Topic: My Fellow Deletees and The Cyberbullied Sisters

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Posted on: Mar 3, 2011 01:56PM

Posted on: Mar 3, 2011 01:56PM

1Athena1 wrote:

My donation is a pittance as donations go, but I hope it's a start.

Melissa, our moderator, informs us that making much needed reforms to BCOs automatic moderation features will cost the usual - time and money. Can't help with the time, but maybe a brass farthing here and there will come in handy.

May this fund help to create a place of safety and transparency for women and men who come here because of a grave illness and want to laugh and cry together about any topic under the sun in addition to cancer. May it be used to set up any such programming language, technology and personnel as might be needed to ensure that rules are clear, well understood and respected, that tolerance is shown and that self-policing features like the "Report this Post" buttom are employed wisely and not in the furtherance of abuse, bigotry, hatred and cyberbullying.

This forum belongs to all of us and it is what we make of it. Hopefully, we can help Melissa and others to create a system that is lightfooted but stealthy and simple but effective.

Anyone diagnosed with cancer should learn to have a healthy disrespect for statistics. Statistics are maths. It's the science which still eludes us. Dx 3/2009, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, 3/8 nodes, mets, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Mar 3, 2011 02:14PM otter wrote:

Hear, hear!  (What Athena said.)

Dx 2008, IDC, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Mar 3, 2011 02:26PM - edited Mar 5, 2011 07:57AM by Medigal

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Mar 3, 2011 02:39PM otter wrote:

Medigal, I decided to follow Athena's lead and cough up some cash as a pay-it-forward gesture.  She, of all people, has felt the stings of the deleters.  In the post I never made this afternoon, I was going to say those barbs were analogous to the picadillos (or banderillias) in a bullfight.  But, if Athena thinks it's worth the investment and the risk, I'm game.  Nobody else has to follow.

I'll pay-it-forward, yes.  But tomorrow I am also going to pay some back.  One of my May '08 chemo sisters died last month, and her memorial service is tomorrow.  I can't make it to the service; so, in addition to the "Healing Garden" she and her family favored, I plan to toss a few more dollars to BCO.  I never would have met Dana and my other May '08 sisters if it had not been for these discussion boards.

As angry as I get about the other stuff -- the childishness, and the bullying -- I still have a fondness for these discussion boards and this site, because of what I've gained from them over the past 3 years.  I will walk away some day, but not today. 

otter

Dx 2008, IDC, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Mar 3, 2011 02:58PM crazy4carrots wrote:

I'll make another donation too. I'd also like to add that this is about the only site I go to that doesn't have paid adverts. This idea was broached by the Moderators a year or so ago, and I'm afraid most people who responded to the suggestion, responded negatively.
But we need to be realistic, folks. BCO can't rely on the whims of its "members" to throw a little money its way. If we really want this site to continue functioning, and in the very best way possible, it needs to have some steady income.
Don't yell at me if you disagree with me about some discreet ads, please! Just consider what this site means to you, and what it takes to keep it going.
Thanks all!
Linda

Like Otter, I've made many treasured friends here. They know who they are, so consider my donation in their honour!

The demagogue preaches doctrine he knows to be untrue to men he knows to be idiots. Dx 1/10/2008, ILC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 3, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Mar 3, 2011 03:03PM pickle wrote:

Count me in!

So glad that everyone who was deleted is back on line.

Cheers

Beth

Dx
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Mar 3, 2011 03:08PM Wabbit wrote:

I don't suppose there is any way we can start a fund and just hire a geek squad for them for a week or so to get these program changes made? 

Dx 3/2006, IDC, 3cm, Stage II, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Mar 3, 2011 03:14PM Lowrider54 wrote:

1Athena1, my fellow loving the B cups friend....I could not agree more!  And Otter...the friends we have here - I would be lost without these boards - really lost.  No one gets it like my fellow sisters. 

I can be very strong in my opinions too - but generally, I don't get rattled enough to 'Report a Post' but rationally try to work it out. 

I purchase the BCO stuff and will make this a part of my now referred to as 'The Rebel Walk in the Komen 3 Day'. 

Melissa is not the only moderator but she does field pretty much the majority of the PM's.  God Bless her - she sure must get a passle of 'on the rag' type rantings. 

I was not around for the ads - but I would not object to a few discreet and bc appropriate ads - such as external prothestics, mascetomy clothing, hospice care, LE sleeves, wig shops, specialty scarves, port accessories - things we actually use, we are a prime source for that type of marketing and a very 'captive' audience which could mean good money for very little ad space - and for newbies, it would be a great thing and keep it minimal so that the money taken in is just what BCO needs to keep moving forward.  I think we would have to allow a few freebies like where to recycle your external prothesis or LE sleeves or wigs. 

Just my thoughts...LowRider

Smile...it will make people wonder what you are up to...Initial dx 04/99 - CMF; 9/2009 bone mets Arimidex; 6/2010 Faslodex/Xgeva; 8/2011; abdominal wall invaded, ER/PR flipped to TN, Abraxane/Avastin//Xgeva 09/02/2011; 11/2011Xeloda/Avastin/Xgeva. Dx 9/16/2009, Stage IV, 5/25 nodes, mets, ER-/PR-, HER2-
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Mar 3, 2011 04:20PM crazy4carrots wrote:

Great ideas, Lowrider!

Rabbit, on the ball with another good idea, as usual!

Pickle, so GLAD to see you back with us!  We Canucks can't use the receipt for our taxes, but so what!

The demagogue preaches doctrine he knows to be untrue to men he knows to be idiots. Dx 1/10/2008, ILC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 3, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Mar 3, 2011 04:46PM otter wrote:

lindasa, those of us in the U.S. can't use a charitable donation as a tax deduction either, unless we itemize our deductions (on "Schedule A").  There's no point itemizing deductions if the total dollar value is less than the "standard deduction" would be.  (Can you tell I'm still working on our taxes?)

You're right, though -- so what!

otter

Dx 2008, IDC, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Mar 3, 2011 05:04PM Maire67 wrote:

Not bullied but  I left because there is another site that took my posts and used them as their own.     BUT.....I will donate in honor of all the sisters I met here  especially those who are no longer here.  I hope that this site will be here to help others like it helped me. It was the humor and the support that made all the difference in my life.  

Dx 6/2005, ILC, Right, 5cm, Stage IIIB, metastasized to bone, 1/9 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ Hormonal Therapy Aromasin (exemestane), Faslodex (fulvestrant), Femara (letrozole) Surgery Lymph node removal; Mastectomy Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab)

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