Topic: Lingerie on a first date?

Oh right......It's this Saturday that is a first date!

Sorry girl, your hard to keep up with!! 

He shaves???

Sounds like you have it all planned out. Jeez, I'm all excited and I'm not even going!

: ) Traci

Marin the whole outfit sounds soooo hot.

I am there in spirit girl...

Hey Marin,

Can you wear the lacy VS under the comfy sweater and Lucky jeans?  I like to have the surprise of the inside way different from the outside!  Kind've like a real treat when they check underneath!!

Oh lordy ... poor Mr. Architect!!  Have fun this weekend with both your dates!

Bren

Okay, bear with me here - I love the sound of both the black silk and the pastel little bits. What I want to know is what is it you are going to have under that soft angora and those snug jeans just in case that invigorating walk in his private woods leads an overwhelming desire to uhm, 'experience nature'? Or if your walk by the lake includes a secluded spot where he may have stashed a rolled up fleece spread, a bottle of wine, etc. 

Those black silkies still packed back in the car may be relegated to the 4th date. 

Looking forward to hearing how it all uhm, comes together!

Lisa

Oh Lisa...."coming together" indeed  ! I certainly hope so!!!!!

~Marin

Wait.......o.k. I thought CountryBoy (hereinafter referred to as CB) was wierd, mean, pshyco..whatever?? Did I miss some messages??

What happened last night? Are you even home yet??

Traci

ps So sad about CTG.... : (

traci- when I got home from designing the ring, thats when I first heard about CTG.  It was hard, b/c I was like, while I was doing something so happy, she was leaving us, but I felt eerily calm.

She thought my boyfriend was a great guy, and I know she would have been so excited for me.  It was the first time since she's been so weak these last few weeks, that I wasn't overcome with tears and emotion, I just felt this sense of calm, b/c I knew she wasn't hurting anymore.

It is so sad, but what she always said, was that she didn't want people to be sad for her, she wanted them to celebrate her.  I believe by living fully, that is the greatest way to honor her.

Scott (her husband) was such a driving force in her happiness.  And it's time that you got yourself out there, and find the man that's going to bring that kind of joy to you.

When I read your posts, I can hear how nice, and cool you are.  I can tell you have an amazing personality, and from your avatar you've got eyes that any man could get lost in.

I truly believe this is gonna be your year. 

Wondering how was Sunday, the weather here is absolutely freezing so just thinking about a walk in the woods, would be enought to make me happy.  My weekend was fund with my sister and I'm so glad she came, she's giving up the lease on her vehicle so this was her last chance to come and have a PJ night.  And we had a riot and it will work out because she has gone home and my friend is popping in today, so it all worked out (for a change). It's a miracle. Pearl49 Marin CG sounds so nice and I think the world of him for his patience it sort of shows you that he is understanding and willing to take risks and has confidence in himself, I like that.  But how was AG and the woods, and ..... and on.Pearl49

OK, my girlfriends, I just got home awhile ago and am sore and exhausted and very happily so! I was in bed (and in the shower and on the bathroom vanity and, well, you get the picture!) with awesome Architect Guy since yesterday afternoon and got maybe 2 hours of sleep. And I thought that "old guys" were only good for one, possibly two, go-arounds a night! NOT!!!! But let me go back, first, to Saturday evening with the Widower.

OK, he was absolutely the cutest guy....a tad shy and all sorts of chivalrous and very warm and calm. He seemed to be so well put together, in fact, that I started to think he had been widowed quite a long time ago. No.....7 months actually! His wife had been diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer (wasn't even a smoker) with brain mets in 2006 and lived only 9 months, dying last June. She apparently was amazing and he and his 2 sons (13 and 16 yrs old) have been getting very involved in fund-raising for research and in advocacy work since the beginning. So the date went extremely well and, in fact, we closed the restaurant. The owner even came over and said "You guys are having such a good time, aren't you?" It was true. We had alot to talk about and share. But that was it. I was his very first date since his wife died and they were married for 19 years! So he's kind of ready to get out and check out the scene, but nowhere near ready for anything romantic or intimate. We've agreed to stay in touch, though, and I offered to help him navigate the online dating waters. Very, very nice guy.

And now for....drum roll, please!.....the hot sleepover! Okay....left for AG's house on Sunday afternoon and got there early enough for a walk through his neighborhood along the lake (he lives in a gorgeous golf community...I even had to get a pass at the gate). We got back and set about preparing the rest of th meal he'd fixed....Mulligatawny Soup and Rice Pilaf. I brought the Naan and a spicy nut snack to munch on while we cooked. It was totally one of the best meals I've ever eaten...perfectly seasoned, etc. I had also made a marble cheesecake, but we were too full to eat that and, besides, I didn't wanted a bulge-y, full stomach for...ahem....later on (I KNOW you know what I mean!). Then we sat in front of the fireplace on a big, stuffed laether couch, under a blanket and listened to blues-like music (Bob Dylan, Billie Holiday) and talking and making out for quite awhile! Then the clock struck midnight and before I fainted from sheer physical longing, we finally ascended the stairs for bed. And I gotta tell y'all, as many times as I do maiden voyages (so to speak ), it never gets much easier. I was feeling pretty nervous and awkward and even a little shy. But I forged ahead and put on my jammies (in the bathroom of course) while he set up the CDs and lit candles, etc. And the rest is for your own fantasy and imagination. Suffice it to say that I do believe I have never really been made love to before last night. This man did amazing things to me in an exquisitely slow, liquid, passionate way that I'd never imagined possible. My body even twisted in odd ways that just seemed to naturally flow from our desires. At one point, he even said that he had no idea where he ended and I began. I really almost fainted then! We went through one after another slow dance like that that always ended with some relaese and pleasure, but a distinct desire for more. We rested here & there and even slept some and woke up for an encore over & over. As I said...it was amazing! In the morning, we took a shower and washed one another, had another go at it on the floor and then over the bathroom vanity, and then he made us pancakes. We then went down to a shop he has for one of his hobbies....rebuilding race cars/hot rods. It was very masculine and impressive.

Now I'm home. I think I'll see him again, ya know?

~Marin

WOO-HOO for Marin!  :)

No new exciting 'fun' for me lately but I have to say that plentyoffish is quite the site. Lots of guys there and they're really into IMing, which I'm not. I bet I'll get a date or two but it almost seems too good to be true that there are that many men out there just waiting to meet me. Now all I have to do is find the time to date them!  :)

Until then we can all live vicariously through Marin!  :)

 wow ! marin  that guy sounds amazing  hold onto him!!!!

you have to keep us tuned in !  this is better than my favorite soap opera that i dont have time to watch anymore since i am at work everyday  !  I FEEL KIND OF BORING  : ) better spice up my act so i keep my guy interested..........

I meant to say...Marin, so some of your self confidence would rub off on me.

Ya know, Traci, I gotta tell ya....I certainly was not born with this self-confidence. Come to think of it, though, we are all born with perfect love for ourselves and complete self-confidence and it's our experiences and the negative messages we are barraged with by our significant others, as well as society, that damages us. So I see my cancer event as bringing the most unique opportunity for us to re-discover that self-love through the process of gentle, nurturing self-care. It has given us the chance to become the absolute focus of our own lives, to learn and, hopefully, appreciate our unique needs and even capabilities & strengths. Unfortunately, many of us (I include myself for sure) try to do it all, as woman tend to, and dilute the proper focus on just ourselves in order to please everyone. Then, once treatment is over, we wonder why we're so "post-traumatic" and depressed. Also, we come back to a society that values superficial evidence of individual worth and we don't think we measure up. Boobless, scarred, bald and misshaped, we face the memories of our former selves as well as the unscathed "beautiful people" around us and find ourselves just not measuring up. And we're supposed to have self-confidence? Uh-uh, doesn't happen....at least not without some severe hard work at staying focused on what makes US happy and what makes us totally awesome, despite all environmental messages to dissuade us.

Get a great wig or a great makeover or go tanning, join a gym, pamper your skin, learn to meditate, seek kind counseling, get a few meaningful or funky tattoos or piercings (my fave), some over-the-top sexy lingerie that hides what we choose to hide and highlights what we value.....whatever it takes to gradually lift ourselves out from under the garbage that society feeds us and wants us to digest and, surely, we'll once again feel like a BABE, a prize that ANY MAN should be honored to hook-up with.

This is not easy work, because the odds are against us, but after cancer we do indeed have the strength to say "F*CK YOU!" to society and set about making the rest of our lives full of all of the good things that we absolutely deserve! So, let's get started, y'all!!!

 ~Marin

You guys are soooooo funny! "the face for short hair" I forgot that one!!!

I don't think I need to worry about it anymore. At least not with those friends. I doubt anyone will ever bring up my hair again!!!

 : )

Bugs, I don't have chemo hair really. I mean, it seems healthy and it's pretty even all over. I was real low maintenence before, wash and wear (curly) and I cut it myself. Never got it colored until chemo either. I don't even know a stylist plus.....there is no way I'm cutting any!!!

Marin, Do you tan in a tanning booth????

Y'all are just too sweet and I think hangin' out with you is a great idea!!

Hugs, Traci