I'm 21, and my mom is 55, she's recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. From what I've heard is all she needs is surgery on her breast but no chemo, or radiation. I haven't been told what type of cancer it is, other than, I think my dad said its non invasive. But I'm still worried, about this, I don't know what to think. I'm worried about lossing my mother, before I'm 25 or earlier. My Mom's mother died at the age of 62 from breast cancer, that spread to her bones, now I'm afraid of lossing my mom now. I still remember how my grandma looked and I even remembered her voice, the day before she died, as I was with my mom, as we were visiting her with jello, as she wanted it. I miss her. I was 7 when my grandma died.
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FitChik Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 4227 |
May 5, 2008 12:39 pm
FitChik wrote:
I'm so sorry, One person, that you have to have this worry, but let me assure you that treatment for breast cancer these days is much better and more effective than it was even 14 years ago. Also, from even the little that you already know, it sounds like your Mom caught it very early so it is highly likely that she'll be absolutely fine. A great number of the women here have had invasive breast cancer of one type or another, aggressive treatments and are doing fine today, many without any evidence of disease whatsoever. So please be assured that you won't be losing your Mom anytime soon at all. If you're still worried, though, maybe you can find someone to talk to about it just to relieve your own anxiety. Otherwise, I'd say just be supportive and let your mother know that you're there for her. ~Marin I can't change the wind, but I can adjust my sails!
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One_person Joined: May 2008 Posts: 5 |
May 5, 2008 03:02 pm
One_person wrote:
is it normal to feel lost and confused when you first find out about it? For some reason I feel like that. |
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smithlme Joined: Dec 2007 Posts: 414 |
May 5, 2008 03:13 pm
smithlme wrote:
One person, What a special young lady you are. My oldest daughter was 20 when I was first diagnosed, last year. She's married and has been one of my biggest supporters. Yes, she's terrified, scared and searches for ways to make ME feel better. I told/tell her that the best way to make me feel better is to live her life to its fullest and not to let my Cancer stop her dreams. She's in college to become a teacher. She calls me several times a week, visits often, went to chemo with me a few times, and this year is walking in the Komen 3 Day in my honor. Don't be afraid to share your feelings with your mom. My kids (I have 4) and I have shared many tears, but it's the laughter and wonderful memories that keep us going. You'll find many ways to show your love to your mom. Take care of yourself, as the stress can take it's toll on you. Eat well, rest and share your feelings here when you need to... Linda Dx 3/31/08, DCIS, ER+/PR- "In the book of life, the answers aren't in the back" - Charlie Brown
Dx 3/28/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage II, Grade 3, 0/9 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- |
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lvtwoqlt Joined: May 2007 Posts: 2390 |
May 5, 2008 04:19 pm
lvtwoqlt wrote:
One person, I was 17 when my aunt was dx with ovarian cancer at age 38, her family moved in with my family after her dx. I was 40 when my mom was dx with Breast cancer at age 60. It is perfectly normal to feel lost and confused when someone you love has this diagnosis. My mom's cancer was invasive and she had to have surgery, chemo and rads. I tried to help her through her journey. I was dx last year with non invasive BC and only needed the surgery (bilat mast). My mom and I have done the local Komen walk since 2001 together and this year will be our 2nd Relay for Life together. We walk the survivors lap together and the caregivers lap together. This has brought us closer together. Please talk to your mom about your feelings. Has anyone suggested genetic counseling for your mom and yourself? It appears that your family would be a good candidate for the testing. Sheila We are like tea bags, we don't know how strong we are until we were thrown into hot water. Eleanore Roosevelt
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One_person Joined: May 2008 Posts: 5 |
May 5, 2008 04:46 pm
One_person wrote:
Thanks for the comments. And I'm starting to think that genetic counesling might be good with breast cancer, as it seems to be quite hereditary. Its just, I can not believe it, at all. I've cried like at least 10 times today. The waves of wanting to cry come and go. |
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whoopsiedoo… Joined: Sep 2005 Posts: 1951 |
May 5, 2008 05:08 pm
whoopsiedoodles wrote:
Oh honey.....you will cry, and you will laugh. Both are ok. Please let yourself do both. The women who have responded already have said it perfectly. It's scary, but it will be ok. Don't think you have to be a superhero to get your mom through this. She's probably going to have her moments too. Cancer took my breasts, but it did NOT take my spirit!
Dx 9/29/2005, IDC, 6cm+, Stage II, Grade 3, 0/7 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- |
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One_person Joined: May 2008 Posts: 5 |
May 5, 2008 05:20 pm
One_person wrote:
I will let everyone know how we both are doing. My mom lives in Wisconsin while I live in Florida, but I will be calling every day, to see how everything is going. And I'm gonna try to visit up there, next week, to be there for when my mom has her surgery. |
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One_person Joined: May 2008 Posts: 5 |
May 5, 2008 05:33 pm
One_person wrote:
Thanks everyone for helping me, with this, I found this out last night, when my grandma sent an email saying something about my mom needing breast surgery, and then when I called my worse fears were relized about the surgery. I guess the shock right now, is making me a little more worried, and never having to worry about anything like this before, than I probley should be, as it is at the early stage cancer. |
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heidib Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 205 |
May 5, 2008 06:46 pm
heidib wrote:
Hi One Person, thankfully your mother found it "non-invasive"- that is huge. Find out more info. as it will make you feel better. Good luck to you. Best, Heidi Ain't No Such Thing as a Free Lunch :)
Dx 2/14/2008, IDC, 1cm, Stage II, Grade 2, 2/12 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ |
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determinedm… Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 239 |
May 6, 2008 05:45 pm
determinedmom wrote:
If my mom was diagnosed and not me, I'm not sure which would be worst. It sounds like your mother may have ductal carcinoma in situ (DCIS) which is an early stage of cancer and very treatable. Usually either lumpectomy w/ radiation or mastectomy takes care of it. Occasionally, chemo is recommended. Regardless of the type of cancer, there is treatment out there. Please try and get the final path report and come back. This place will give you so much encouragement, support and knowledge to get you both through it.
Dx 5/26/2007, DCIS, , Stage 0, 0/4 nodes, ER-/PR- |
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GinnyO Joined: May 2008 Posts: 2 |
May 12, 2008 02:03 pm
GinnyO wrote:
My daughter was my lifeline while I went through diagnosis and treatment. Like you, she lived too far away to visit often. She was here for my surgery and the week after. Then she called me every day, asking how I was and keeping me up with what was happening in her life. It helped me so much! I have a feeling it helped her,also. It is especially hard when you are far apart in miles. You will likely feel better when you see your mom. Then you can deal with how she is really doing and not with what you imagine. Imagination can make things seem far worse than they are. She is so fortunate to have such a wonderful, caring daughter as you! This board will be here for you. Let us know how your mom and you are doing. You both are in my prayers. |
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