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  • Posted on: Nov 7, 2009 10:06 pm
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,023
everyminute wrote:

Just wanted to update you all.  Knee surgery was 1 1/2 weeks ago  and I was able to run 30 mins on indoor track today! Felt pretty good - doc calls me his star patient (would love to hear that from my onc!).  I am hoping to slowly build back up my miles and start training for a international distance triathalon this summer for Lymphoma Leukemia society.

My dad has another UTI - we brought hospice in today.  He is not going to get better and this is the first time I have seen him at peace in a long time.  He is ready to go - this is not the life he wants to lead and hopefully hospice will help keep him comfortably, emotionally and physically for the rest of his life.

Thank you all for your support, prayers and friendship! 

Long May She Run
Diagnosis: 6/5/2008, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 5/20 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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lexislove
Joined: Sep 2007
Posts: 1,942
Nov 7, 2009 10:17 pm lexislove wrote:

Mary,

Im sorry about your dad. When my 85 yr old grandfather passed, the 3 days leading up to it he was at peace. He"knew" it was his time and he was ready. It was very hard for me. I asked his nurse privatly when my grandfather was expected to go home. Her response, " he wont be going home." <sigh>

I think your father is just tired. His life is not what it was this time last year and all the challenges he faces now are a big echo bust.

I felt comfort knowing the my grandfather lead a long and relativly healthy and happy life. He saw his only child, my father, grow up,get married and have his 2 grandkids.My brother and I. He saw us grow up, get married and myself have his great grandchild which was his biggest joy.

This is very hard.I think it is probably harder for you and your family than for him. I hope your remaining time together is peaceful with lasting good memories.

Dx: Sep 2007, IDC 8cm, 0/6 nodes, ACT Chemo, R Mastectomy, 1 yr Herceptin, 28 Rads,Currently on Lupron, Tamox & Zometa. Exchange Sx Fall 2009, BRCA -
jenn3
New Orleans, La
Joined: Jul 2009
Posts: 367
Nov 8, 2009 12:05 am jenn3 wrote:

I'm sorry to hear the news of your dad. 

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.


Diagnosis: 6/19/2009, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 4/15 nodes, mets, ER-/PR-, HER2-
JacquelineG…
Joined: Jan 2009
Posts: 96
Nov 8, 2009 12:34 am JacquelineG wrote:

Hi Mary,

Your dad will be in my prayers!

Jackie


Diagnosis: 6/2/2008, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIIc, Grade 3, 6/40 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
Gitane
CA
Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 829
Nov 8, 2009 12:49 am Gitane wrote:

Oh, everyminute, may the time you have with your dad be filled with love and very peaceful.  You will be in my thoughts. G.

Dx 8/18/05, Pleomorphic ILC, multifocal, multicentric, G2, 1/9 nodes positive, OncotypeDX 23, ER+ PR- Her2-
helena67
Joined: Dec 2008
Posts: 232
Nov 8, 2009 02:36 am helena67 wrote:

Everyminute,

These are difficult times... I hope you two can still spend a lot of good times together.

By the way, I am sure your Onc considers you a star patient! :-)


Diagnosis: 8/2008, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIa, Grade 2, 4/11 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+
KerryMac
North York, ON
Joined: Jan 2009
Posts: 1,699
Nov 8, 2009 06:38 am KerryMac wrote:

Mary - I too am so sorry to hear this news. I hope his remaining time is peaceful, and you can enjoy the time he has left. Will be thinking of you.

Glad the knee is on the mend - I knew you would be running again! 

Kerry - Mx, Chemo, Rads, Ooph, Arimidex, Zometa
Diagnosis: 11/2008, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 6/11 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
kim40
Halifax, NS
Joined: Dec 2008
Posts: 445
Nov 8, 2009 07:50 am kim40 wrote:

Mary - sorry to hear about your dad. We will all be thinking of you.

Kim "I Live to Run" - Melissa Ethridge
Diagnosis: 1/6/2009, IDC, 5cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 14/19 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+
PureE
NC
Joined: Sep 2009
Posts: 387
Nov 8, 2009 07:55 am PureE wrote:

so sorry to hear this-I will keep him in our prayers. My husband just got similar news with his dad yesterday! I am so sorry.

JMV
YATCOMW
Joined: Oct 2008
Posts: 174
Nov 8, 2009 08:08 am YATCOMW wrote:

So sorry that you got this kind of news.....I think as daughter's it is tough seeing our dad ill.

I will keep him in my prayers and hope that you get all kinds of good times with him.

Jacqueline


Diagnosis: 5/2004, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIc, Grade 3, 17/24 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
kimf
PA
Joined: Feb 2005
Posts: 1,083
Nov 8, 2009 09:11 am kimf wrote:

Mary, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. Being ready or at peace at this time is so helpful for the crossover but it doesn't make it any easier for us, the survivors, esp when it is a parent. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Kimf
Diagnosis: 12/16/2004, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIIc, Grade 3, 15/23 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+
everyminute…
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,023
Nov 8, 2009 09:20 am everyminute wrote:

Thanks for your kind words.   There was a time when I was afraid he would outlive me - it doesnt look like that is going to happen which is somewhat of a relief but I will miss him.  I just went and had breakfast with him and when I asked him what the best thing that had ever happened to him told me that it was "marrying you (me)" 

He is 85 and really has had an amazing life.  He could have months or years, I just hope they are peaceful for him.

Jen - sorry about your father in law. 

Long May She Run
Diagnosis: 6/5/2008, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 5/20 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
SherriG
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 4,861
Nov 8, 2009 03:38 pm SherriG wrote:

Oh, Mary.  I'm sorry to hear about your dad.  Hospice is wonderful.  We had them for both of my in-laws and my dad.  It is good to know that your dad has made peace with his remaining days.  May you and your family find comfort in that.

Diagnosed 11/05/04 Stage 3 ILC "Lump is a four letter word!" Sherri
NancyD
New City, NY
Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 2,195
Nov 8, 2009 03:52 pm NancyD wrote:

Mary, Having just been through this with my Dad a few months ago, I know the sadness that this brings. It's bittersweet knowing that the few moments you get to spend with your father every so often might be the last. My prayers are with you and your family as his life winds down.

I'm not a complete idiot. Some parts are missing.
Diagnosis: 2/28/2008, IDC, Stage IIIa, Grade 2, 4/10 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
apple
Shawnee, KS
Joined: Dec 2008
Posts: 1,303
Nov 8, 2009 05:33 pm apple wrote:

prayers for you Mary..

he is blessed to have such a daughter.


Diagnosis: 5/10/2008, IDC, 5cm, Stage IIIc, Grade 3, 4/9 nodes, ER+
lkc
Bahamas
Joined: Aug 2005
Posts: 1,143
Nov 8, 2009 06:25 pm lkc wrote:

mary, I am sorry to hear about your dad. it is never easy to lose a parent. i will pray for his peace.

god bless.

Linda K dx'd May 05 Stage III
karen1959
Joined: Jul 2009
Posts: 138
Nov 8, 2009 06:45 pm karen1959 wrote:

Mary, my  prayers are with you.  I lost my Dad three years ago.

When God is not walking along with you, he is carrying you
Diagnosis: 6/2009, IDC, 5cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
SpunkyGirl
Carlisle, PA
Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 889
Nov 9, 2009 07:45 am SpunkyGirl wrote:

Mary,

I'm so glad your dad is at peace finally.  I've been in your situation, and it is so emotionally and physically draining.  Please take the time to care for yourself.  That you are back to running so soon is awesome.  It means a lot to me, and it's my stress outlet. 

We'll be thinking about you and your dad.

Love

Bobbie

"There's a light at the end of this tunnel for you." Third Day
Diagnosis: 7/23/2006, IDC, <1cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 2, 8/20 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+
PureE
NC
Joined: Sep 2009
Posts: 387
Nov 9, 2009 08:52 am PureE wrote:

Thinking of you today! Prayers!

JMV
JudyO
Joined: Oct 2008
Posts: 84
Nov 9, 2009 05:21 pm JudyO wrote:

Prayers and hugs to you.....
americanpin…
Los Angeles
Joined: Feb 2009
Posts: 202
Nov 9, 2009 05:26 pm americanpinay wrote:

Prayers for you and your dad. Take care.

Lumpectomy 09/08, AC x 4 then Taxol x 12 10/08 through 03/09, Rads x 33 05/09 through 06/09 Tamoxifen beg 08/09
Diagnosis: 9/10/2008, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 2, 4/6 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
jenn3
New Orleans, La
Joined: Jul 2009
Posts: 367
Nov 9, 2009 05:51 pm jenn3 wrote:

Wanted to let you know you were in my thoughts today - ((((HUGS))))


Diagnosis: 6/19/2009, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 4/15 nodes, mets, ER-/PR-, HER2-
everyminute…
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,023
Nov 9, 2009 09:09 pm everyminute wrote:

Thanks ladies.  What a day.  Dad was a train wreck yesterdya - very agitated and confused.  When I got to nursing home this am they told me he had fallen out of bed early in the am. When I got in the room I couldnt wake him and he couldnt speak.  He had some kind of stroke or TIA or something.  He was unconcious most of the day but did wake a few times and woke for about 20 mins and even ate a bit of dinner.

My sister came up and spent some time with him today too. I do think he is dying but dont know how long  - I guess no one does.

Whenever he woke up I told him I loved him and he would smile.  Tonight he hugged me and told me he loved me before he went back to sleep.

Thanks for the kind words and prayers.

Long May She Run
Diagnosis: 6/5/2008, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 5/20 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Diana63
Oh
Joined: Oct 2007
Posts: 512
Nov 9, 2009 10:58 pm Diana63 wrote:

Mary, I will be thinking of you and your dad, its never easy to let go of a parent now matter how old they are. God Bless

“Be still, and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10).
Diagnosis: 10/6/2007, IDC, 5cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 4/9 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
Leah_S
Israel
Joined: Apr 2009
Posts: 666
Nov 10, 2009 04:56 pm Leah_S wrote:

Mary, I'm praying for peace for your father.

Leah


Diagnosis: 11/3/2008, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIb, Grade 3, 6/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
americanpin…
Los Angeles
Joined: Feb 2009
Posts: 202
Nov 10, 2009 05:15 pm americanpinay wrote:

((((((((Mary))))))))

Lumpectomy 09/08, AC x 4 then Taxol x 12 10/08 through 03/09, Rads x 33 05/09 through 06/09 Tamoxifen beg 08/09
Diagnosis: 9/10/2008, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 2, 4/6 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
karen1959
Joined: Jul 2009
Posts: 138
Nov 10, 2009 07:16 pm karen1959 wrote:

try to spend as much time as you can with your Dad who finds great comfort from you and loves you as the greatest gift from God.   Love and hugs,  Karen

When God is not walking along with you, he is carrying you
Diagnosis: 6/2009, IDC, 5cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
everyminute…
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,023
Nov 10, 2009 07:16 pm everyminute wrote:

Thanks all!  Dad slept most of the day and was quite distressed ("please leave me alone and let me die!")  Tonight he rallied, ate a slice of pizza, had a bowl of soup, and wiggled his ears at me. 

we shall see what tomorrow brings

Long May She Run
Diagnosis: 6/5/2008, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 5/20 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-

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