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gsg Joined: Mar 2006 Posts: 2818 |
Nov 25, 2006 07:38 am
gsg wrote:
hi, xxx123. so sorry people are making you feel uncomfortable. some people just don't take the hint (or don't care to). i think dear abby always said to respond with "why do you want to know?" when people pry too much, but in the case of breast cancer, i guess the nosy person could say "out of concern," so it may not work here. I think what you said was good. hopefully, the next person won't be as rude and will back off. everybody is different and i'm real open about my breast cancer, so i haven't felt a need for a good comeback. maybe some other girls here who are also private will respond with a better suggestion. hugs to you-- gsg |
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gsg Joined: Mar 2006 Posts: 2818 |
Nov 25, 2006 07:46 am gsg wrote: also, you might want to start this thread in the "help me get through treatment" or "just diagnosed" section and you'll probably get more responses. |
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xxx123 Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 7 |
Nov 25, 2006 01:24 pm
xxx123 wrote:
Thanks, gsg! I realized after I had posted in the wrong forum two seconds after I did it! I may try posting in the other forum and then again, maybe I should forget it. Never told stories about my labor and childbirth either! I'd just rather talk about other things - like origami or knitting! gentle xxxxxx's, xxx123 |
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PteSinge Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 253 |
Apr 30, 2007 11:24 pm
PteSinge wrote:
you know, just say "to be honest i'm really not comfortable talking about it." or "it's really personal right now so i'd rather talk about other things." if you try these things and they STILL pry, then just say "i said i don't want to talk abot it. now you're making me comfortable/being rude." when being polite doesn't work and people are being rude to you, you no longer have to worry about being 'polite' to them. sometimes people just don't get it otherwise. ok i see now that this point is rather old, but i wrote this already so will post it! |
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badboob67 Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 2290 |
May 2, 2007 10:25 am
badboob67 wrote:
Wow, I just ran into this problem Monday when I was in the waiting room for radiation. They were running very late and several people were there waiting. I sat in the only available seat next to an older lady who immediately jumped at the chance to have a new member in her audience. I usually pick up a magazine to read and have found that's usually "insulation" against chatters. First, she asked me if I was there for treatment (of course--this particular waiting room is ONLY for RADS patients). She then proceeds to tell me that I need to get a gown and change. I had to explain that I don't need one because they are working on my hip. She asked many more questions that I answered before I could stop myself. At least 5 people heard her questions and my answers. I told her MORE than I've told one of my best friends!!! I think the fact that she was my elder and I've been conditioned to respect my elders made it hard for me to find a way to gracefully decline to answer. It was very difficult for me to know this whole waiting room full of people know I had a MAST and extensive bone mets and was there for a second round of RADS to the mets. Then, the dreaded question:"Are the treatments working?" Well, obviously SOMETHING isn't working if I'm there for RADS...I just told her that everything seems to be under control for now. UGH. Looking back on it, I decided she is one of those cheerleading, networking kind of people that talks WAY too much when she's nervous. Fortunately, I haven't seen any of these people since then and am hoping I don't before this round of RADS is up. |
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