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Forum: Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts —

Meet and support others who are affected by these issues around anxiety, depression & other emotional effects.

Posted on: Jul 16, 2015 12:21PM - edited Aug 2, 2017 01:46AM by sas-schatzi

sas-schatzi wrote:

This thread is meant to be for RANTS and RANTING. Then Rant again. We need a place to simply get rid of the anger. Write it here. Unleash it all. Get it out. This isn't meant for the Stupid comments(great thread). This is for the gut wrenching, tell them off anger.

IMPORTANT: When done ranting don't necessarily stick around. Toxic. Drop the rant and find a better thread.

Only rules: Please, follow them as the Mods will shut it down in a heartbeat( waving Mods)

1. Be careful to not mention docs, nurses, hospitals by name. Defamation and all that tedious legal stuff

2. If it's caused by someone on BCO, just don't mention their name. I think the exception will be if someone is stalking you, blow their anonymity wide open. A stalker doesn't deserve politeness.

3. If you think the rant is about you, let it go, they're no names. Don't take it personal. This is the steam room.

4. If they're is a fight, don't expect the Mods to moderate, it was your choice to come here.

5. After writing a rant, do nothing more, re-read at a future time. Decide if it's important enough for you to cut and paste the rant to whomever caused you the anger. It's a choice. Sometimes it needs to be done, but remember they're can be fall out.

6. ######## pound those keys, SCREAM(caps), J*&R$WSDF&(swear)

7. Religion and politics discussion should go to those topical threads. IF their is something that impacts cancer, it belongs here.

I will revise topic box as needed-sassy

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Oct 10, 2021 04:57PM GoldensRBest wrote:

bcincolorad - you can’t teach bedside manner. If by the time a student in medical school is doing clinical work, the ability to relate to other people is set from years of different interactions. I’ve only met one doc with a horrible bedside manner but I’ve met more than a few with the “I am a god” complex. Neither is good

Dx 6/1990, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIA, 1/20 nodes, ER+/PR+ Dx 7/1999, IDC, Right, <1cm Dx 7/26/2019, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/lungs, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Hormonal Therapy 9/1/2019 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 9/25/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Chemotherapy CMF Surgery Mastectomy Surgery Lumpectomy; Lymph node removal Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Oct 10, 2021 05:16PM bcincolorado wrote:

I have met surgeons with that attitude. When DH had his transplant there were 3 in the department. Each had different personality. One was arrogant and bad bedside manner in my opinion and head of the department. We had the easy going one fortunately when his came and he had a nice reassuring manner that he was going take care of him and it was something he did all al all the time and he would not do it if he could not survive the surgery. The other did not really communicate much with their patients and went to work and and we were glad we did not have that one either.

Dx 8/2009, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/7/2010 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Left Hormonal Therapy 1/15/2010 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Femara (letrozole)
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Oct 10, 2021 05:59PM AliceBastable wrote:

The male doctor who ignored my gynecological issues was actually a very kind man otherwise. He at least stopped by when I had surgery, and apologized.

Endometrial cancer 2010, basal cell multiples, breast cancer 2018, kidney cancer 2018. Boring. Hope it stays that way. Dx 5/2018, ILC, Left, 2cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/10/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Surgery 8/7/2018 Radiation Therapy 10/29/2018 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Oct 11, 2021 09:43AM - edited Oct 11, 2021 09:44AM by ctmbsikia

Alice, do you still see an Ob/Gyn? I haven't been and was wondering if I still have to? Never had any issues there.

I don't really have a rant for today, yet. Spent the weekend at home by myself. It's still an adjustment for me as I think to myself, how long has it been since I spoke out loud? I have one friend that calls every weekend, and shared some text messages with a few others, but that was it. The weather cooperated enough with just slight drizzle so I went ahead and washed curtains and 2 windows in the bedroom. I finally slept in bed last night. I've been on the couch for months it seems. I'm ruining the furniture so I'm slowly transitioning back to the bed. Woke up pain free too so more incentive to just do it. Got a flu shot last week on what would have been our 37th anniversary. That was the one and only medical thing I had this month. Taking a vacation day on Friday, hope to finish windows and fall cleaning then. Weather does not look like it will cooperate to do a yard sale on Saturday, but there's always another weekend for that. I really need to get rid of some stuff and making a few bucks off of it makes sense, but having to go through it all, I'd sooner put it in a pile and light it on fire!

Dx 12/14/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 1/16/2018, LCIS, Right Surgery 1/31/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 4/11/2018 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 6/25/2018 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Oct 11, 2021 10:05AM Jumpship wrote:

Non-cancer rage. Mom’s doc won’t give her a sleeping pill (up and crying for an hour at 3am) or anti-anxieties, when she cries not 4 but 8 hours straight. She has dementia. Doctor thinks behavior is normal (yes) and we adults caring for her should just watch it happen. Throwing up after chemo is also normal but my doc has compassion and gave me a pill. This doc is a jerk. Mom is like this nearly every day. I love her to pieces and hate how she suffers. We’ll time for a nap for me! I can’t live on 3 hours of sleep a night. Which makes me worried about me trying to stay healthy and keep cancer away.

Negative for 16 of 17 gene markers. Positive for NBN-marker of unknown significance. Dx 7/2/2014, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (FISH) Surgery 9/29/2014 Mastectomy: Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Targeted Therapy 11/20/2014 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy 11/20/2014 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel)
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Oct 11, 2021 10:33AM Spookiesmom wrote:

CM I hear ya. I have my critters to talk to. , some days I don’t even get out of my jammies. I get a spurt, go in his room, fill a few trash bags. Either for trash can, or thrift store. I’d love to wave a magic wand and it’s all gone.
First time IDGgrade 3, stage 3. Second time, found lump myself. That made me stage 4. Dx IDC, Stage IIIA, Grade 3
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Oct 11, 2021 11:08AM Sunshine99 wrote:

Just popping in to say that I'm sorry for those who are just going through sh-*/#y times. Insomnia is no fun, pain is no fun, and watching your mom suffer is no fun! My sweet mom used to say that she just wanted to go to sleep and not wake up. I got it. She got her wish on her 85th birthday. It will be 4 years ago this year.

My heart hurts and I hate what my disease is doing to my husband. Sometimes, I think (not really) that I should turn into a nasty person now so that he won't miss me so much later. Couldn't do that to him, but we have joked about it. I'm just sad today.

Carol

Cancer has progressed to my bones. I pray that it never enters my soul. my-sunny-side-up.com Dx 11/2/2007, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIA, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 3/26/2020, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 4/22/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 5/5/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 5/12/2020 External: Bone Targeted Therapy 6/10/2020 Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Oct 11, 2021 12:47PM cm2020 wrote:

My husband (we are in theory separated but have to live in the same house due to finances and health insurance) informed me that the company he works for is laying 35 people off. He finds out Wednesday if he is one of them. He claims he won't be.....but if he is talking, he is lying, so I don't believe him. They are also only giving people a 3 week notice before they are let go. I want to vomit. We are NOT financially stable and this would sink us. Please please pray he isn't laid off.

Dx 3/20/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Dx 4/2/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 4/6/2020 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Hormonal Therapy 4/25/2020 Femara (letrozole) Radiation Therapy 6/10/2020 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Oct 11, 2021 01:51PM Sunshine99 wrote:

Oh, cm, I pray that he is not laid off and that if he is, something better happens for you that keeps you financially safe and sound.

(((hugs)))

Carol

Cancer has progressed to my bones. I pray that it never enters my soul. my-sunny-side-up.com Dx 11/2/2007, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIA, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 3/26/2020, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 4/22/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 5/5/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 5/12/2020 External: Bone Targeted Therapy 6/10/2020 Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Oct 11, 2021 02:04PM AliceBastable wrote:

ctmbsikia, I haven't been to a GYN in years. My old PCP was nagging me about it after my breast and kidney surgeries in 2018. I told her it's the last thing on my mind since there's nothing there, and I get scanned anyway so any abnormality would show up. Then she started going on and on about how cute the current onco GYN guy is, so I went home and sent her a scathing email firing her for her unprofessionalism.

cm2020, sending you positive vibes.

Endometrial cancer 2010, basal cell multiples, breast cancer 2018, kidney cancer 2018. Boring. Hope it stays that way. Dx 5/2018, ILC, Left, 2cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/10/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Surgery 8/7/2018 Radiation Therapy 10/29/2018 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Oct 11, 2021 02:35PM bcincolorado wrote:

jumpship I have a form of early onset dementia called primary progressive aphasia that has happened to me and it affects my sleep as well. My neuro doc suggested OTC melatonin to start with and it does work for me. I get the Nature Made kind which is berry flavored and a gummy and even though it says 2 is a dose I take one and can usually get 8 hours with it and fall asleep in an hour after aferwards. If not I get up at night and wander the halls.

Dx 8/2009, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/7/2010 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Left Hormonal Therapy 1/15/2010 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Femara (letrozole)
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Oct 11, 2021 03:45PM cm2020 wrote:

Thank you for the good thoughts and wishes for my husband's job. I so appreciate it.

Jumpship......I have a horrible time sleeping and have since menopause started. I take Melatonin every night and it works very well. I take OTC as well (like bcincolorado). One thing I have found is that a lower dose does seem to work better. I take 10mg a night. It takes about 30-45 min to really kick in. If I wake during the night I will take another 5mg if it is early and I don't think I will be able to go back to sleep. But that is rare. The 10mg will typically easily get me through the night (except of course when I have to get up to use the bathroom).


Dx 3/20/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Dx 4/2/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 4/6/2020 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Hormonal Therapy 4/25/2020 Femara (letrozole) Radiation Therapy 6/10/2020 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Oct 12, 2021 06:06AM Rah2464 wrote:

Jumpship that is unbelievable that you are not getting support from your Mother's doctor. Time to fire that individual. I hope the suggestion of melatonin works until you can get the medical support your Mother (and you) deserve. My MIL battled dementia and in her later stages she had what we call "happy pills" that eased her anxiety. It was very common usage for people with her condition so hopefully another doc will prescribe her something.

cm2020 hope things go ok and hubs isn't laid off.

Dx 5/23/2018, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Surgery 6/26/2018 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Hormonal Therapy 7/26/2018 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 11/18/2020 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant
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Oct 12, 2021 08:43AM ctmbsikia wrote:

Thanks, Alice.

Hoping for the best outcome for you, cm2020.

Jumpship, I would definitely try the melatonin first and if that doesn't help I would ask (or demand) a script. My mother in-law suffered from delusions. She thought her husband was cheating when he left the house 3x's a week for dialysis. Her doctor is now my primary doctor. He and his wife (an NP) have a local practice and they really worked with us in trying to find a good med that would help. We had her on busparin (a mild anti-depressant as needed) and Abilify. The family didn't really like that this did sort of zone her out, but my feeling was we don't want her harming herself, and her poor husband needs his rest, so I went down every night and gave her the meds. Her daughter was really against this after a couple of months, so she weaned her off and it was only a matter time before the delusions began to come back. Sister in-law was better prepared to handle and distract her, so I don't think she ever went back on Abilify. This was all done under the docs guidance. I've read where they use some of these medications "off label" It takes some trial and error. It is my feeling to help the symptom (like constant crying) since there is no cure. Best wishes to you.

Dx 12/14/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 1/16/2018, LCIS, Right Surgery 1/31/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 4/11/2018 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 6/25/2018 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Oct 12, 2021 11:29PM Jumpship wrote:

You all are so helpful. Thank you. Hoping fir 5 hours of sleep tonight.

Negative for 16 of 17 gene markers. Positive for NBN-marker of unknown significance. Dx 7/2/2014, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (FISH) Surgery 9/29/2014 Mastectomy: Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Targeted Therapy 11/20/2014 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy 11/20/2014 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel)
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Oct 13, 2021 10:16AM ctmbsikia wrote:

Spoke to a friend last night. She was having some health issues and her doctors were trying to figure it out. Congestive heart failure? The first ER trip they thought it was a heart attack. No, maybe lungs. During this follow up time from 1st trip to the hospital she was getting worse with coughing and wheezing. Chest and back pain. Went back to her regular doctor after feeling a lump on the side of her neck. He sent her back to the ER and she was admitted for a few days. I am assuming from scans they told her it is cancer. She did not mention a lung biopsy. They biopsied the lymph node swollen in her neck so she's waiting for the results to see what kind of cancer it is. I feel terrible She and her hubs and best friend (they are like sisters) all live together. Best friends ex is living with their son and is on hospice care. He will gone soon. That was a lot to take in. I did tell my friend that the beginning is the hardest part waiting for the diagnosis and getting set up with a team and a plan. I told her she may get a nurse navigator. She is already set up with a patient portal.

If she reaches out to me I will surely help her. I will reach out to her best friend today and offer any assistance she needs. She and her ex have been more friendly with each other over the years. I just can't imagine caring for your ex husband on hospice while your best friend is also getting ready to get a cancer diagnosis. Good grief. The Big C can go suck it!

Dx 12/14/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 1/16/2018, LCIS, Right Surgery 1/31/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 4/11/2018 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 6/25/2018 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Oct 13, 2021 03:13PM bcincolorado wrote:

All cancer is terrible and hard all around. ICK. Best wishes to your friends.

Dx 8/2009, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/7/2010 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Left Hormonal Therapy 1/15/2010 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Femara (letrozole)
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Oct 13, 2021 11:34PM Sunshine99 wrote:

So, there is this guy who used to attend our church - until we asked him to leave. He always sat on the second row and would comment/correct the pastor as he preached. He would take copious notes so that he could corner and correct the pastor after the sermon. He was arrogant and had all the answers. The church board asked him to stop his disruptive behavior and when he wouldn't, we had a church business meeting, after which we asked him to find another church to worship.

Apparently, he found out that I have cancer again and has left 5 messages to call him because he has a "healing ministry" and a "cure for any cancer". His messages go something like this: "Hello, are you there? Pick up. This is _____. Hello? Carol? Call me. I have cure for your cancer."

I have the ability to block his number and he'll get a disconnected number recording. It just makes me angry because he's so arrogant and when I die of this disease he's going to accuse my husband of not allowing me to be cured. He's overweight and can't drive due to a seizure disorder. Has God healed him of that??? Where is his cure for that??? (I'm not mocking him for that and don't wish a seizure disorder on anyone, just for the record.)

I'm torn between blocking him, laughing in his face, or telling him to STOP CALLING ME!!!

Signed,

Still not cured Carol (sorry, I couldn't help myself)

Cancer has progressed to my bones. I pray that it never enters my soul. my-sunny-side-up.com Dx 11/2/2007, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIA, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 3/26/2020, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 4/22/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 5/5/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 5/12/2020 External: Bone Targeted Therapy 6/10/2020 Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Oct 14, 2021 12:05AM ShetlandPony wrote:

What an annoying know-it-all he is. I doubt engaging with him in any way will do any good. Shake the dust from your feet. Block him.

2011 Stage I ITCs sn, premenopausal, Oncotype 16. 2014 Stage IV mets breast,liver. TaxolNEAD. Ibrance+letrozole 2yrs. Fas+afinitor nope. XelodaNEAD 2yrs. Eribulin,Doxil nope. SUMMIT FaslodexHerceptinNeratinib for Her2mut NEAD 1 1/2yrs. GI/perit mets Dx 2011, ILC, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 2014, ILC, 2cm, Stage IV, metastasized to liver/other, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast Surgery Lumpectomy
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Oct 14, 2021 12:27AM Cowgirl13 wrote:

That's just terrible. I think he is probably mentally ill and no, that doesn't excuse him.

Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor each morning the Devil says: 'Oh crap! She's up! Dx 5/28/2009, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ Surgery 6/17/2009 Chemotherapy 8/3/2009 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 12/21/2009 Hormonal Therapy 2/23/2010 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Oct 14, 2021 08:13AM - edited Oct 14, 2021 08:26AM by DivineMrsM

Sunshine, I agree with Shetland, do not engage with this nutcase. Any kind of acknowledgement of him on your part, even if you just tell him to leave you alone, could potentially make him even more aggressive towards you. The best thing to do is block him. He believes as a man he can dominate you. This seems especially so with his religious bent, because many religions elevate men to power positions and expect women to submit. He is looking for someone to control, especially since the church asked him to leave. He deludes himself into thinking he has greater understanding of breast cancer than you do. His calls are demanding: “Pick up." “Call me." He thinks you are weak. He thinks he has some kind of power and he hopes you are desperate enough to believe he has a cure for bc.

Don't fall prey to him. Don't worry about what he might accuse your husband of, your husband can take care of himself and besides, you could be around for years.

I had a falling out with my sister in law about 20 years ago. There was a truce but things were never the same. She recently mentioned how an employer who did her wrong ended up falling on hard times. She said, “I never seek revenge, I just let karma take care of things for me". I believe she was also alluding to our fall out and that me being diagnosed with mbc years later was karma catching up to me for standing up to her all those years ago. Fuck her. No matter what, that's how she's going to frame it to herself. I can't do anything about it. She's always been off kilter anyway. I'm not spending any energy engaging with her to try to make her see the error of her thinking. I feel she was intentionally trying to bait me. She'd like the drama. I walked away without saying a thing.



found lump 12-22-10—ilc—er+/pr+/her2—stage iv bone mets—chemo~lumpectomy~radiation~arimidex—March 2019-ibrance/aromasin* —Sept 2019-verzenio* —March 2020-xeloda*
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Oct 14, 2021 09:02AM ctmbsikia wrote:

Great advice. I would agree. Block him. You don't need any further engagement with this person. Who gets kicked out of a church? Honestly, you know something is not right when that happens.

Dx 12/14/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 1/16/2018, LCIS, Right Surgery 1/31/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 4/11/2018 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 6/25/2018 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Oct 14, 2021 11:24AM GoldensRBest wrote:

Oh Divine - how awful that someone would think your MBC is karma. That kind of 💩 hurts so much. Good thing you can walk away. That kind of relationship can be kicked to the curb! HUG

Dx 6/1990, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIA, 1/20 nodes, ER+/PR+ Dx 7/1999, IDC, Right, <1cm Dx 7/26/2019, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/lungs, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Hormonal Therapy 9/1/2019 Femara (letrozole) Targeted Therapy 9/25/2019 Ibrance (palbociclib) Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Chemotherapy CMF Surgery Mastectomy Surgery Lumpectomy; Lymph node removal Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Oct 14, 2021 11:35AM Sunshine99 wrote:

This guy used to give bear hugs to EVERYONE! Including frail old women. When he opened his arms to me, I'd just put my hand up. He physically hurt people with his hugs.

You'll get a laugh out of this story. A friend visited another church in the area one day. He said he met this guy and when he (our friend) held out his hand for a hand-shake, this other guy, said "Brothers hug" and gave him a big ole bear hug. When my husband and I heard this story, we started laughing, because we knew exactly who he was talking about.

I do agree that engaging him would be pointless. He did show up at our church a couple of years ago with "a message from God". Anyway, my husband and the pastor heard him out, thanked him and just let him go on his way. I'm a firm believer in Christianity and my faith is strong, but I'd rather live it than preach it, if you know what I mean. And if someone tells me that they have "a message from God", my hackles go up. Really??? Makes me want to say, "God just told me to tell you to SHUT UP!" But that would be engaging them and what would be the point?

Man, I love this thread!

Carol

Cancer has progressed to my bones. I pray that it never enters my soul. my-sunny-side-up.com Dx 11/2/2007, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIA, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 3/26/2020, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 4/22/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 5/5/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 5/12/2020 External: Bone Targeted Therapy 6/10/2020 Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Oct 14, 2021 12:19PM BlueGirlRedState wrote:

Sunshine - I hope you can block him. Even though he may think he knows it all and is being helpful, it seems like he is hurting those around him. engaging him , even if you are clear about how you feel, will probably only encourage him.

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Oct 14, 2021 01:55PM bcincolorado wrote:

Oh Sunshine you know that guy is not doing what is right no matter what. It is his own intentions only. Block him. Avoiding people who are annoying is the best way to deal with people for your own mental health.

Dx 8/2009, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/7/2010 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Left Hormonal Therapy 1/15/2010 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Femara (letrozole)
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Oct 14, 2021 04:16PM - edited Oct 14, 2021 04:17PM by DivineMrsM

Goldens, that is very kind of you to address the comments my sister in law made. It makes me feel so good to know someone else understands. I spend very little time with her. She used to send my husband (her brother) bizarre PM's via Facebook. He wanted to give her snarky replies but I instructed him not to engage.

Sunshine, your Mr. Church guy matter reminds me of a reason I get steamed which I'm sure is discussed here from time to time. And that is people with zero medical background who claim they have the cure for cancer. I guarantee church guy has no clue even about the many types of breast cancer, knows nothing of hormone positive, triple negative, Her2, invasive lobular or invasive ductal carcinoma. Without ever asking you a single question about the cancer you are dealing with, he miraculously has a cure. Some would call him an idiot. I call him a liar. Your Christian values are better spent helping those truly in need, helping others succeed, feeding the hungry, however you want to express that.

My above mentioned sister in law sent me a link to a cancer “cure", the baking soda and cottage cheese diet. This is without ever asking me one single question about what I was dealing with. She has no clue. Her sister sent me a link to a series consisting of 7 one-hour seminars on how to beat cancer (by some guy, not a doctor, who when I googled him, it said he believed cancer was caused by the sin of the person who has it.) She, too, never asked me one question about my particular case. I politely told her no thanks.



found lump 12-22-10—ilc—er+/pr+/her2—stage iv bone mets—chemo~lumpectomy~radiation~arimidex—March 2019-ibrance/aromasin* —Sept 2019-verzenio* —March 2020-xeloda*
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Oct 14, 2021 04:38PM - edited Oct 14, 2021 04:38PM by ctmbsikia

Oh Divine, I laughed out loud at that last paragraph. May not seem to Christian, but with the way things are going in the world we are finding out how mentally challenged some of our citizens are. Is it lack of intelligence? A disability? I would never entertain a non medical persons claim to a cure.

Baking soda and cottage cheese? You just can't make this ish up!

Dx 12/14/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 1/16/2018, LCIS, Right Surgery 1/31/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 4/11/2018 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 6/25/2018 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Oct 14, 2021 07:55PM Betrayal wrote:

DivineMrsM: I had to laugh at the baking soda and cottage cheese diet for BC cure. WTH? Wish I knew their rationale for recommending this diet and what they expected to achieve. ANother case of the lunatics running the asylum or at least the dietary department.

Surgery 1/31/2016 Lumpectomy: Left Surgery 1/31/2016 Lymph node removal: Sentinel Surgery 3/3/2016 Lumpectomy: Left Radiation Therapy 3/31/2016 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 6/24/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy 5/18/2017 Femara (letrozole) Hormonal Therapy 6/16/2020 Aromasin (exemestane)
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Oct 14, 2021 07:59PM Sunshine99 wrote:

I thought I posted this, but I don't see it. I'm pretty sure my Stage IV sin was buying a lottery ticket (I didn't win).

Now excuse me while I run to the store for some cottage cheese and baking soda. That actually sounds really nasty!

Carol

Cancer has progressed to my bones. I pray that it never enters my soul. my-sunny-side-up.com Dx 11/2/2007, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIA, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 3/26/2020, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 4/22/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 5/5/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 5/12/2020 External: Bone Targeted Therapy 6/10/2020 Ibrance (palbociclib)

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