My Mom's always been an Angel but she has her wings now. After a tough two years...left mastectomy then bone, lung, liver, brain and spine mets she was blessed with her wings last Thursday, Sept 18th. We had to have her taken to the hospital the Sun before by ambulance and the Dr. released her on Wed. so we could bring her home where she was comfortable. We had not signed up for Hospice at that point but they came to our house that afternoon that we brought her home and stayed with us over night.
She made me promise to take her down to the beach in her wheel chair and big floppy hat, like on the movie beaches, when the time had come. We only live a few houses down to the board walk but it was physically impossible to move her at that point. I took the Aaron Chang picture we had in our bedroom and hung it in her bedroom right in front of her. It's a beautiful scene of the beach and palm trees with the rays of a sunset. When she woke for a few moments I showed her that she was at the beach, she smiled and said she was so happy.
My husband lost his father to mesothelioma 17 years ago tomorrow. I asked him how do you got over the pain. He said you never get over it, you listen to music different, the sky looks different, you react to things in life differently, everything changes. He's so right. I miss my Mom terribly. I turned 40 on the 22nd, my son 20 on the 23rd. Our bdays just won't be the same anymore.
I just wanted to thank everyone here for all your support, kind words and advise during this time.
I pray for each and everyone you and your families.
God Bless,
Laurie
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jpann39 Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 2791 |
Sep 25, 2008 02:57 pm
jpann39 wrote:
Laurie Im sorry for your loss...yes it is hard to get over...I lost my dad in 1989 and I still miss him daily... Hugs sweetie...again, Im so sorry Jule 'Life may not be the party we hoped for...but while we're here we might as well dance!!!!"
Dx 11/4/2006, IDC, 2cm, Stage II, Grade 1, 0/9 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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maryannecb Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 2381 |
Sep 25, 2008 03:06 pm
maryannecb wrote:
Such a beautiful account. Your Mom gave you much strength. Fists up!
Dx 9/20/2005, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIa, Grade 2, 2/14 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+ |
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irishdreama… Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 805 |
Sep 25, 2008 04:12 pm
irishdreama wrote:
So sorry for your loss-I've lost both my parents to cancers. Your husband put it beautifully. It's pain you never completely get over, but you do learn to live with it. Be strong! Chemo:4 A/C, 4 taxotere, Bilateral mastectomy, Radiation: 32 tx
Dx 12/22/2006, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIIb, Grade 3, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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lizws Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 2198 |
Sep 25, 2008 05:04 pm
lizws wrote:
Laurie, I'm so sorry for your loss. My grandmother passed away on my mother's birthday. One of the nurses told me that my grandmother felt my mom could take care of herself and she was okay with leaving her alone. What a beautiful thing you did for your mom. I'm glad she saw the beach. Blessings to you and your family, Liz Go through the day with hope and a smile..........
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kerry_lamb Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 393 |
Sep 25, 2008 06:05 pm
kerry_lamb wrote:
Oh Laurie, what a great 'steal away' for your Mum. Much love to you all. XX Kerry Go hard or go home :)
Dx 2/15/2008, IDC, 3cm, Stage I, Grade 1, 2/8 nodes, ER+, HER2- |
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sbmolee Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 606 |
Sep 25, 2008 06:30 pm
sbmolee wrote:
I am so sorry you lost you mom. Glad you were able to take her to the beach via the picture. I am sure you will treasure that picture forever. Live life to the fullest - it is not a spectator sport.
Dx 3/27/2008, DCIS, 2cm, Stage Ia, Grade 3, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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kisersassy Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 107 |
Sep 25, 2008 10:58 pm
kisersassy wrote:
I just read your story and instead of moving my grandma to florida my husband and i moved to WV to help her. I am sorry to hear about your mom, and if it isnt too personal where at in WV did she live? Just wonder if maybe they even went to the same cancer center here in Beckley, I will keep you and your family in my prayers Rhonda Rhonda
Dx 9/2007, IDC, <1cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, 0/7 nodes, ER-, HER2+ |
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sandeefeet Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 57 |
Sep 26, 2008 08:28 am
sandeefeet wrote:
Thank you all for your kindness!!! Rhonda, my Mom lived in S. Charleston. She moved there from here in FL to be near my Grandmother. My Grandmother is now a 20 year BC survivor now at the young age of 84. I feel so bad for her speaking with her on the phone. She misses my Mom terribly. |
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dhettish Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 492 |
Sep 26, 2008 08:38 am
dhettish wrote:
Dear Lauri, I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I am glad you were there for her and she was able to fly away with a smile on her face. Take care of yourself and know that we are still here for you. I will keep you in my prayers. Debbie Debbie...Chemo's a bitch and then you live
Dx 8/6/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage II, Grade 3, 1/23 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- |
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kisersassy Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 107 |
Sep 26, 2008 10:00 am
kisersassy wrote:
charleston is only about 50 minutes to the north of me. We just moved back to WV in July. We were living in Lee County in Fort Myers, FL before then. I do wish you and your family the best. Rhonda Rhonda
Dx 9/2007, IDC, <1cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, 0/7 nodes, ER-, HER2+ |
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LuAnnH Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 6814 |
Sep 26, 2008 03:48 pm
LuAnnH wrote:
Lauri, I am so sorry to hear your mom has passed, but she is in a better place now where there is no pain. No suffering from cancer. You sound like a wonderful daughter and her start shines brighter thanks to you. LuAnn -- www.luannsblog.typepad.com
Dx 7/2/2006, IDC, 2cm, Stage IV, 0/ nodes, mets, ER+/PR+, HER2+ |
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KLynn Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 1091 |
Sep 26, 2008 08:58 pm
KLynn wrote:
Laurie, I am so very sorrry for the loss of your mother, just remember see will always be watching over you, it's a mothers way...I lost my mother just over 2 years ago to b/c, and have been fighting this ugly disease now for 8 yrs, I wish I could tell you it gets easier but it really doesn't. the best way to get by is to just remember all the wonderful times you had together..A certain smell or a certain song will trigger a happy memory, just take the time to let yourself grieve..Praying for you and your family. Hugs KLynn |
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wishiwere Joined: Dec 2007 Posts: 3066 |
Sep 27, 2008 11:05 am
wishiwere wrote:
We lost my dad to lung cancer dec 31st, 1988. I admit, I still talk to him, although not as often. His favorite season was christmas time and he fought hard to make it through Christmas so we didn't have that memory at christmas in years to come. I have to say, b/c it was his favorite, I now look at christmas and more often, the first snow fall with fondness of the memories he created for us through those times! I call mom at the first snow fall, b/c I know she too remembers him at those time little times that he was so fond of. One day, down the road, I hope you can remember your birthdays and your mothers passing with the memories of times when she was here and made them special. Her passing could have been more sad if you'd not had the time to say goodbye. I will always remember that, a short time after my fathers' death, my best friend growing up lost her father to a sudden heart attack. No goodbyes, no I love you's. Sudden death. Her parents still lived a couple doors up and I remember, being so thankful that we had the last 5 years with dad to say our goodbyes and talk about the important things. She never had that time. What I'm saying is to try when you can, to rememeber the good memories from when she was here with you all. The birthdays and just ordinary days. It will one day, take over the sadness and fill your heart again with love. So sorry she's gone ahead of you all, but you will again be joined with her! I believe that! wishiwere~ Primary was IDC w/DCIS 1.4 cm, ER/PR+ & HER2-
Dx 9/21/2007, ILC, 1cm, Stage Ib, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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badboob67 Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 2812 |
Sep 27, 2008 02:01 pm
badboob67 wrote:
Laurie, I am so sorry! There just aren't words enough to convey what I am feeling for you. My love and prayers to you and your family that you are able to move through the grief to find yourself in a place full of happy memories of your mom and few tears of sorrow. (((HUGS))) When you're down to nothing, GOD is up to something! http://bb67.wikispaces.com/
Dx 2/15/2006, IDC, 5cm, Stage IV, Grade 2, 24/27 nodes, mets, ER+/PR-, HER2- |
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Dejaboo Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 1136 |
Sep 27, 2008 02:08 pm
Dejaboo wrote:
Laurie, Im so sorry to hear about your Mom. It is wonderful she was at home with all of you & that she 'got to go to the Beach at the very end' That is something special you did for her. I lost my Mom 17 years ago. Your husband said it very well...I had never thought of it like that. My thoughts & Prayers are with you & your family. Pam Dx 3/7/2008,DCIS, IDC-1.2mm, Stage I, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+, Lump/SNB-4/1/08, Bilat 5/22/08
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