children.    I so admire the younger women on this site who  are still dealing with children & jobs.

Jul 30, 2012 05:08 PM IllinoisLady wrote:

Wilsie2 --- welcome to the very seasoned women here on the Older forum.  I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this again.  Had to have been a new primary after all this time.  I do think anyone who has had a "turn" at cancer probably has a higher possibility of a return at some point.....but of course, we all hope and pray it is not us. 

Just look at it this way.....maybe an "attitude adjustment" but for 15 years you were able to be a positive model as to what a really good outcome could do.  I bet you have no idea how many people had hope and great inspiration....and every word you said to others was true. 

You sound  like you have a good handle on things, but truly, I would be devastated.  Here's hoping everything smooths out once again.  In the meantime......we love to "get together" here and talk about most anything including cancer of course.  I hope you will come back often.

Actually trying to rain here, but such minor spitting....I don' t have a lot of hope. Temps were not too bad today, but the drought is really abysmal and I am really tired of it.  Several chances for it to rain this week...so all if not lost if we don't make it today. 

Hope you all stay well.

Hugs, Jackie

p.s.  excuse any typo's.  The spell checker just won't turn on today.

Jul 31, 2012 06:50 AM Chevyboy wrote:

Okay, my turn...Lacee is 8, I think.....  A little Sheltie.

I have trimmed so much of her fur off for the Summer, but she will look like this again by November.  She kind of resembles a little Teddy bear now.

Jackie!  And you have Crocs?  Man, I live in those things!  I have a pair in almost every color, Ha!  Been wearing them since I had Plantars' Fasciitus. (sp?) But aren't those high-heels so CUTE that they make now? I mean the 10 inch stilletto's with ribbons & gems?   I'd fall head first into the Petunias with a pair of those on.  I think you can only wear them to a rowdy bar, & get completely snockered.  I could wear them if I didn't try and stand up..... ever.  They are kind of trampy looking, right? 

I would have bought a pair, about 30 years ago, if they had them....  And you have to have the "attitude" to match! 

Jul 31, 2012 07:57 AM Kaara wrote:

Hi Ladies:  Love your pets!  They are all so adorable.  Jackie, I had no idea you had so many! One day I'm going to have one, but it will have to be when I can no longer travel and be on the move constantly like I am now.  It wouldn't be fair to a pet to have to put them in a kennel every time I left home for a week or two.

Chevy:  Happy early birthday to you!  Hope you have something special planned.  Believe it or not...the photo of those shoes...I have a friend that I worked with that wears them every day.  Also my DGD wears them...I actually saw her at Easter in a pair so high that she towered over me..lol!  I told her..."never walk on my hardwood floors in those shoes..they would make holes in the wood like nails".  Her BF won't let her walk on  his floors either with them on!

I've never been a gambler...just never felt the thrill of winning or losing for that matter.  Just give me the money and I'll go shopping and at least have something to show for it in the end.  That's just me...I know others enjoy it and that's fine...no judgments here.  Whatever floats your boat.

It's raining today.  I was trying to work in the yard last evening pulling some weeds, and I got chased away by a bumblebee of all things.  He just kept buzzing me until I went inside.  I hate that, but I don't want to get stung again and have a problem with shingles like I did the last time I was stung by a bee.  Anyway it will be easier to pull the weeds after a nice long rain which it looks like we're going to have today.  A good day to curl up with a book.

Have a great day everyone. 

Jul 31, 2012 09:35 AM IllinoisLady wrote:

Good morning......hmmm, Kaara....could you share some of that rain. Starting Thursday.....we have several days in a row listed as having a good possibility for rain.  We are just hanging in their with this drought and it is getting very tiresome.  Hope later this week we break out of it for awhile and actually get enough to do a little good....though this late in the year...no matter what we get we will tend to just dry out all over.

I'll be checking back some time after work.....hope you all have a fantastic day.  See you later.

Hugs, Jackie

Jul 31, 2012 05:16 PM IllinoisLady wrote:

Oh Kaara.....all those things you mentioned may have had very little if anything to do with your later in life cancer.  Food was generally much better many yrs. ago....with cattle and pigs ( bacon ) fed better.....and that along with all the garden food was I know much better than what passes for food now.  I will say though,....I think it did take a good spate of time for us to catch on to the red meat thing. 

But.....we do have to watch every little thing now.  My motto is moderation, with plenty of good water and exercise. 

I have to run and help dh with a project. 

See you all later.

Hugs, Jackie

Jul 31, 2012 06:34 PM Wren44 wrote:

Carole, DH and I decided not to get any more pets because of vet bills and our age. Now we foster for an animal shelter. I usually get cats with injuries and keep them until they are well enough to go to new homes. I have to keep telling myself they're not my pets, just rental pets.

Jul 31, 2012 09:29 PM IllinoisLady wrote:

Can't wait to meet Sassy......

Hugs, Jackie]

p.s.  I'm assuming that rads are done exactly the same way in Canada as they are here.  If so, they are easy, but depending on how many you need to do they tend to get boring.  Also, you may get some bouts of fatigue.....I had a fair amt. of walking to do....thru a motel, and then into the rads office, then back to the V.A center hospital where I had a long walk to go get lunch.....and then back to the motel.  I have always thought the amt. of exercise helped me.  I got fatigued twice and I will say it was like nothing I had ever felt before.  I actually felt I had to lay down and sleep or I would just not be able to move again.  So.....even though it may seem like the wrong thing.......probably a modest amt. of walking might be fine to keep you from not having much like me, or maybe none at all. 

See you all tomorrow.

Hugs, Jackie

Aug 1, 2012 06:38 AM Chevyboy wrote:

Aug 1, 2012 08:44 AM IllinoisLady wrote:

Morning......the quote is to honor what Chevy said.  Most of the time we don't want things to change.....seems they might be too hard.  We get to a place where we don't want to make a commitment to an animal....too much change when we feel things are settled in a way that is comfortable to us.  I'd like not to have so many......but seeing their eyes light up when I come home every day.....and a couple like Baby Boss who think it is their only job in life to follow you around and stay right next to you --- just make it so easy to forget all that it takes to keep them going. 

Certainly not the fair weather friends we sometimes have/get. 

Still waiting for rain here.....I'd give up but I'd just have to start "mouthing" about something else.  I'll see you all again after work.  Have a wonderful Wednesday.

Hugs, Jackie

Aug 1, 2012 08:38 PM termite wrote:

HI Ladies,

Welcome Wilsie, sorry you are going through this again.

Jackie and Chevyboy, your dogs are cute. We have a 3 year old black Lab. He is very lovable.Always wants to be right by us. We also watch our sons yellow lab at times. The two dogs get along great. His name is Sarge after some cubs player. The dogs in the past were Sammy and Wrigley. Our boys were cub fans and named the dogs.

My work place is changing owners. I have to go to another  childcare center for training for their procedures and policies for management. Everything is so different. I am not so sure I will remember how to do all their reports that are done daily. I  thought I would retire from the place with the old owners in a few years. Change is not always fun. I have met some very nice people at the training center though.

We need the rain also. Tomorrow is suppose to be another 90 degree day. Hopefully, it will not be humid as well. Our lawn is brown and the flowers are dying.

Hope everyone is doing okay.

Have a great day

Aug 2, 2012 08:38 AM IllinoisLady wrote:

Termite...I think there is a quote that says something to the effect that the only constant there is, is that things will change.  I'm sure that is pretty true.  Just as we get almost completely comfy with something, along comes something to throw us back in the mixer. 

I hope you are able to find your "comforts" zone again with these new people and that work will soon be more pleasure than anything else. 

Hoping for rain and we just might get it.  There is a chance as well the next couple of days.....surely one of these days will prove fruitful for us. 

I hope you are all going to have a wondrous day.  I'll be checking in again after work.

Hugs, Jackie