Apr 6, 2018 11:55AM Artista964 wrote:

dancingelizabeth, i bet none of them were cbt therapists. Look for ones who list it as type used. Of course you need to talk about what's wrong, that's why you go, but cbt teaches you how to change your thoughts that will in turn lift your mood. It's work on your part. And it takes time. And it's not pleasant until you mster the techniques. But stick to it and life becomes easier to deal with. If you can't change stuff then this is the way to go. Otherwise you remain where you are.

This type of therapy isn't for everyone, it's for those who really want to feel better, who are done being angry at things that they (really) can't change, are sick and tired of being so depressed and anxious all the time. Cbt is the only one that with a lot of work and tears worked for me, and i was at the bottom: suicidal. I tried killing myself. I have no SO or a unconditional fam, and just 1 friend literally. So few are worse off than me. Plus I'm on fixed income and live alone. None of these things have changed. I had to change my thought patterns or be locked up again. Stats are those who have been committed to a psych ward are likely to wind up there again. I was asked by a pt in there what is the # of times I've been in. Huh?

And it's horrible in there, and i was in a nice one. They take everything that you may use to harm yourself or others like cold meds i had on me and my cell phone. There are no power outlets in the rooms. Want to dry your hair, go in the tv room where you can be watched. Mirrors in the bathroom are what you see in prisons. No decor in the rooms, just desk chair and bed. All to prevent people from harming themselves or others. Food is like cafeteria. For me the thought of going back makes me vomit. You don't want to go there. People like me who have been in there can never work for the government jobs. It's on you record that they check.

Apr 6, 2018 07:58PM Lita57 wrote:

meow....just hire a gardener. That's what I had to do.

I love my dh dearly, but he makes gardening promises he doesn't keep. Got tired of the bullshiz and just hired a service that comes once a qtr. They transplanted some bushes for me.

It's well worth the $, and I don't waste energy nagging dh.

L

Apr 7, 2018 08:40AM micmel wrote:

meow ~ I am sorry honey. My kids went through something similar.... effed it up and now are working full time jobs forever!!!!! Foooorrrr eeeeevvvvvveeeeerrrrrr!!!

That is how I pronounce forever also when I speak to them, I’m sure they’d like to punch me but oh well, at this point it wouldn’t even hurt after what I’ve been through ! It's not our fault. Tell them to get their asses up and plant the bush. I would get so frustrated at times I would just go outside and start slowly by myself . When everyone else realizes what's going on, they were tripping over themselves to get outside. If that doesn’t work, try just causally mentioning hiring a garden handy boy. To you're DH. Usually that threatens their manlyhood. Wake them turkeys up. I am going throug the same thing with my kids. It's an adjustment sure.... but for us it's nothing we can change. They most certainly can! I am sorry. ~M~

Apr 7, 2018 10:31PM Egads007 wrote:

Lita - how frustrating!!! I don’t blame you a bit for going back to raise hell....they should take you to lunch for your trouble at least!! My father died of cancer back in 99’ and after my mother did his final tax return (and very careful marked the ‘deceased’ box on the return) the tax people called my Mum and told her they needed my Dad’s signature. After picking herself off the floor she told the lady that my Dad had passed....the lady STILL insisted on a signature (obviously didn’t listen to a word my Mum had said). My Mum didn’t hold back and replied with ‘well guess you’re asking me to dig him up to get your damned precious signature!’ ‘Look at the deceased box checked off you idiot!’ Then she hung up. Never heard another peep out of the tax lady again. Small as it may sound my Mum still has a sense of satisfaction from striking back at ineptitude!

Go give em’ hell!!!

Apr 7, 2018 11:15PM kmajor wrote:

Hey everyone,

Before I lost my hair to chemo it was really long and blonde. I stopped wearing my caps a little over a month ago because I was finally comfortable enough to go without them. My hair is full and it's growing really fast but of course it's still short. So today I saw someone that I haven't seen since before I was diagnosed and I've known him for about 4 years. He says to me "You look like a man with boobs". I said seriously do you think I cut off all my hair for no reason and I informed him that I've been in treatment for cancer. He felt like crap after I told him that. I wasn't even mad but some people just do not think before they speak.