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Aug 10, 2012 03:17 PM StayStrong101 wrote:
Dear Beloved and Strong members,
I feel as though I need some honest advice on what to expect, I am really unsure :(.Sorry that it is so long but please read I will give you some background.
I am 19years old, My mother is 56years old, she was diagnosed with Breast Cancer in May 2010 of the left breast, they couldn't tell her a stage (and I'm still not sure why), with her they did things a little different. They said they were going to try and shrink the tumor as much as possible before removing it. They did 12 weeks of chemotherapy (not sure which one they only used the word most aggressive every time we were there), she then did 6 weeks of radiation, with the time in between and the wait on surgery they operated and successfully removed the whole tumor through a Full Mastectomy including removal of lymph nodes from under the left arm in Mid December 2010. They then did tests and confirmed they had got the tumor, this was suppose to be the day where everything would get better and go back to normal, not the case, the doctor added the bad news on Christmas Eve may I add, the cancer had spread to her bones. The doctor now classified the cancer as Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer.He said her expectancy is 12months to 36months. She has been on Zometa once a month through a port they have placed in her chest, they say this will not help with the cancer but will reduce breakages and pain. Now it is 20months later and she has been well up until now, working, eating, sleeping. The family have been supportive and positive. However, last month when she went for her Zometa they said they are worried about her weight loss (8Kg in a month) she says its from eating well and going to the gym, she weighs 65kg, from there for the past two weeks she has been having sharp pain in her right hand side near the rib cage at the back (very bad, she won't ever mention pain unless it's absolutely terrible) she has been crying it's so bad, she has days where she doesn't feel like eating, she physically can't hide the pain its obvious she is hurting and it's getting worse, she gets very frazzled, she is very tired and lethargic and says she doesn't feel right, she also has these fits of laughter out of nowhere (I'm happy if she is just being happy but this is very random and worries me). But, she won't go to the hospital, she says there is nothing they can do anyway and she doesn't want people prodding anymore, she wants to be at home. She has a CT scan at the end of the month as she does every three months, I'm worried this has something to do with her liver ( I really hope not but the doctor warned us about this).
My questions are:
Does this sound like her liver?
If it does what would that mean?
Is her downward progression alarming as it is happening so quick?
Any other advise would be great, thank-you in advance.
Sorry for the long passage, I needed to vent I will worry about this all month and I can't worry to her she says I am her rock (she is divorced)so she needs me to be strong, It is so sad this happens to people with no reason why, I pray for each and every person going through this battle, so strong and couragious.
P.s.I am not intending to be negative I hope this has a positive outcome but the worry isstrong. I send her positive rainbows everyday.
My heart goes out to you, Love and respect. Rainbows of strength to all