Topic: Our journey is almost over

I think you've done exactly the right thing, in ensuring your lovely Mum has constant care. I'm so glad that you've had a lot of support form the health team. My heart is sinking for you, knowing what you will have to face in the future-I don't think we are ever "ready" to let go of our darling Mums. Please try not to dwell on what will happen soon, and take as much comfort as you can in your remaining days together.Much love to you both,xx

When my Dad was dying, I asked him if he was afraid. He said only of the pain. We kept him pain-free at the end of his struggle with lung cancer. I do know how you feel as I have lost my Mom as well.

A wise friend who is also a pastor gave me healing words, and I pass them now on to you:

'Her journey's just begun.'

Gentle hugs my friend.

Im so Sorry.

Sending Love & Hugs your way.

Your post makes me think of a Beautiful Song by the early Fleetwood Mac. 

 "the Sunny Side of Heaven"

It is so Peaceful....

Pam

That conversation you had with your sweet mother was a huge gift. Sure we are afraid. I have to believe that there is a heaven. Something.

I was with my Grandma with she passed. It was peaceful.

This is a hard thing to go through, please consider it a privilege to be a part of also.

Prayers for your strength during this difficult time.

I'm so sorry for your pain, but it WILL be your mother's gain.

I pray for peace and comfort for you and your mom........and family.

((((((( Huge hugs for you both))))))))

It must be so hard for you now.

I pray now, that the Lord is with you both, holding on tight.

My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

       You are a dear daughter and will never be sorry for these last days you spend with your mother.  I was there holding my mother's hand and talking to her so she would know I was there when she died....they always say hearing is the last sense to go. .  There were tears streaming down my cheeks, but for myself, not Mama.  She is in a much better place and there is not a day that I don't miss her or wish she was here because of something that happend that I would like to ask her about or discuss with her.  Sometimes now that I am dealing with chemo and side effects myself, hair loss, neuropathy, things she experienced, I feel bad that I did not talk to her more about how she was feeling.  But she was such a stong woman with so much get up and go, that she just kept going and am I sure she was scared and uncomfortable, but just didn't give in to it.  Just remember, your mother is going to a wonderful place and will be free of pain and suffering.  You are with your mother now and that is something you will never regret.  Also I am sure you as I do, will have many wonderful memories or your mother and no one can ever take those away from you.  Stay strong.   Marybe

Daughter---I'm sending you heartfelt hugs and prayers today. May you find peace in the midst of your storm. God bless!!!!!!!!!!!

Daughter -

I'd like to share a little story with you.

I lost my darling mother in March of this year to Parkinson's Disease.  She had lost the ability to swallow, which my father didn't realize because she could neither talk nor write.  He thought she had a cold because he was sick with one himself.  On a Sunday night, she had a heart attack and ended up in the hospital, where they quickly figured out what was going on.  My father contacted me during the day on that Tuesday, saying they were hoping she would be able to swallow again in another day or two.  I was not able to fly out to see her until Saturday morning - at that point she was in palliative care on morphine.  She had not opened her eyes all day but she did squeeze my hand and my daughter's hand and briefly tried to open her eyes.  She died that night just before midnight.  I knew deep down when I saw her that day that she was not going to make it through the night.  We had just gotten home from the hospital when they called to tell Dad she was dying.  He would not allow me or my daughter to go to her bedside - she was unconscious at that point anyway.  I never asked him why he wouldn't let us come - I have my ideas, though.

Anyway, somehow God felt far away to me. My mother suffered horribly for many years, and the idea that she was out of her suffering did not provide as much comfort as I had thought it would.  When I got back home, I called a Christian friend of mine who I ride the bus with every day to get to work.  She said, "I have something for you.  I was reading the new devotional for this month last Tuesday night and God spoke to me and told me to give this to you.  Then, on Wednesday night when I started reading it, the message was extremely urgent and insistent.  So I have it right here in my purse."

Now I had not seen this friend in several weeks so she had no idea what was going on.  I felt reassured that God was really there because of this - I still have that devotional and will never let it go as long as I live.  It is a reminder of God's presence whether I'm really believing or not.

I hope my story helps you somehow.  Perhaps God will manifest his presence to you as well, and very soon, I pray.

My heart is crying, just reading all the touching responses...stories of others' loses. To add my own, my mother died at home but only after she had sent many of us who had gathered there to our own homes to be with our families. I was sad that I couldn't be there when she passed, but it seemed to be what she wanted.

My own belief in Heaven has been strengthened numerous times. Because of that, I have no fear of death. In a sermon, a priest I admire greatly for his theological insights explained his thoughts on Heaven and I have taken them to heart. All our lives, we search for fulfillment in our relationships...in marriages, in friendships, and in families, but the fulfillment we feel in even the best of those will pale in comparison to the fulfillment we will feel when we are in God's presence. 

So, rather than fear death, I am at peace with it, believing that the experience will eclipse even the best and happiest days I have felt here on Earth. Now how can that be bad?

DaughterMom, just writing to let you know you are in my thoughts.

Praying for peace for you and your mom...

How uplifting that sounds jpann

I too lost my mom and there is not a day that goes by that I do not think of her or wish she was here with us.  I feel that she is, in her own way, seeing us and we will see her again too. 

I am so sorry.  Love and prayers to you and your family. 

Lisa :)