Hi,
My mother passed away a little over a month ago from BC. I am 22 and have a younger sister that is 11. We are in the Southern New Hampshire area. I wanted to know where I can get coping info. We are trucking along ignore the fact and I don't think it is healthy. A group or even an online site to help us would be great. Thanks.
Jamie
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sueps Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 1771 |
Feb 12, 2008 05:14 pm, edited Feb 12, 2008 05:14 PM
by sueps
sueps wrote:
(((Jamie))) I lost my mum to ovarian cancer when I was 17 .... back then in the late 80's we didnt have the internet. I myself.... threw myself into work....and pushed all the hurt away deep inside...you are right it is not healthy ...as 20 years on I havent properly grieved ...and now have a lot of unresolved issues... There must be plenty of sites out there..it is finding the one that suits you...talking always help... I hope one of the kindest bunch of people I know can come across some adresses for you... In the meantime give each other plenty of support...it must be very hard for you supportung yourself and an 11 year old.... Do you have other family members you can talk too also xxx FOLLOWING THE YELLOW BRICKROAD WITH MY WONDERFUL SISTERS!
Dx 9/10/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage I, Grade 3, 0/14 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- |
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sueps Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 1771 |
Feb 12, 2008 05:18 pm
sueps wrote:
Jamie ...over hear in the UK we have bereavement helplines...maybe you have them over there..you could give them a call regarding groups....the local hospice will be able to guide you to a group... xxxx I am so sorry you have had to face such sadness...I can feel the pain like it was yesterday...but you will get stronger ...and if you grieve properly ...you and your sister will be much healthier in years to come xxx FOLLOWING THE YELLOW BRICKROAD WITH MY WONDERFUL SISTERS!
Dx 9/10/2007, IDC, 2cm, Stage I, Grade 3, 0/14 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- |
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hollyann Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 240 |
Feb 12, 2008 07:05 pm, edited Feb 12, 2008 07:06 PM
by hollyann
hollyann wrote:
Jamie,I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I lost my mom when I was 8 yrs old to BC too. In !972 there were no treatments for BC except radical surgery and cobalt treatments. My advice is to please call 211. This is a nationwide help line. They can help you find berievement counselors fro you and your sister in your area. I hope this will help you. Best of luck to you and your little sister. Hugs, Lucy
Dx 1/15/2007, IDC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 1, 0/6 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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snowyday Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 1280 |
Feb 12, 2008 07:17 pm
snowyday wrote:
I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you and your sister you must really miss your mother, I'm sad for you. I've heard there is a cancer support group for young people but don't have the name of it. I should have looked up the site for younger people affected by cancer as it might help my sons one day, I will try and find it and pm it to you.I wish you all the best and hope you find some measure of peace. Stay on this site if you can't find one for younger people we are good here with emotional support.pearl49 PN
Dx 5/18/2007, IDC, 3cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, / nodes, mets, ER-/PR-, HER2- |
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AnnNYC Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1978 |
Feb 12, 2008 07:23 pm
AnnNYC wrote:
Hi Jamie, I'm so sorry for you and your sister. I don't have personal experience with this website, but I found it recommended for kids whose parents have cancer: They also have various US locations: http://www.kidskonnected.org/locations/index.php Thinking of you, Ann Dx 3/9/2007, IDC, <1cm, Stage I, Grade 2, 0/5 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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iodine Joined: Oct 2002 Posts: 7229 |
Feb 13, 2008 01:45 am
iodine wrote:
You are one smart young woman. You are correct, it is a great deal more healthy to embrace your grief and begin to grieve than to put it on the back burner. I know, I tried to do that. I chose counseling and it was a huge help for me. If you have a Gilda's Club, or you can call the 800# at Y-Me, site on the net, they may have resorces for you and your sister. A local hospital social worker will also know of local resources available to you two. May I also suggest, please speak with your sister's school counselor and ask them to be aware and available to your sister so she can have someone at school to talk to if she wants. The school may have other resources available as well. Also, the public health dept may know of grief groups for families along with a local pastor or two. I am very sorry for the loss of your mother. I remember, even as a 40+ year old how very hard it was for me to say goodbye to my Mom. Dotti---BE NOT AFRAID, Pope John Paul
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Nancy101 Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 50 |
Feb 14, 2008 08:09 pm
Nancy101 wrote:
Oh Jamie, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother to bc when I was 23. She died in 1981 and at that time, there was nothing out there for support. Please contact the American Cancer Society (www.cancer.org). They have really good support programs for families coping with loss. You and your family are in my prayers. God Bless... NancyW Dx 2/13/2006, IDC, 1cm, Stage II, Grade 2, 2/14 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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tooyoungtoh… Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 317 |
Feb 14, 2008 09:19 pm
tooyoungtohavebc wrote:
Hi Jamie, So sorry to hear about your mom. I lost my mom when I was 10 to cancer so I know what you must be going through. You might try the New Hampshire Breast Cancer Coalition. They seem to have some support information and might be able to point you in the right direction: http://www.nhbcc.org/contact.htm or at 603.659.3482. Again so sorry... Dx 2005, IDC, 6cm+, Stage IV, Grade 3, 1/7 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ |
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Becky16 Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 1 |
Feb 15, 2008 03:39 pm
Becky16 wrote:
Hi, I'm sorry about the loss of your mom...no matter what your age, it's never easy. I'm especially interested in how your little sister is doing. My daughter was 10 when I was diagnosed...now, two years later she still seems to be in denial about the fact that I ever had cancer. I've tried getting her to talk...but she finds more peace in being able to write about it. Maybe that will help your sister. Does she have a friend she confides in? Perhaps finding someone close to her age who has experienced the same loss will help. I think you know how important it is to let your little sister see you grieve. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. |
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CaliforniaK… Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 375 |
Feb 18, 2008 09:31 pm
CaliforniaKate wrote:
Jamie, the local hospital in my area has a Grief Support Group. You might start by contacting some hospitals in your area, and ask if they offer one. Also, call the oncologist she had. They may know of a group. My heart goes out to you and your sister. Kate |
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