Topic: can't stop crying today
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- Posted on: May 15, 2008 05:13 pm
Dx 2007, Paget's, Stage 0, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER-/PR-
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Sierra Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 4630 |
May 15, 2008 05:32 pm, edited May 15, 2008 05:34 PM
by Sierra
Sierra wrote:
The time is NOW!
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mthomp2020 Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 282 |
May 15, 2008 05:36 pm
mthomp2020 wrote:
Hey woman - that's what this board is here for! Just dealing with the insurance company and the hospital alone would exhaust me, let alone still recovering from surgery. Top that off with worrying about losing your job... crap - I'd probably go postal! So don't feel bad, we all understand. It's great having this board to vent on, since we all know what you're going through. It's one hell of a lot of stuff to deal with all at one time. You have every right to feel overwhelmed right now. Cyber hugs to you Dx 5/21/2007, IDC, Stage IV, Grade 3, mets, ER-/PR-, HER2+ |
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chris1228 Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 31 |
May 15, 2008 08:50 pm
chris1228 wrote:
Thank you ladies. My daughter bought me a Mr. Goodbar chocolate bar (big one) and I ate it all!! I see the doctor tommorrow and want to see what she says about returning to work. I'm hoping the drain will come out too. Hope to feel better tommorrow! Christy
Dx 2007, Paget's, Stage 0, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER-/PR- |
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gabbygail Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 108 |
May 15, 2008 11:03 pm
gabbygail wrote:
Chris- My last surgery was August 27, 2007. I'm still tired!!! My PS told me that our bodies can take up to 2 years to adjust to what was done during surgery. Last Thursday isn't long for you to recoup! I would think your boss would be willing to work with you on some type of modified schedule if necessary rather than risk losing a valued employee. Have you thought about mentioning that? On the hospital/insurance thing, I went - in person - and found a person who had some common sense and sat down and talked with them. I expressed a willingness to pay but told them they would have to work with me on the amount. I pay $50 a month and will probably do so the rest of my life. When I refinanced my home in 2003 my banker told me they don't even pay any attention to collection reports from hospital accounts. That they're so commonplace they're insignificant. I don't know if that attitude is widespread among bankers, but I do know that all the hospitals around where I live are notorious for jumping the gun on collections so nobody places much merit on it. Best wishes to you for your continued healing. God Bless, Abby "Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess for he who promised is faithful." Hebrews 10:23
Dx 6/10/2004, ILC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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chris1228 Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 31 |
May 16, 2008 09:43 am
chris1228 wrote:
Thank you so much Abby for the info, I feel a little better this AM, the Ins. coodinator at the hospital just called. She took me out of the "collections" system and told me to get w/ my Dr. to see if he would "recode". I'm putting in another call to his office. You're right, none of us need this kind of stress. After seeing my surgeon today I'm calling my employer and I'll go from there. A modified schedule is really what I'll need! It was good reading the scripture you have at the bottom. Last night when I went to bed I thought of Ps. 23, have'nt thought of that for awhile, I slept better!  Christy
Dx 2007, Paget's, Stage 0, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER-/PR- |
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sam408 Joined: Mar 2007 Posts: 1077 |
May 16, 2008 03:37 pm
sam408 wrote:
Christy -- Go ahead and cry girl! You deserve to let it out once in a while. . .I've had a bury my head, pillow pounding sessions myself. This is a nasty disease and treatment can just suck the life out of you while the rest of the world goes on it's merry way. . .so I think we're entitled to a few down days. Your last post sounds like you're feeling better, glad to hear it. Abby has some very good points and I'm glad to hear banks don't pay too much attention to hospital collections as I've got two against me right now. Aetna is not paying for my daily rad treatments and I have to prove the "medical necessity" of them. . .like I had them because they were fun rather than necessary. . .LOL! One thing that someone pointed out to me on another thread was that they were warned by a lawyer to not make any payments on a bill that you feel the insurance company should pay. They were told that even a very small payment can be construed as you accepting responsibility for the bill. Pretty good advice I thought. Anyway, hope it all gets worked out for you and your boss is willing to give you a break on your work schedule. I was working last year when I first started treatment and retired mid-year. It's been a blessing to not have the stress of work on top of the stress of treatment (and insurance junk). Hang in there. Big hugs Sheila . . .Never regret something that made you smile.
Dx 2/16/2007, DCIS, <1cm, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ |
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gabbygail Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 108 |
May 16, 2008 04:16 pm
gabbygail wrote:
Christy- Glad to hear you sounding better today. Psalm 23 is a good one - I love Psalm 121 and Psalm 73 as well. One of the most profound things I've ever read in my quiet time said "you can be assured that no circumstance ever reaches you without God's full approval." While it is sometimes tough to accept that God allows circumstances we wouldn't choose for ourselves, it is comforting to know that He is ALWAYS in control and that He promises us he'll work ALL THINGS for good if we continue to love Him. My faith is what carried me through my diagnosis and everything that has followed. It seems weird to say, but looking back, I actually believe the whole experience benefited me immeasureably because my intimacy and worship with the Lord increased so much. I STAND on His promises that "Nothing is impossible with God" Luke 1:37 that "Whatever you ask for in prayer, believe you have received it and it will be yours" Mark 11:24 that if I "Delight myself in the Lord he will give me the desires of my heart" Psalm 37:4. I didn't have that kind of faith pre-cancer!! And now, He truly has given me the peace that He promised in Philippians 4:6-7; and it IS a peace that transcends all understanding. God is so good!! God Bless, Abby "Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess for he who promised is faithful." Hebrews 10:23
Dx 6/10/2004, ILC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- |
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chris1228 Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 31 |
May 16, 2008 09:30 pm
chris1228 wrote:
Hey Sheila, thanks for the big hugs & the info on what the lawyer advised, I'll remember that. I wonder who it is in these Ins. companies that decides what gets paid and what does'nt. At least I'm out of collections for now. Abby, thanks for the "Word"! I was thinking today of how "shaken" I've felt which reminded me of He. 12:27. I had to look it up and read again. God is here even when i feel like "a whole lotta shakens been goin on!" Saw my surgeon today, my drain was pulled..yay!!!!! And she advised I stay home another week and gave me a note. I hold all of you so dear and am so glad to have found this site. Christy
Dx 2007, Paget's, Stage 0, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER-/PR- |
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eeanthony7 Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1 |
May 18, 2008 05:36 am
eeanthony7 wrote:
I'm a newbie to this site and I was led to respond to your email about crying: Cry if you must but dry your eyes and allow God to strengthen you from the inside out. I've cried... it's a human trait that we can't get rid of no matter how hard we try. One day I was in my car and I was trying to go to my bank but I started crying and crying and crying! I thought I was having a breakdown because I could not stop. I was stressed about my unemployment running out and I had no interviews lined up and my bills were piling up and I was getting so many side effects from the chemo. I was on the CO indigent health care program. I knew that when I did get a job that I would not be covered because I had a pre-existing illness (stage IIIA, rt breast). Well, after a few more months of pain, suffering, and not knowing, I was blessed with a job that pays almost twice what I was making before I was laid off, AND they ARE covering my cancer (and any other pre-existing conditions I have (I also have fibroid tumors), AND I will be going on short-term disability (they will pay 80% of my salary after the first week off), AND my boss and co-workers are so supportive, AND my friends and their friends supported me financially until my first paycheck came in (this past Thursday)!!!! I know if the Lord blessed me like that, He will surely bless you. And I agree with the other ladies... cry now but your joy will come; although it may get harder before it gets better. Ask the Lord Jesus to bless you indeed and increase your territory (read the story of Jabez); ask for it often and tell others that you asked God for that and He will take care of all your worries and He will love you and hold your hand and will walk with you the rest of your days here on earth and will welcome you with open arms into eternity. This body is just clay, dirt, weak, and inferior... it starts breaking down the minute we are born. Give it back to the earth (figuratively), but keep your spirit strong. Having said all that, I'm headed for a modified radical mastectomy on 5/28... then radiation, reconstructive surgery, and genetic testing. I'm going to do fine because I'm receiving strength from all of you and I have a great support system. And I do still cry, sometimes. Don't give up sweetie, no matter how hard it gets! Jesus loves you! EE |
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chris1228 Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 31 |
May 19, 2008 07:32 pm
chris1228 wrote:
EE, What you wrote is so beautiful and I hope it will be a blessing to others as well. I got tears reading and re-reading it. There are so many wonderful people on this site and we all need each other for support. I will read the story of Jabez again, I have the "little" book, "The Prayer of Jabez". I will keep you in my prayers & thoughts for your upcoming surgery. Update on my MRI dilema: the doctor's office called me and a corrected code is being sent in to my Ins. Co. Yay! Hope it goes thru this time. Hugs to all. Christy
Dx 2007, Paget's, Stage 0, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER-/PR- |