Hi,

I'm new to this so please bare with me. I'm 31yrs old and I have Metastatic Breast Cancer. I was diagnosed at 25 with 3rd stage B.C. I have been through a radical masectomy,reconstruction, 3 chemos, a hip replacement, and radiation therapy over and over. The cancer had spread to my bones.  Now my oncologist wants to start me on another chemo.  I'm worried and scared that I'm going to die from this regardless of what I do. I losing my faith and my mind someone please respond I need to talk to someone who has been there or someone who is still there.

Melody C.

Phila, PA

pinkpeddals@yahoo.com  

Phila,

I hear you and so many others will too. You've found the strength before and you will again.
I have written on my wall in my studio: " He who has a why to live for can bear any how" by Nietzshe.

I've been at it for 9 years, chemo 3 times, loads of rads and hormone treatment. There are so many of us, and we love and support each other.

Know that you are not alone.

Please take care,

X River

Melody, Sending you a big cyber hug.  I'm a nine year survivor of stage III, & 3 years with mets.  I was 39, my younger child 2 yrs. old, so I had a lot to fight for, and I bet you do too.  A favorite onc. nurse told me early on you are not a statistic!!   I do not mean to force my faith on you, but have a verse from Romans 8:37.  "For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come . . . will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord."  Best to you, Dee

Allow me to also quote Nietzshe and say, "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."  We are some very strong folks here. There are local organizations that will match you with a mentor who has been through a similar experience if that is what you prefer.  However, we are always here in cyberspace to offer love, prayers, and support.

I just wanted to offer strength and hope and love to you. The ladies here are very strong and have a ton to give to you. Believe me, they will help. Prayer helps too.

Wendy A

Hi Melody,

You've come to the right place.  There are lots of women here who are living well with bone mets.  What kind of chemo will you be doing?  You'll get lots of tips from others who've done that particular chemo. 

You can do this!  Please come back here for support.

Bernice

Oh Melody-  I understand tired!  I was was diagnosed stage 3C in Dec of 2005.  My mets to my bones and lymph nodes were found in Feb.  I am 2 month into my new chemo.  I understand tired......

There is every reason to hope that you will be here to live a long productive life.  Hang in there.  Post here a lot.  The ladies here are my lifeline.

Hugs

Deb C

Hi Melody,

I'm on your shoes. But stay positive and strong. Even I know the road is very difficult. My sister is 34 year old she was diagnosed with stage IV with mets in liver in dec 07. Her ct scan results came clean. You can do it to! I'll keep you in my taughts and prayers.

 God is good! This is my sister favorite sentence now!

Melody, you just have to try and look at things a little differently.  We are all dying from the minute we are born.  How and when is what no one knows.  I am trying to take the good with my disease.  I know some day this will more than likely kill me but hopefully it is a long ways down the road.  I am able to prepare myself the best I can, let my family know I love them, get affairs in order, all that kind of stuff.  Two days ago a family in our school lost their teenage daughter.  She had mono and the parents went out to dinner.  While they were out her spleen exploded and she was able to grab the phone and dial 911.  When she was doing that she fell over with the pain and split her head on a table.  She died on the way to the hospital.  I know we worry about it all the time with this disease but here is this young girl that didn't even get to finish high school. 

Life seems so cruel sometimes but you have to find the good in things to manage your way through it.  You will find lots of people here who are supportive and caring.  You can get as much or little help as you would like through your journey with this disease.  I hope things start to get better for you soon.  Just an FYI I was dx with bc in 1998, was cancer free until 7/06 when I was dx with bone mets.  To this day I am still bone mets only.  Bone mets do not normally kill you but they will cause alot of pain.

Melody this whole thing is really terrible, I was diagnoised when I turned 30  2 small children and my whole life was turned upside down. I think when you are young you think these things can't happen to you. I have been on treatment ever since. I am turning 38 this year and I know how you feel sometimes not wanting to carry on I went through such depression, buth there are stages you go through but they do pass, I have also started a new chemo and they told me to be careful because I could break a bone and my imune system will be very low. I know the road ahead seems very scary but you can do it and we don't know what the future holds , but we know who holds the future. I thinks we all feel like we are loosing our faith but remember He will never leave us or forsake us. I hold on to Footprints and just know that God is carrying you through this difficult time. 

 Both my onc and pcp told me the same thing at the beginning of treatment. Bone mets are rarely fatal, but they can make you hurt. They didn't lie.  I was dx stage 4 3/2005 w/ mets to the thoracic spine (3-6) and a compression fracture at t5. I have been on 8 different chemos/hormonals w/ rads to the thoracic spine and am looking at rads to the hip.  The alternative was a hip replacement.  The mets have spread to every where but lower arms and legs, but they are very small and not to painful most of the time. It is hard not to get discouraged and feel like why am I b othering with all this.  Whats the point.  The point is you have family who loves you.  Another spring is here the flowering shrubs and trees are in bloom.  Look around,  the world is beautiful right now.  Each day well lived makes tomorrow a vision of hope.  As long as we have hope, we can do anything.

Helen

All of us understand what its like to get tired.   I was dx this last year at 28 yrs old.  I have a young toddler and I constantly worry about her.  I dont come in this chat or bulliten room to often.  There are times  I do my best just to worry about everything but bone mets.

Its hard but keep your faith...there getting closer

I can totally relate. I was dx'ed at 31 with 2a breast cancer and at 33 I was dxed with bone mets.  Sometimes, I feel that why me, while my friends are out partying im exhausted, taking chemo and always have some medical thing to do. But the one thing I always remind myself is im still here to complain and feel sorry for myself.

I have been on chemo and other drugs since last year for the bone mets.  I was on abraxene, advastin, zometa and zoladex (to stop period).  The doctor dropped the abraxene after 8 months so now I am stable and on maintenence drugs.

It is ok to feel sorry for yourself and be tired.  You are allowed to have these days believe me, we always dont' have to be superwomen.

I have bad days all the time but what I try to remember is Im alive and every month I am stable they are working on the cure so hopefully soon enough we will not have to deal with this.

If you need to talk or need any information, please feel free to PM me. I totally understand what you are going through. 

{{Melody}} just wanted to send a hug and say I'm sorry you are going through this sweetie!  Post and let us know how you are doing, K?  Keeping you in prayers and good thoughts.

Melody,

This fight ain't easy but you will find out that even if you feel down once in a while - this will actually make you the strongest person you can be.

Keep yourself busy. Live each day to the fullest and hope that the next day will be a better one.

Hugs and prayers,

Maria