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Topic: STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

Forum: Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts —

Meet and support others who are affected by these issues around anxiety, depression & other emotional effects.

Posted on: Jul 16, 2015 09:21AM - edited Aug 1, 2017 10:46PM by sas-schatzi

sas-schatzi wrote:

This thread is meant to be for RANTS and RANTING. Then Rant again. We need a place to simply get rid of the anger. Write it here. Unleash it all. Get it out. This isn't meant for the Stupid comments(great thread). This is for the gut wrenching, tell them off anger.

IMPORTANT: When done ranting don't necessarily stick around. Toxic. Drop the rant and find a better thread.

Only rules: Please, follow them as the Mods will shut it down in a heartbeat( waving Mods)

1. Be careful to not mention docs, nurses, hospitals by name. Defamation and all that tedious legal stuff

2. If it's caused by someone on BCO, just don't mention their name. I think the exception will be if someone is stalking you, blow their anonymity wide open. A stalker doesn't deserve politeness.

3. If you think the rant is about you, let it go, they're no names. Don't take it personal. This is the steam room.

4. If they're is a fight, don't expect the Mods to moderate, it was your choice to come here.

5. After writing a rant, do nothing more, re-read at a future time. Decide if it's important enough for you to cut and paste the rant to whomever caused you the anger. It's a choice. Sometimes it needs to be done, but remember they're can be fall out.

6. ######## pound those keys, SCREAM(caps), J*&R$WSDF&(swear)

7. Religion and politics discussion should go to those topical threads. IF their is something that impacts cancer, it belongs here.

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Nov 26, 2021 10:45PM Kikomoon wrote:

Alice, I have been “no-contact” with my sister for many many years, except the rare occasion when I see her whenever she decides to live at my mom’s. It’s just too toxic.

I was “no contact” with my other sister until she died tragically earlier this year. Our last “conversation” she called and wanted me to explain how I thought I could live with stage IV bc, as she understood it was a death sentence. I hung up very shortly after. Meanwhile I had neighbors bringing me soup and friends letting me cry and wail on their shoulders. I don’t believe blood is always thicker than water. I mourn that we could not have a nice relationship.

Dx 10/16/2020, IDC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to brain/bone/liver/lungs, Grade 2, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Chemotherapy Taxol (paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab) Targeted Therapy Perjeta (pertuzumab) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Radiation Therapy External: Brain Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab)
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Nov 27, 2021 02:05AM AliceBastable wrote:

Kikomoon, ugh, that's so rough about your sisters. I keep trying to think of any time my sister and I have been close, and I don't come up with much. Even as kids, we were just two people who shared a room for several years. Most pictures of both of us back then, she's rolling her eyes or frowning at me or looking pissed in general. So now it just seems like so much work to stay in touch with someone I don't feel much of a connection with. People are hard.

Endometrial cancer 2010, basal cell multiples, breast cancer 2018, kidney cancer 2018. Boring. Hope it stays that way. Dx 5/2018, ILC, Left, 2cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/10/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Surgery 8/7/2018 Radiation Therapy 10/28/2018 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Nov 27, 2021 03:05AM denny10 wrote:

Friends or family can be either fountains or drains. The fountains lift you up, keep them. The drains drag you down, lose those them or at least keep them at a distance. We need to try and find contentment every day, who knows what tomorrow may bring.

I hope you can enjoy today whatever you are doing.

12/2021 Stage IV TN Dx 2007, Left, Stage IIB Dx 12/2013, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to liver/lungs/other, ER+
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Nov 27, 2021 07:05AM Betrayal wrote:

Always envied those with sisters because I only had 3 brothers and a mother who preferred boys. So I guess I wanted someone that would identify with me. After reading what others have posted about their sister relationships, perhaps I lucked out. It was hard enough dealing with a mother who didn't care. I always blamed it on my GM's rejection of her but why perpetuate something that was so painful and do so on your daughter? Never understood it and now that she is gone, never will.

Surgery 1/31/2016 Lumpectomy: Left Surgery 1/31/2016 Lymph node removal: Sentinel Surgery 3/3/2016 Lumpectomy: Left Radiation Therapy 3/31/2016 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 6/24/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy 5/18/2017 Femara (letrozole) Hormonal Therapy 6/16/2020 Aromasin (exemestane)
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Nov 27, 2021 07:14AM wrenn wrote:

I have 4 sisters and have a great relationship with one of them and a polite surface relationship with another. The third is a total narcissist and just takes too much energy. She lies all the time about medical stuff to get attention. I finally told her there was too much drama and deception and I was done. And the final one has lost her mind. She stunned me once by saying she wasn't sure if Obama was American. She has 3 degrees and a really important job so isn't stupid but she not only voted for trump but believes every conspiracy theory out there. When I questioned her about something to do with trump she blocked me and that was the end of that. I'm ashamed of her.

Now that I am old (75 in a couple of months) I realize life is too short and there are too many good people to devote time and energy to. I don't feel bad about not being able to related to certain people simply because they are "family".

Metaplastic IDC Triple negative...Tumour is 1.5cm. BMX Aug. 16th. Chemo cancelled after one dose due to complications. Dx 7/25/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/6 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Surgery 8/16/2013 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right
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Nov 27, 2021 07:30AM cm2020 wrote:

Betrayal...I always envied those with brothers. I have one sister. We have been no contact for many years. We have never been close or even semi-close. She is so much like our narcissistic mother. She always made me feel "less than", even as a small child. She is 16 months younger than me but has always thought she was older, wiser, and I was just a loser. My parents treated me the same way (probably where she got it from. Also, I am no contact with my parents). It is lonely not having family love and support. My aunt and I are in contact but I think strongly she stays in contact just for getting info for gossip. I don't tell her anything (including my cancer dx and my estrangement from my husband). Being rejected by my family and now my husband has me really starting to believe I am just not worthy of love or compassion. I am fortunate to have a great relationship with my adult son and teen daughter.

Dx 3/20/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Dx 4/2/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 4/5/2020 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Hormonal Therapy 4/24/2020 Femara (letrozole) Radiation Therapy 6/10/2020 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Nov 27, 2021 08:01AM Spookiesmom wrote:

As an adopted only child, sometimes I’d wonder what it was like to have siblings. I had 2 male cousins close in age, but if the 3 of us were together, I was left out. Girl cooties you know. When I married, I got 4 younger brothers in law. And for a while, that was fun. Then they started to get married, and there was friction. Then we moved here. A world wide vacation destination. And they wouldn’t visit. Was great if we went back there. Pissed me off. Two brothers got into a huge argument, still aren’t speaking. DH as oldest said if he was there, he could fix it. Doubt that. So a few more major things happened, turns out they don’t love my dogs. That did it for me. One bro had 3 kids, DH went north for their weddings when my DD got married bro says well he came to my kid’s wedding so I guess I have to go to his

DH died earlier this year. DD took his ashes back for burial. I had no desire to see any of them. I’m not expecting any contact during Christmas. And that’s ok. I’m accustomed to being alone, and from what I’ve seen of siblings, I’m glad I don’t have any. Less stress on me.

First time IDGgrade 3, stage 3. Second time, found lump myself. That made me stage 4. Dx IDC, Stage IIIA, Grade 3
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Nov 27, 2021 09:38AM Betrayal wrote:

cm2020: I would not take it to heart that both your parents and estranged husband did not appreciate you. I would assign the blame on them for not being compassionate humans. I will not accept responsibility for the rift with my mother because I had a great relationship with my Dad and she would always remind me how jealous she was of that realtionship by saying things like "it's your daughter on the phone when I called (after not even saying hello)" and telling him that "she has better things to do then drive you to the doctor (when I would volunteer to take him since he no longer drove)". It's hard to accept that your mother is just plain evil and to explain it to others when she was just so sneaky about hiding it when there was an audience. I finally decided that I had to place myself first and not listen to her pointed criticism "too fat", "too old", and realizing I was never going to please her. Never told my mother or siblings (only told one of 3) when I was dx with BC because I knew she would spin it that "I deserved this" for some imagined shortcoming or weaponize it. It was hard enought to deal with without compounding the problem. Told my BF and she has never once asked about how I am doing so that too was a bust.

When my mother died, I lost 2 brothers and have no regrets there either. One has never been very close (politics and religion were sources of conflict) and the other has a bitch for a wife who is poisonous. She helped care for my mother but my mother even had a target on her that she "was a lousy cook" and "never shut her mouth". Made sure she never heard it but told everyone else about her.

So my advice is to be thankful for your children, as I am for mine, and know that they will be your best support system based on not only compassion, but love. Your friends on here will also be the ones to recognize your worth. I do.

Surgery 1/31/2016 Lumpectomy: Left Surgery 1/31/2016 Lymph node removal: Sentinel Surgery 3/3/2016 Lumpectomy: Left Radiation Therapy 3/31/2016 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 6/24/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy 5/18/2017 Femara (letrozole) Hormonal Therapy 6/16/2020 Aromasin (exemestane)
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Nov 27, 2021 12:15PM AliceBastable wrote:

My sister and I may have problems that keep us at long arm's length, but I do have three sisters-in-law I get along with, and also the brothers-in-law. We don't hang out, but when there are the two or three family gatherings per year, I enjoy their company and we have a good time, plus we stay in touch via FB. And I have my friends I worked with, haven't seen most of them in almost ten years, but there are a handful of us who talk almost daily on FB, still joking around and sharing good and bad life moments, hobbies, and staying (virtually) close It's good enough.

Endometrial cancer 2010, basal cell multiples, breast cancer 2018, kidney cancer 2018. Boring. Hope it stays that way. Dx 5/2018, ILC, Left, 2cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/10/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Surgery 8/7/2018 Radiation Therapy 10/28/2018 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Nov 27, 2021 01:45PM cm2020 wrote:

Betrayal...Thank you for sharing your story and for the wonderful advice.

Dx 3/20/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Dx 4/2/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 4/5/2020 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Hormonal Therapy 4/24/2020 Femara (letrozole) Radiation Therapy 6/10/2020 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Nov 27, 2021 03:38PM Sunshine99 wrote:

Alice, that's so typical of a narcissist to say! I get it. I, too, have a sister who is a full blown narcissist. She, thankfully, didn't come to my mom's memorial service. We had a wonderful celebration of my mom without her (the sister's) theatrics and drama. She told me before my mom went into a care facility that she "wanted no further contact" with me. Works for me. I only saw her one time after that - at my mom's burial.

I don't even know if she knows that I'm Stage IV. I don't really care. I don't choose to spend my energy on that.

Carol

Cancer has progressed to my bones. I pray that it never enters my soul. Dx 11/2/2007, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIA, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 3/26/2020, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 4/22/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 5/5/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 5/12/2020 External: Bone Targeted Therapy 6/10/2020 Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Nov 28, 2021 08:30AM - edited Nov 28, 2021 08:32AM by DivineMrsM

Family is complicated! I have brothers and sisters. They are a mixed bag. I know I could count on several for help if needed, but the problem is they only want to see themselves in the role of SuperSibling saving their pitiful weak sibling and they are blind to the fact that I'm a very capable adult who brings much to the table. They want their roles to be that of Saviors. Our parents both passed almost 25 years ago. Two sister now act like they're parents to the rest of us. They don’t seem to realize I don't have to answer to them. When either of them go through troubles, they keep it hidden between them so they never appear weak. They must always present themselves as dominant, in control, unfazed by things that topple their siblings. I'm done being double teamed by them and will only be around them when others are present so I don't take the brunt of their behaviors.

found lump 12-22-10—ilc—er+/pr+/her2—stage iv bone mets—chemo~lumpectomy~radiation~arimidex—March 2019-ibrance/aromasin* —Sept 2019-verzenio* —March 2020-xeloda*
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Nov 28, 2021 12:31PM illimae wrote:

I don’t post here often because I’m naturally pretty mellow and happy but since we’re talking about family and I just received news that has me boiling, I’ll vent.

My only sibling (older brother aged 52) has been arrested. Apparently, he was drunk, high and upset that our parents would drive him somewhere (still lives with them and his own teen boys), so he basically beat them up (our mom and dad), they’re in their 70’s! Our parents are toxic and shouldn’t have had kids but no one deserves that. What a POS! I go through so much for extra time and he shits all over his. He’s got serious charges, which he deserves. He’s an addict and we grew up in the same environment but my sympathy is limited. I may very well be dead by the time he gets out. I’m never this angry, not even sure what to do with myself. Arrrg!

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo Dx 11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Chemotherapy 1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Surgery 6/26/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy 8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Radiation Therapy 10/20/2017 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 4/18/2018 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 5/23/2019 External: Brain Surgery 1/22/2020 Radiation Therapy 2/17/2020 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 7/20/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 12/4/2020 External: Brain Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine)
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Nov 28, 2021 12:56PM cm2020 wrote:

illimae....That is bloody horrifying! My parents are also toxic but never in a million years would they deserve beating up. What your brother did was disgusting and I do hope he pays for it. I'm glad you vented here. I can't imagine how upsetting it is to you for a number of reasons (in part as you said you are fighting for more time here and he is just p*ssing his away). I'm very sorry.

Dx 3/20/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Dx 4/2/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 4/5/2020 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Hormonal Therapy 4/24/2020 Femara (letrozole) Radiation Therapy 6/10/2020 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Nov 28, 2021 12:58PM cm2020 wrote:

While I completely hate that so many of us deal with toxic siblings and parents and may of us (raising my hand) didn't share with them our cancer dx, I am very grateful to all that shared. It can feel like a really lonely club that no one else belongs to. This has made me far less alone. I so wish I lived near at least someone on here.

Dx 3/20/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Dx 4/2/2020, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 4/5/2020 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Hormonal Therapy 4/24/2020 Femara (letrozole) Radiation Therapy 6/10/2020 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Nov 28, 2021 01:42PM Spookiesmom wrote:

He deserves everything the law can get him for. I’m sorry. Hugs❤️❤️❤️

First time IDGgrade 3, stage 3. Second time, found lump myself. That made me stage 4. Dx IDC, Stage IIIA, Grade 3
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Nov 28, 2021 01:46PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

illimae - Sorry about your family news. No one deserves to be beaten. Hope your parents can recover.

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Nov 28, 2021 02:28PM Kikomoon wrote:

Illimae, that is so awful, I'm so sorry! I hope he gets what he deserves. Your brother sounds an awful lot like my sister, except she is verbally abusive rather than physical. My mom can lash it back though. She's a saint, but my sister can really get under ones skin. Sister is 50 years old with addiction problems and is about to become a grandmother herself. I’m sorry so many of us have shit relatives and no contact relationships. I always thought I was quite alone in this.

Dx 10/16/2020, IDC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IV, metastasized to brain/bone/liver/lungs, Grade 2, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Chemotherapy Taxol (paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab) Targeted Therapy Perjeta (pertuzumab) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine) Radiation Therapy External: Brain Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab)
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Nov 28, 2021 02:35PM SerenitySTAT wrote:

I haven't seen my father in at least 15 years. I prefer to keep several metal detectors between us. He's lucky my older brother has great restraint.

"Do not overlook the little joys!" (Hesse, 1905) 💉💉🐶☕️🛀🖼🥐🌲🎭 Dx 11/2015 IDC L IIIC 10/11 nodes ++-, 12/2015 L Mast, 2/2016 4 AC+12 Taxol fasted, 9/2016 Rads Nodes Chest wall 15+4 boosts, 10/2016 Tamox, 4/2019 Exemestane, 12/2019 Ibrance/Xgeva
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Nov 28, 2021 03:32PM bcincolorado wrote:

illimae - that terrible I hope your folks are ok and set some "or else" rules in place.

Dx 8/2009, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/7/2010 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Left Hormonal Therapy 1/15/2010 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Femara (letrozole)
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Nov 28, 2021 05:10PM illimae wrote:

They’re recovering ok, getting punched at their age is just harder. I have no tolerance for anyone who hurts animals, children or elderly, brother or not. I’ve been urging him for years to get out as they do instigate like pros but this is just unacceptable. Mom has always bailed out her little boy but I think this was the final straw. My poor nephews have a screaming nut of a mom too, it’s a shitshow all around. I’m glad DH and I recognized the physical and mental genetic problems on both sides and turned our family trees into stumps, lol

Diagnosed at 41 Stage IV De Novo Dx 11/16/2016, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Chemotherapy 1/2/2017 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Targeted Therapy 1/2/2017 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Surgery 6/26/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy 8/10/2017 Breast, Lymph nodes Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 5cm, Stage IV, metastasized to brain, Grade 3, 3/13 nodes, ER+, HER2+ (IHC) Radiation Therapy 10/20/2017 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 4/18/2018 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 5/23/2019 External: Brain Surgery 1/22/2020 Radiation Therapy 2/17/2020 External: Brain Radiation Therapy 7/20/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 12/4/2020 External: Brain Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Targeted Therapy Tukysa (tucatinib) Chemotherapy Xeloda (capecitabine)
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Nov 28, 2021 05:20PM 7of9 wrote:

illimae, sorry this happened to your family. I have had a similar experience with a family member we had to cut out. It was for safety and while tough, it was the right call. Violence, drugs, manic depression are never acceptable around our son. Sorry I put up with it as long as I did. Prayers for your family and those kids.

If you're going through hell, keep on going. You might get out before the devil even knows you're there. Dx 1/18/2012, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 5/31/2012 Lymph node removal: Left; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 10/31/2012 Reconstruction (left); Reconstruction (right) Dx 12/23/2015, IDC, Left, 2cm, Grade 2, 10/14 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 1/18/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary Surgery 1/18/2016 Prophylactic ovary removal Radiation Therapy 2/10/2016 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Chemotherapy 3/31/2016 Taxotere (docetaxel) Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Nov 28, 2021 07:41PM AliceBastable wrote:

Illimae, that's just awful. It's especially a crap situation for your nephews to be around so many horrible people raising them. And I'm sorry you have to even think about it.

Endometrial cancer 2010, basal cell multiples, breast cancer 2018, kidney cancer 2018. Boring. Hope it stays that way. Dx 5/2018, ILC, Left, 2cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/10/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Surgery 8/7/2018 Radiation Therapy 10/28/2018 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Nov 28, 2021 08:27PM KIDI919 wrote:

illimae: that's awful! We have a nephew who is a (recovering) addict. In the past he has stolen etc but was never violent. When high he would go on and on about the finding the "meaning" of life. I said your 30 years old...start putting one foot in front of the other and get on with it.

On to other bad news: My SIL who has chronic leukemia is back in hospital with pneumonia following covid. Now in the ICU. She tested positive at Halloween, was in hospital for a week, came home for about 2 weeks and now is back in. Admitted tonight. My brother cannot see her because hospitals are locking down again here. She is still testing positive but nurse said sometimes that happens for a few weeks even if you don't "really" still have it. I'm sad and worried but also kinda mad at her. She is a very social person and being immune compromised has cramped her style. SO even tho she could work from home she went in and was exposed to 2 sick people (they later tested positive) which started the whole thing. Then she went to a Halloween party even tho she felt like shit. I went over this am and checked her pulse oxygen level and it was 78. Not good. Txted my DIL who is a nurse and my niece who is a physician assistant and they said send her via ambulance. So at least she got a bed as the news is saying hospital beds are in short supply.

This covid business. I know we are all sick of it but I do wish people would take it seriously.

Thanks BC family for listening.

My last U/S and mammo showed BI-Rads 3. I had to look it up... probably negative. How reassuring.

Dx 9/17/2019, DCIS/IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC)
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Nov 29, 2021 02:40AM Rah2464 wrote:

Illimae what a horrendous situation. Addiction and mental health issues are no picnic to manage. I hope your nephews can find a soft place to land along with some intensive counseling. They will need tools to understand and cope with what they have experienced. Glad your Mom will continue to press charges.

Dx 5/23/2018, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Surgery 6/26/2018 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Hormonal Therapy 7/26/2018 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 11/19/2020 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant
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Nov 29, 2021 06:46AM ctmbsikia wrote:

Holidays seem to bring out the best and the worst of our families. So sorry for all these situations I'm reading. Had an addict cousin (opiates after a head injury), dead at 50. It was a few years of hell trying to help her until I finally had enough and cut her off. The hardest part for me was also cutting off her kids. If I reached out to them she would try to manipulate her way back into my life. They're adults now, and we're not as close as we were.

My good friends husband passed last week from covid. It's so sad. Adding a funeral to the things to do this week.

Dx 12/14/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 1/16/2018, LCIS, Right Surgery 1/31/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 4/11/2018 Whole-breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 6/25/2018 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Nov 29, 2021 07:36AM Sunshine99 wrote:

Wow, I'm just so sorry for all of the drama some of you are facing. Just. So. Sorry! I get it - I wish I didn't, but I do.


Cancer has progressed to my bones. I pray that it never enters my soul. Dx 11/2/2007, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIA, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 3/26/2020, ILC/IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, ER+/PR-, HER2- (FISH) Hormonal Therapy 4/22/2020 Arimidex (anastrozole) Radiation Therapy 5/5/2020 External: Bone Radiation Therapy 5/12/2020 External: Bone Targeted Therapy 6/10/2020 Ibrance (palbociclib)
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Nov 29, 2021 09:17AM - edited Nov 29, 2021 09:20AM by DivineMrsM

illimae, I'm sorry for what your brother is putting your whole family through. I hope he doesn't get lawyer who's able to cop a plea deal to lesser charges.

KID, it's frustrating when people with health issues don't take precautions around Covid.

ctmb, sorry that you have a funeral to attend.

Right after Halloween, TV commercials pour on the “happy families gathered around the Christmas tree" advertisements. Makes you think everyone has nothing but Hallmark holidays.

My Thanksgiving went pretty well this year because I stopped having the extended family coming for dinner after 30 years. It was nice with just dh, my son, stepson and his family. I thought, “this is better.” I don't do drama my more.

I'm not sure who came up with two big holidays a month apart that center around extended family.



found lump 12-22-10—ilc—er+/pr+/her2—stage iv bone mets—chemo~lumpectomy~radiation~arimidex—March 2019-ibrance/aromasin* —Sept 2019-verzenio* —March 2020-xeloda*
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Nov 29, 2021 12:58PM - edited Nov 29, 2021 12:58PM by AliceBastable

DivineMrsM, I think the Canadians are smart to do their Thanksgiving in October so they get a breather between holidays! If I had my way, to divorce the holiday from its stupid offensive roots and just make it a generic harvest feast to thank the Earth for its bounty, it would make more sense to move it to an earlier date. And then we could celebrate that with just our immediate families, or friends, or invite a farm family to thank them. Or, in non-covid years, have community gatherings.

Endometrial cancer 2010, basal cell multiples, breast cancer 2018, kidney cancer 2018. Boring. Hope it stays that way. Dx 5/2018, ILC, Left, 2cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 7/10/2018 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Surgery 8/7/2018 Radiation Therapy 10/28/2018 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Nov 29, 2021 01:41PM JKL2017 wrote:

Thank God for this thread. I just received news that makes me so angry … and so sad.

My long-time gynecologist is one of the most amazing women I've ever known. She has been a source of information and strength during my entire time with cancer. When she received the results of my biopsy in 2017, she stayed late at her office to call me. She arranged an almost-immediate appointment with a wonderful BS (a personal friend whose office is across the hall from hers) and then spent hours answering all my questions and calming (most of) my fears. She even shared her own story of having had breast cancer a few years before. When her cancer returned a few years later, I was devastated. But she was so calm and so certain that she would again prevail that I believed she would be okay. And, for awhile, it appeared she would be.

Today I received a call from her, letting me know that she was retiring, as of today. Her cancer has returned and her prognosis is not good. I am so angry that this horrible thing is happening to such a good person. I am angry that there is nothing I can do to change what is happening. I want to scream but all I can do is cry. Cancer just continues to cause misery and pain - F@&K Cancer!



Dx 2/2/2017, ILC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/7/2017 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 3/20/2017 Multi-catheter: Breast Hormonal Therapy 5/24/2017 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)

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