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Topic: My little Brother died in my arms of Lung Cancer on May 03, 2009

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  • Posted on: May 7, 2009 12:31 pm
Calgary, AB
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 126
Danie wrote:

Hello to all,

Sorry I haven`t chatted since our conference in Phyladelphia.  I left from there to be with my little brother as his full time caregiver, who had Lung Cancer.  He died on Sunday morning May 3, 2009 in my arms.  This was one of the most difficult things I`ve ever had to do in my life.  He was only 41 years old, and had 3 kids 16 &19 & 21 which he was the legal gardian.  The kids are having a really hard time with it all, but I`m trying to help as much as I can.  I am also arranging the funeral as I didn`t want the kids to bother with this.  The funeral is on Saturday, May 9, 2009 at 10 a.m. in Ste-Thérèse, PQ 10 rue de l`Église. 

I probably will be returning to Alberta sometime next week.

Your positive vibes and prayers would be very much appreciated.

Comfort hugs,

Danie


Dx 6/27/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-

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Danie
Calgary, AB
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 126
May 13, 2009 10:46 pm Danie wrote:

Hello to all,

Thank you so much for your kind words, thoughts and prayers.   I will make sure to share them with my family.  I am still here in Montreal, helping the kids with the testament etc.  The funeral went well, had a beautiful sunny day.  Many tears and emotions were felt.  I gave a speech at church which was very difficult but managed through it.  I am simply exausted at this point.  I will probably be returning home on Monday.  It feels like it`s been an eternity since I left home.  My kids and DH are really missing me and I am missing them as well.  Once again thank you for your support, it is always such comfort to be part of this site.  We really don`t feel alone, as if we always have a friend at our side.

Comfort hugs,

Danie 


Dx 6/27/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
bmdaley
Washington, DC
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 228
May 14, 2009 11:58 pm bmdaley wrote:

Danie, I could tell when I met you in Philly that you have a truly kind and gentle soul. Sorry to hear of your loss. Big hugs. 

Beth -- Dx Stage II/III 1/2004. HER2+, ER+, PR-. Dx Stage IV 11/2007 liver, chest wall, bones.
Danie
Calgary, AB
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 126
May 20, 2009 12:06 pm Danie wrote:

Hello to all,

I finally just got back home.  It is so nice to be back with my family, dogs and friends.  This journey that I just went through was one of the most difficult ones in my life.  I do miss by brother immensely, since we would talked to each other parctically everyday.  He was my confident, support etc., since we both had cancer and understood each other so well.  It is very hard to deal with two siblings having cancer and it is very worrysome on the rest of my sisters and my other brother.  You almost feel guilty having to give them this high risk of cancer.  I'm still dealing with my brother's  kids from a distance.  They are still having a difficult time with it all and I try to support them to the best of my abilities and knowledge.  Now it is time for me to reach for support.  I can now take support from my DH and family, which I have to admit I do need.  

I would like to thank you all for the support you have given me with my journey.  It is great to have the BCO support, as you simply don't feel alone with whatever you have to deal with.  Your warm thoughts,words and prayers, were such a blessing to me.  Thank you!!!

Comfort hugs,

Danie    


Dx 6/27/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
LuAnnH
Cincinnati, OH
Joined: Aug 2006
Posts: 8,741
May 20, 2009 01:34 pm LuAnnH wrote:

Danie, I just found this post, I am so sorry to hear about your brother.  I feel even worse about his children.  You are such an amazing person to be stepping in like you are and doing the arangements.  Please accept my condelences and prayers during this time.

LuAnn -- www.luannsblog.typepad.com
Dx 7/2/2006, IDC, 2cm, Stage IV, 0/ nodes, mets, ER+/PR+, HER2+
lady4law
Los Angeles, CA
Joined: Jun 2007
Posts: 736
May 22, 2009 10:35 pm lady4law wrote:

I am so sorry for your lost Danie. You must have so sort of peace knowing that you were there to help him pass  on to our Lord. You, and your brothers family are in my prayers

Jean - Lumpectomy- 6/27/07, Chemo TC - 7/07, Mast/recon - 9/26/07 Chemo TC - 11/07 - 2 surgeries to correct infections, Exchange 3/5/07. repair surgery 5/2/08, Second exchange surgery with nipples Oct 3rd, New lump biopsied Jan 2009 - B9
neicy
ELK Grove , Ca
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 5
Jun 5, 2009 02:28 am neicy wrote:

Thoughts and prayers for you and your family!!!!

Florence
Dx 6/7/2008, IDC, 4cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, 2/6 nodes, HER2-
jdash
long island, NY
Joined: Sep 2006
Posts: 1,041
Jun 6, 2009 09:48 pm jdash wrote:

hi danie

i am soo sorry for your loss   my husband died in my arms 20 yrs ago .. he was 31 yrs old i feel your pain and am thinking of you and your family  .. please take comfort in that you were there for him till the end,  i always found comfort in that   xoxox

Lean on me when you are not strong- And I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on- For it won't be long till I'm gonna need somebody to lean on... Bill Withers "Lean On Me".
Dx 4/22/2006, IDC, , Stage IIIb, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2-
Momcat1962
Joined: Jun 2009
Posts: 111
Jun 26, 2009 12:54 pm Momcat1962 wrote:

Iam so sorry...My father died in 2004 after being diagnosed with LC. It is a horrible way to die (not that ANY way is a good way)...just heartbreaking..my thoughts and prayers for you and for his sweet children...
Danie
Calgary, AB
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 126
Jun 28, 2009 12:41 am Danie wrote:

HiMomcat1962 - I am so sorry to hear about your father.  I can feel the Love and how much you still miss him.  My thought and prayers are with you as well.  Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts.  I am still having a hard time with my brother's passing.  I miss him so much.  I talk to his kids practically every day, show them compation and show them that their father will always be remembered.  As you mentioned LC is a horrible way to go and it was very difficult to witness his journey.  This is an experience I wish on no one.

Comfort hugs,

Danie


Dx 6/27/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-

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