Topic: Cant take it anymore

waiting for results is the toughest part, i try to distract myself by,

excersising, watch a movie, work, go out with friends, talk to people, go to a museum.

i wish i had taken some ativan when i was waiting it would have helped, maybe you can get some from your doctor.

Hi roxy,

Sending you a hug.  Yesterday I was feeling overwhelmed with worries about the new-found lumps in my neck, and then my precious cat died.  I was miserable and sat on the couch most of the day, crying.

Today I had things I had to do, picking up my daughter, making a salad for the teachers, doing errands, and I feel better.  I still have the mysterious lumps in my neck that I'm anxious about, but I'm trying not to think about them.

The worry is maddening.  Know that we are all there with you.

sally 

Exercise helps me a lot. Sometimes just taking a walk.

Get a kitten.  Best medicine in the world.  Someone to play with... chase you,, and love you. I have a husband but the cat is more fun.

I hate waiting too.  Thats why I wait forever before going to the doctor.  The minute they suggest a test I freeze like a deer in headlights.  Its the worse but better to know than worry forever about it.

good luck

Actively re-play what the doctor said, that it most likely was not cancer and hear yourself say it mindfully for several minutes. Then "stop think": say, I've been there, I've thought about it, now it is on to something else. By giving yourself some time to think about it, you might not always have to go there.

At least this is what I've tried to do. I learned it as an anxiety reducing technique years ago. Some days it works better than other. Some days I fail miserably.

Ice cream sounds good too: butter pecan, yum, my favorite. Don't worry about cutting yourself some slack on the food Roxy. You've been way beyond good on your diet to date from what I can tell. And your girls will like it too.

Tender

More advice:

1. Stay away from the internet. Except us, of course.

2. if you find yourself getting shallow breathing, run up and down the stairs. Seriously, it helps. I did this for weeks after my diagnosis, just a quick up and down.

3. If you believe in God, picture him holding you in his loving arms. Draw strength from that comforting image,

4. I agree that ever ytime you feel an anxious image coming on, replace it with the one of your doctor saying he doesn't think it is anything. We all know, they truly don't say that if they are concerned.

5. Ativan.

Roxy:

  Waiting is the worst... I agree with everyone else. Doesn't it tick you off that you have to wait at all? I too have to wait and if I dwell on it , I go crazy. So I just keep very busy and I have learned to put it out of my mind. Amazingly.

I am sorry about your kitty. Pets are so like our kids. Its awful when we lose them. HUGS to you.

Wendy A

Roxy, I feel for you girl....there should be a law against making cancer patients wait for test results!!! How I settle myself down...  I usually like to be very bitchy and yell at my dh alot, call my sister on the phone and complain to her, eat poorly, well I guess that about sums it up! I do try to keep busy though! I wish it could be easier....the advice these women are giving sounds pretty resourceful, I will have to keep it in mind when the next scan comes around. Sending hugs!!!

Roxy,

How are you holding up?  Did you eat your ice cream?

Hoping you're okay.

Jelly

Hi Roxy42,

I'm glad your hanging in there. I am suuure there must be something medicinal about ice cream.. It sure does the trick for me.

Am 40 with 2 young kids and waiting on a bone scan, so am there with you. I hope you get your results tomorrow and they are just peachy. Will be thinking of you.

Take good care of you. hug.

shiny

Roxy,

You hang in there!  Sometimes the best thing we can do is just to be here for you.  You obviously have a lot on your plate, and my heart goes out to you. 

B9/B9/B9/B9/B9/B9/B9/B9/B9/B9/B9

Roxy,

sorry I got your name wrong! btw: Well done for all the walking. My bone pain has had me walking alot less, but I know that I should actualy be doing more. Thanks for the inspiration.

ps: I simply adore my 2, and am sure your love for your 2 girls keeps you strong and positive. Bask in the pleasure of motherhood. I sure feel very very blessed with my 2. take care of you. hope your day was peachy in the end. (give yourself some slack re food!)

shiny 

waiting is terrible ! i hate it!  i am waiting for the results of an mri they took of my head due to pain i was having in my jaw

i take ativan- xanax- ambien to sleep and any other legal drug that will make me relax

i also bug the doctor to get me the result asap! sometimes it works if you do it in a nice way

my doc promised to call me at 7am   its now 9:15 and no call yet so there goes that theory

i go shopping even if i dont have alot of money at the time

i love to find something that is great and "cheap"  its like a drug to me  i look in marshalls (best for home stuff! )  tjmax, annie sez, the loft,loehmanns   search the sale racks   it keeps my mind busy

Awesome!!!! That is great news..Normal is  a sweet word. Celebrate. I have been reading about your MRI inthe bitch..moan..thread and was thinking about you.