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Aug 7, 2018 12:01PM
Hello from HOT Atlanta- and that's from a 45year veteran of So Fl summers. I know everyone complains about the humidity in Fla, but I am feeling the dry heat of Ga literally burning my skin getting in and out of the car, the store, the restaurants and the house- and I haven't been here 24 hrs yet.
I did a group text to all my kids yesterday to let them know I arrived safely, and several hours later, there was a new message on that group text. My 9 yr old DGS, who is having so much trouble behavior-wise, fell and broke two bones in his wrist. They were, of course, at the ER for hours, then came home with instructions to see a pediatric surgeon, an hour and a half from their home. The hospital wasn't sure if it could just be reset or if it needs surgery. One bone is a clean break, the other bone shattered. I, of course, feel terrible not being there to help. That means their two year old needs to go with them and they have to contend with her, instead of having 100% focus on Kayden. I got to talk to him last night and he said he was happy it was his "bad" (left) hand, , he can still feed himself, dress himself, etc. He also said they gave him a double dose of pain meds that didn't work, but when asked , he said his arm didn't hurt any more. My daughter here is extremely close to Kayden's Mom and knew how upset I was, not being able to go help, that we contemplated both of us getting in the car and heading down. We decided to wait until they talk to the surgeon and get a better idea of what's ahead. We are the only two people she would trust with the two year old. I doubt we will go, I just got here and she has to work, but even forgetting about the kids, Jamie does not do well in hospital situations. My DH was in and out of the VA hospital frequently in the last 2-3 years of his life and she never once came to visit.
On the other hand, no pun intended, my DD here in Atlanta was complaining about her younger son, 16, basically not talking to them at all except for the occasional grunt or "leave me alone". He came home from his first day of school yesterday, and his mom starting questioning him about his day; what supplies he needed, etc. including asking if he wanted to go out to dinner after getting school supplies and where. All of his answers were grunts until she started getting ticked, so he changed his grunts into the always appreciated "I dunno". I popped in with asking him if he wanted to go for a haircut, then to Target for supplies, and have dinner in the Mexican restaurant in that shopping center, or… before I could even get to my second option, he said yes, and actually asked his mom if that was the restaurant he had liked so much once before. She was shocked that he actually got a whole sentence out of him with no grunts.
Once we got in the car, he talked all the way to the shopping center, decided he was too tired to get a haircut, got most of his school supplies fairly quickly, then chattered thru the whole dinner. His mom actually texted me asking who this pleasant talkative child was. It was fun. And he didn't talk just to me, he included his mom in it all. Can I say sweet revenge for moving him so far away from me? Not really, but….
It is noon and I have stuff to do so…
9/25/2013, IDC, 1cm, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 3/9 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+
10/4/2013 Herceptin (trastuzumab)
10/4/2013 Perjeta (pertuzumab)
10/10/2013 Taxotere (docetaxel)
1/28/2014 Lymph node removal: Right, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right
Breast, Lymph nodes