Topic: Does my sister still have hope?
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- Posted on: May 9, 2008 04:27 pm
Hi, all,
Yesterday I call my sister's onc in China and knew the details about my sister's breast cancer.
She has a tumor under her arm, now she already has her breast removed, including lymph. while in the checking, it is found that there are 35/51 lymph nodes having cancel cells. and also there is a tumor between her shoulder and neck, her onc told me her cancel is Stage IIIB. I am so sad for the news because she is so young and so healthy. Based on your experience, do you think my sister can survive from this disaster? can she still recover from this? she is now taking Chemo and being taken very good of care in hospital. She is Her2-, ER-/PR+30%.
Thank you all.
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lemonpie Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 93 |
May 9, 2008 04:55 pm
lemonpie wrote:
Yes, I believe there is always hope.... Never give up.... what a good and caring brother you are. It sounds like she is in very good hands... Dx 3/21/2007, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIc, Grade 2, 3/18 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- |
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joykeeperor… Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 155 |
May 9, 2008 05:12 pm
joykeeperorg wrote:
Of course she can recover from this! Tell her to keep up the good spirits and never stop fighting you will see many women an men on here in various stages that are doing very well! Give our love to her from bc.org! Work at your own Salvations with fear and trembling Phil. 2:12 an Please visit www.joykeepers.org!
Dx 8/2/2007, 5cm, Stage IIIa, 4/34 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- |
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carol1949 Joined: May 2008 Posts: 33 |
May 9, 2008 05:12 pm
carol1949 wrote:
Yes, there is always HOPE! Pray, with for the Lord's will and healing in your sister's body. Medicine has made leaps and bounds in the last even "5" years. So, even people with stage 4 cancer are being healed. Not always, but it "does" happen. I just learned today that my tumor shrunk from 10 cm to 7 cm in one chemo treatment! There is hope!! Keep the faith. Another fighter! |
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Andraw_Tang… Joined: May 2008 Posts: 15 |
May 9, 2008 05:15 pm
Andraw_Tang wrote:
Thanks, Lemonpie. I am her little sister. Right now my sister and my mom still don't know the truth, the onc only tell her she is in stage II, my mom is taking care of her food with full hope. we dare not tell them. No matter what we will not give up, but I want to know how serious she is? the onc told me that she has only 30% chance to live 3~5, is it true? |
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Andraw_Tang… Joined: May 2008 Posts: 15 |
May 9, 2008 05:20 pm
Andraw_Tang wrote:
carol, nice to hear your good news, best wishes to you. |
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wishiwere Joined: Dec 2007 Posts: 1517 |
May 9, 2008 07:06 pm
wishiwere wrote:
As many will tell you on these boards andrew, there are many women in stage lV living well with treatments. I'm not sure why they aren't being honest with her as for her staging, perhaps she didn't want to know? Seems odd really to me. I believe a person has a right to understand everything about their cancer, but perhaps she doesn't? wishiwere
Dx 9/21/2007, ILC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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SpunkyGirl Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 333 |
May 9, 2008 10:07 pm
SpunkyGirl wrote:
Andraw, Don't get hung up on the statistics. Just make sure your sister is in good hands and has a kind and caring medical team looking out for her. I'm sorry you had to come here, but I wish your sister and your family the best of luck. She's lucky to have you! Bobbie Every day is a blessing...
Dx 7/23/2006, IDC, <1cm, Stage IIIa, Grade 2, 8/20 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ |
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Andraw_Tang… Joined: May 2008 Posts: 15 |
May 9, 2008 10:42 pm
Andraw_Tang wrote:
Thank you all. We didn't let her know the truth is because we worry about that she cannot stand it, because it all happens within one week, but gradully we will tell her and let her face the truth. I will pass your caring to her. god bless you all. |
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yogipeters0… Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 262 |
May 10, 2008 02:06 am
yogipeters05 wrote:
Andraw, Please let your sister know the truth so that she can have a say in her treatment. She will probably surprise you with her strength. Her situation is NOT hopeless. There are many women on these boards who are living great lives and doing fine even in the late stages of this disease. I for one am a Stage III with 13/15 positive nodes and I don't feel hopeless. As long as we're here there's always hope. Please pass this along to your sister we would love to hear from her. You are a very loving and caring sister and she is blessed to have you. YOGI
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yogipeters0… Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 262 |
May 10, 2008 02:06 am
yogipeters05 wrote:
Andraw, Please let your sister know the truth so that she can have a say in her treatment. She will probably surprise you with her strength. Her situation is NOT hopeless. There are many women on these boards who are living great lives and doing fine even in the late stages of this disease. I for one am a Stage III with 13/15 positive nodes and I don't feel hopeless. As long as we're here there's always hope. Please pass this along to your sister we would love to hear from her. You are a very loving and caring sister and she is blessed to have you. YOGI
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Naomi Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 246 |
May 10, 2008 03:18 pm
Naomi wrote:
Andraw, I'm so sorry about your sister, but like these other women have said, she needs to know what her situation is and with time she will be able to deal with it better. You will have to give her that time. When I found out, I didn't even want to talk to anyone for weeks. Then with time, I started to talk and found that it did make me feel better. Everyone is different, she will come to you when she is ready, but don't stop asking if there is anything that you can do for her. It helps when she has alot of people around her with positive attitudes. Sounds like her onc. isn't one of them. Sorry about that. That is how my onc is too. But the truth of the matter is know one knows for certain how long they have after being dx with cancer. My aunt has lived 18 years at stage four and she is still here. I will pray for her and your family. She is lucky to have a caring sister like you! |
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jdash Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 898 |
May 10, 2008 03:28 pm
jdash wrote:
now thats what i like to hear ! stage 1V 18 yrs later there is always hope- dont listen to the statistics i was stage 3b and here i am 2 yrs later- no sign of cancer good luck to your sister tell her about her site this is an amazing place filled with incredible women life is not measured by the breaths we take but the moments that take our breath away....
Dx 4/22/2006, IDC, , Stage IIIb, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2- |
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Andraw_Tang… Joined: May 2008 Posts: 15 |
May 10, 2008 03:58 pm
Andraw_Tang wrote:
Thanks all. I will persuade my brother-in-law, he worries that my sister's spirit will collaps when she gets the truth, it is not good for her treatment if she fell hopeless. I will first let my mom know it, she is with my sister. she will be a strong support for my sister. |
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footprintsa… Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 184 |
May 10, 2008 07:08 pm
footprintsangel wrote:
Andraw, I am very glad to know she has a brother that cares, You tell her she is in my prayers and to be strong in her fight. I was alone threw my 4 surgries and high chemo and I going threw more fighting but I can win. I also wrote down things I was grateful for each day. Take care, Your in my prays too! Hugs, Debbie |
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Alaina13 Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 425 |
May 10, 2008 11:09 pm
Alaina13 wrote:
Andraw, I'm really sorry about your sister. If you've read much on these boards you'll know that there are plenty of us diagnosed at stage III that are doing fine. The initial dx is a shock but I found once I had a treatment plan in place I could deal with it. I am 2 1/2 years from dx and am doing fine. Treatments continue to improve so there is definitely hope. God Bless! Dx 11/25/2005, ILC, , Stage IIIc, 14/17 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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Bugs Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 965 |
May 11, 2008 07:41 am
Bugs wrote:
Andraw, You are a kind sister. She does need to know so she can get her "fighting spirit" ready for her treatment. It will be a tough year...but she can do it with her loving family's help. I'm 2 plus years out from diagnosis...and YES there is life after cancer. Print all these comments out, translate them if needed and tell her she has quite a few new sisters cheering her on. Take care, Bugs The life I touch for good or ill will touch another life, and that in turn another, until who knows where the trembling stops or in what far place my touch will be felt. Frederick Buechnerr
Dx 2/1/2006, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIa, Grade 3, 3/16 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- |
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HeatherBLoc… Joined: Dec 2007 Posts: 828 |
May 11, 2008 10:39 am, edited May 11, 2008 11:17 AM
by HeatherBLocklear
HeatherBLocklear wrote:
No matter what we will not give up, but I want to know how serious she is? the onc told me that she has only 30% chance to live 3~5, is it true? From what I've been told, this is NOT true. As the women above say, each person is an individual case, and nothing can be deduced from statistics alone. However, I've been told that the cure rate for stage III breast cancer is 60% or higher. Please don't give up, and do everything you can to help your sister be strong so she can fight this battle and emerge victorious on the other side. Is there any way to get her to this country for treatment? Hugs, Annie |
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CrystalCat Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 294 |
May 11, 2008 10:58 am
CrystalCat wrote:
Is there hope for your sister? OH YES! Many, many Stage III girls are alive and well years after diagnosis. Even women with Stage IV can live productively for many years. Statistics are outdated. Throw them out and disregard them. There is so much more that can be done for BC now than there was even five years ago. So give your sister all the positive, encouraging news you can and tell her to keep her hopes up! There are two means of refuge from the miseries of life: music and cats. - Albert Schweitzer
Dx 2/1/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIb, Grade 2, 3/25 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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Andraw_Tang… Joined: May 2008 Posts: 15 |
May 11, 2008 02:42 pm
Andraw_Tang wrote:
I am very touched by all of you for your carings and kindness. she has a treatment with very advanced technique in China, my mom and my brother are with her. the most important thing now is let her face the fact and accept it and fight it. |
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lemonpie Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 93 |
May 13, 2008 09:27 am
lemonpie wrote:
Andraw..... Hope things are OK... please check in and let us know how things are going... Dx 3/21/2007, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IIIc, Grade 2, 3/18 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- |
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waterlily Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 301 |
May 17, 2008 07:07 pm
waterlily wrote:
Andraw- I am a stage IV sister with extensive mets to my bones and abdomen. I'm still going strong and just got married to my true love last year. We went to Italy for our honeymoon last summer and just got back from a wonderful trip to Vienna, Austria. My energy may not be what it used to be, but by all means I haven't given up on life. I have two beautiful grandaughters and another on the way. They bring be such happiness and joy! Knowing the seriouness of my cancer just makes me appreciate every day more. Don't under estimate your sister's strength. Very good things can come from even the most difficult circumstances. waterlily
Dx 6/2005, ILC, 2cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, 13/18 nodes, mets, ER+/PR-, HER2- |
