Topic: Accepting the Inevitable?

Dec 29, 2008 11:45 AM Mykidsmom wrote:

Stephanie - I am also saying a prayer and sending a hug to you and your children. I know there is nothing I can say to ease your worries, but know that I care. Here's an internet hug coming your way my dear. - Jean

Dec 29, 2008 01:24 PM hollyann wrote:

Stephanie, I just want to take the time to thank you......You have been and still are an inspiration to me......I say a prayer for all BC sisters and their families for strength for all of us....My own mother passed away from bc when I was 8 and I still remember her hugs and kisses and laughter......Your children will remember also.....A mother's love is something none of us forget........Sending gentle cyber hugs your way, Stephanie.......

Dec 30, 2008 04:38 PM Fitztwins wrote:

Honey, I believe in G*d and I believe in the life after. I think that we will be able to 'be around' for our kids, though they may not see us.

It breaks my heart to think of my babies with out me. So I don't. I just don't most of the time.

I read this wonderful book, We are their Heaven and Don't kiss them Goodbye, by Allison DuBois (from medium fame). She is religious too. Please read these books. It may put your mind at rest.

I sometimes am not afraid about dying but afraid for those who I leave behind. But I know that I have given them a lot in life to survive and my boys will be okay as yours will. They will survive and remember us with love and fondness. What more could we ask for?

You hang in there. I know that some days seem dark. But you have the light of the Lord in your life. Let him carry you now.

xo

Janis

Dec 30, 2008 08:03 PM sjack827 wrote:

Just wanted to say how sorry I am that you are going through all of this.

Jan 4, 2009 08:26 PM slonedeb wrote:

steph you are breaking my heart you if anyone will be in heaven with our lord jesus i dont know how long i have left either but your kids will be in my prayers everday as you will step please dont give up keeep fighting the fight sister we love you and we need you here with us    ride out your storms love deb from ky

Jan 4, 2009 08:53 PM YATCOMW wrote:

If there is anyone that will be up there with God it will be you.  You have been his loyal soldier and never have you left his side. You have provided so much strength to all of us here.

I lost my father right after graduation from college. I will tell you I have felt him with me.  I have felt him more during this breast cancer fight. Without a doubt I believe you will be beside them as they grow.  They will feel your presence too.

Jacqueline

Jan 12, 2009 01:31 PM nobleanna007 wrote:

Steph,

    I don't usually post on this subject, but you truly broke my heart you have always seemed so strong and your values are remarkable, you have helped alot of us here. You are a very special person and your recent 2 posts have made me cry. I so know how hard it is to stay positive and I get very upset sometimes when I am having a bad day and need to just cry or vent and people just don't get it!!!! I am told I must stay positive all the time. Well you know what I don't although I am not at your stage I am stageIII but I do have lymphnode involvement so in my heart of heart I know eventually I probably wil get something else and move up. I go for my scans in a week or so and I am so scared! First ones I have had since completing all my TX. I was told my percentage for recurrence is at 30 or so%. Thats not good odds. But I have done all that I can do and just hope and pray that all is okay year after year. How do we live with that blackcloud hanging over you year after year. I hope this finds you in good spirits and know your truly a inspiration to me and alot of us on the boards!!!

                                                     BIG HUGS-Bridget

Jan 22, 2009 11:17 AM Danielle1 wrote:

Please read this article. A cure for metastatic Breast cancer and colon cancer was found to be 100%. Although the number of patients used was small, I find this to be remarkable. How many more people are we going to let suffer!! I wish I knew how to bring this to light. I suppose at this point all I can do is bring it to the attention of as many people as possible.  

Please read article below. Dr. Nobuto Yamamoto also has articles published in Cancer Immunology and Immunotherapy journal. I was unsure if this information was false and so attempted to look up the articles myself at the University of Michigan Health Science Library, i found them.

 www.lewrockwell.com/sardi/sard...

God Bless

Feb 24, 2009 02:45 PM Roya wrote:

I hope that you don't mind my reading your post.  It made me very sad. I do believe that we should remain as positive as possible......at least for our family's sake.  Somehow, children seem to pick up on these things.  I realize this is not always possible in reality.

Someone on another thread was mentioning that they are making a memory book for their children and I thought that this was was an excellent idea. 

(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

Apr 19, 2009 10:22 PM Debs-husband wrote:

Stephanie,

I know my wife and I share the same feelings you wrote in your post.  We have 4 kids - 13, 12, 10, and just-turned 3.  Every note of support she gets from my 10 year old breaks her heart.  The last one said, "I love you.  I'm always here for you.  I'll be sad when you leave me, but I know you'll be happy with God."

She's been fighting this horrible diesase since August 2005.  It's been a hard year this past year, and she is now in hospice care at home.  A month ago, we thought she only had weeks left, but she is still fighting hard, and she's talking about making it through the summer.

Be strong and keep on fighting.

Apr 21, 2009 08:18 PM dreamwriter wrote:

It is a sad situation.  A test of our strength and resolve.  It is also a time to accept the invitable with grace and love.  Our loved ones will forget the final days and remember trips to the park, ice cream cones,  Long walks and talks.  My years with Girl Guides (Girl Scouts in the US) have given me a network of friends.  Crossing over that was Baseball, a lot of those moms in Guides also were on the executive of the Baseball.  Now all this does is give me two part time jobs with no money, no appreciation, and  parents who were vocally abusive;  I got through with all that when one child outgrew baseball (age 21) and the other had no friends there and didnt want to continue.  It really was a relief for me.

Apr 22, 2009 05:02 AM ElaineD wrote:

Deb's hubby-so sorry to hear your news. I do agree with saint, and feel that our loved ones suffer as much as we, the patients, do. It breaks my heart, as all I have ever wanted for my family was for them to be happy and secure, and I know that I'm the cause of so much worry and stress. We'll do our best to stay strong-it's the least we can do for all of you wonderful husbands, and partners. Love and hugs to you and your delightful family,xx