Topic: STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

Forum: Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts — Meet and support others who are affected by these issues around anxiety, depression & other emotional effects.

Posted on: Jul 16, 2015 09:21AM - edited Aug 1, 2017 10:46PM by sas-schatzi

Posted on: Jul 16, 2015 09:21AM - edited Aug 1, 2017 10:46PM by sas-schatzi

sas-schatzi wrote:

This thread is meant to be for RANTS and RANTING. Then Rant again. We need a place to simply get rid of the anger. Write it here. Unleash it all. Get it out. This isn't meant for the Stupid comments(great thread). This is for the gut wrenching, tell them off anger.

IMPORTANT: When done ranting don't necessarily stick around. Toxic. Drop the rant and find a better thread.

Only rules: Please, follow them as the Mods will shut it down in a heartbeat( waving Mods)

1. Be careful to not mention docs, nurses, hospitals by name. Defamation and all that tedious legal stuff

2. If it's caused by someone on BCO, just don't mention their name. I think the exception will be if someone is stalking you, blow their anonymity wide open. A stalker doesn't deserve politeness.

3. If you think the rant is about you, let it go, they're no names. Don't take it personal. This is the steam room.

4. If they're is a fight, don't expect the Mods to moderate, it was your choice to come here.

5. After writing a rant, do nothing more, re-read at a future time. Decide if it's important enough for you to cut and paste the rant to whomever caused you the anger. It's a choice. Sometimes it needs to be done, but remember they're can be fall out.

6. ######## pound those keys, SCREAM(caps), J*&R$WSDF&(swear)

7. Religion and politics discussion should go to those topical threads. IF their is something that impacts cancer, it belongs here.

I will revise topic box as needed-sassy

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Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out shouting "holy crap....what a ride".
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May 31, 2018 06:40PM dodgersgirl wrote:

Mominator— thanks for your kind and do true words.

Doctor today told him no walking outside alone and without a walker so will see how that goes.

Again thanks!

Dx 3/10/2017, IDC: Mucinous, Right, Stage IIIB, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 9/10/2017 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Right) Dx 12/2019, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone Radiation Therapy Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
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May 31, 2018 08:02PM - edited May 31, 2018 08:03PM by kathindc

DodgersGirl, I know how you feel. Since the end of March, my husband has fallen six times and I've had to call EMS for five of those falls as he has no upper body strength and I'm not capable of getting him up. The sixth fall happened at the grocery store and two very kind gentlemen got him up. We did have to call for transport because he hit his head. He is a very stubborn man. Uses the walker outside of the house but will not use it in the house where five of the falls occurred. He will use a cane in the house occasionally. Yup, he isn't using it when he falls. Like your dad, my husband doesn't pick up his feet. He has developed a shuffle. Doesn't want to be reminded of that. He does hear the squeak when walking on linoleum floors when going to doctor appointments which hits home that he needs to get those feet up. I have become the bad guy in all of this for trying to encourage him to pick his feet up. To shed a little levity on a very frustrating situation, it's a male gene thing. I wish you strength to get through this.

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May 31, 2018 08:41PM cindyny wrote:

Dodgersgirl- both my parents have passed on. But back when they were having balance issues we installed railing throughout the house. My mom had neuropathy, a dropped foot, I'd sing her a song while we were out going to the Dr - "pick it up Katy, pick it up." Silly but it reminded her she had to think about lifting up that foot. It's harder with a dad. Best of luck.

dx at 58, no family history, onco = 19 Dx 10/6/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/5 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 10/31/2017 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lymph node removal Surgery 11/13/2017 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left) Radiation Therapy 12/26/2017 Whole breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 3/1/2018 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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May 31, 2018 09:53PM - edited Jun 1, 2018 05:00AM by Lula73

Dodgersgirl- I'm so sorry you're Dad is at this point. It's a difficult one. We went through it with my father In law and then with my mother in law. It was her 3rd fall that she didn't recover from. My girlfriend is going through the same thing right now with her dad. He managed to survive his last fall but things are not good. I'm not saying this to scare you. I'm not telling you this like those people who tell you the worst cancer horror stories when they find out we have cancer. I am telling you this because I want you to know it is 100% normal for him to do this. It is rare for them to listen to you, your husband, his wife, his siblings, his other children, his dr, etc. All you can do is gently remind him. I sincerely hope you're dad turns out to be one of the rare ones who decides t listen.

-Lula Dx 1/2017, DCIS/IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/13/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Prophylactic ovary removal; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap Hormonal Therapy 3/2/2017 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 11/1/2017 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 1/2/2018 Femara (letrozole)
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Jun 1, 2018 05:22AM - edited Jun 1, 2018 05:23AM by dodgersgirl

Kathindc, CindyNY, Lula73– thank you for sharing your experiences and the kind words. It always helps to know you aren't the only one going thru something.

Most of dad's falls occur in their backyard where he loves to tinker. I am thinking a walking trail with hand rails would be a great addition, allowing him to remain outside yet have something for balance. He loves the birds, squirrels, and butterflies.

Thanks again!

Dx 3/10/2017, IDC: Mucinous, Right, Stage IIIB, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 9/10/2017 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Right) Dx 12/2019, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone Radiation Therapy Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Jun 6, 2018 10:50AM SheliaMarie wrote:

I'm really depressed today. My arm started swelling and turning purple on Saturday. MO has ordered a CT of it for Monday to rule out a DVT. If it's not a DVT, I'll have to see a Lymphedema specialist. The CT should also be able to tell if the chemo is working. God willing, it is. I don't want to move on to a harsher one. This one has already taken its toll on me.

I got approved for my disability; in total it will be exactly $3 LESS than what I have to pay for health insurance every month. Yay me, right?

And then the bills. Unfortunately I had to do that again today. How did I get in such a mess? I couldn't have gotten sick at a worse time. All I wanted was to be able to pay for my children to get an education. Couldn't the cancer have waited until that was paid to rear it's ugly head? That's not even to mention the crap I insisted we NEEDED, back when I was healthy and working. Like the pool that nobody uses or the car that would save money on my commute. Ha. Life sure does like putting us in our place.

Anyway, I’m just really down today. I know it’ll be better tomorrow

Dx 7/7/2008, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, ER+/PR-, HER2- Surgery 7/9/2008 Lumpectomy: Left Chemotherapy 8/7/2008 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Ellence (epirubicin), Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 12/31/2008 Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 2/1/2009 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 2/15/2009 Arimidex (anastrozole), Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Dx 5/24/2017, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Targeted Therapy 5/24/2017 Kisqali Hormonal Therapy 5/24/2017 Aromasin (exemestane) Chemotherapy 4/9/2018 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Chemotherapy 6/9/2018 Halaven (eribulin) Radiation Therapy 6/17/2018 External: Chest wall Chemotherapy 8/26/2018 Ixempra (ixabepilone) Dx 10/30/2018, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs Dx 11/7/2018, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, ER+/PR-, HER2- Radiation Therapy 11/11/2018 External: Bone Chemotherapy 11/11/2018 Xeloda (capecitabine)
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Jun 6, 2018 11:07AM meow13 wrote:

SheliaMaria, tomorrow probably can't come soon enough. We have been paying $600 a month for my husband's medicare and supplement and we still have medicals bills on top of that. His SS covers most of the cost good thing we are not dependent on SS to live on like many people are. I wish the beautiful wonderful medical care would come, remember being promised that!

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Jun 6, 2018 12:35PM mustlovepoodles wrote:

I don't know if this is the right place or not: it's my DH. He is about to drive me right over the edge. Can I talk about it hete?

Oncotype 23. Positive for PALB2 & Chek2 gene mutations. My breasts are trying to kill me! Dx 7/20/2015, DCIS/IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Surgery 8/19/2015 Lumpectomy Surgery 9/2/2015 Lumpectomy: Right Chemotherapy 10/19/2015 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 2/3/2016 Prophylactic mastectomy: Left, Right Surgery 10/18/2016 Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Surgery
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Jun 6, 2018 02:03PM smwusaf wrote:

mustlovepoodles - this is probably a good place to vent. :)

I will say that your name under your pic makes me laugh, it comes up mustlovepoo....


Dx 10/5/2017, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 1, 1/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-, Surgery 11/12/2017 Lumpectomy: Left; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Radiation Therapy 1/3/2018 Whole breast: Breast Hormonal Therapy 2/19/2018 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Jun 6, 2018 02:04PM SheliaMarie wrote:

Of course you can

Dx 7/7/2008, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, ER+/PR-, HER2- Surgery 7/9/2008 Lumpectomy: Left Chemotherapy 8/7/2008 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Ellence (epirubicin), Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 12/31/2008 Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Surgery 2/1/2009 Prophylactic ovary removal Hormonal Therapy 2/15/2009 Arimidex (anastrozole), Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Dx 5/24/2017, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, 1/1 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Targeted Therapy 5/24/2017 Kisqali Hormonal Therapy 5/24/2017 Aromasin (exemestane) Chemotherapy 4/9/2018 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Chemotherapy 6/9/2018 Halaven (eribulin) Radiation Therapy 6/17/2018 External: Chest wall Chemotherapy 8/26/2018 Ixempra (ixabepilone) Dx 10/30/2018, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to lungs Dx 11/7/2018, IDC, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, ER+/PR-, HER2- Radiation Therapy 11/11/2018 External: Bone Chemotherapy 11/11/2018 Xeloda (capecitabine)

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