Oct 25, 2020 08:10AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Two things fill my mind with ever-increasing wonder and awe: the starry heavens above me and the moral law within me. -Immanuel Kant
Meet other women who are similar in age and dealing with age-appropriate issues.
Posted on: Feb 7, 2009 06:29PM
I am an "older" woman with breast cancer (I was diagnosed at 65 and am now 66). I notice that most of the posts seem to be from people younger than I am (often by quite a bit...). I'd love to "talk" with others my age, exchange info about their diagnoses, effects on their lives, etc. I see that there is a forum for young women.
Someone suggested that maybe it's that older people aren't so computer-savvy or aren't used to being in online discussion groups. However, for those who are, it would be great.
Posts 37711 - 37740 (38,359 total)
Oct 25, 2020 08:10AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Two things fill my mind with ever-increasing wonder and awe: the starry heavens above me and the moral law within me. -Immanuel Kant
Oct 25, 2020 09:24AM carolehalston wrote:
Keywest, unfortunately your best decision is not available--continue renting the same house. Tough options. I wish you luck in making your decision. I do not expect Covid to disappear as POTUS predicts.
I bought a package of cloth masks at Sam's Club yesterday. They have two layers and a filter layer. When I opened the package at home, I saw that the masks are a little on the skimpy side, but they do fit just under the chin and over the nose. I get so amused/annoyed at mask wearers who have their noses exposed. The message is a lack of belief in the whole business of wearing masks. I am a convert to the extent that I wouldn't dream of going anywhere without wearing my mask. I even wore one when I went to an outdoor stand yesterday to buy fresh shrimp.
It was cool enough last night to turn off the a/c and open a window in the bedroom.
Oct 25, 2020 09:26AM MCBaker wrote:
I don't have any political signs. I did write twelve bulleted points for voting for who I voted for, as the right-to-life candidate. LOL. Printed it, and taped it to my window. Now I am much more objective with the news. Feeling good about it, since I suffer from anxiety in interpersonal debate.
Locked myself out of my apartment with my phone charging yesterday afternoon. Maintenance man had had forgotten and left his phone in the company truck because of a family emergency. Tippy and I whiled away our time in the community room. He was cranky when I tried to put him in his kennel-- he hadn't had his night snack laced with benadryl, I had turned it in another direction, it had his bed in it, not enough toys, and we hadn't done our ritual which entails me chasing him under a table, pulling him out, and lifting us both so I can walk, hugging him, to his kennel. I don't know what aspect of departure from the usual was the most traumatic.
Oct 25, 2020 10:23AM Beaverntx wrote:
MCBaker, if only dogs could talk!! But they can get into a routine very quickly and will let you know if you miss a step.
Oct 25, 2020 10:36AM - edited Oct 25, 2020 10:37AM by MCBaker
I even had to put him in butt-first, even though I had tossed a treat in! First time was a bit early, since we have already made the time-change.
Oct 25, 2020 03:24PM ChiSandy wrote:
Mary, I have a small face, so my fit problem with masks is the exact opposite of yours. I might make a couple of small "tucks" at the chin to tighten the fit and lower the chance of slippage.
Oct 25, 2020 04:50PM carolehalston wrote:
Sandy, the masks I bought were M-L. There was also a size Small. Those packages included some colors. The M-L masks were black, navy, and white, two of each.
Oct 25, 2020 05:31PM Wren44 wrote:
I have been sewing masks from a pattern that comes in different sizes. You take 2 measurements and that tells you which pattern to use. It's a comfortable mask.
Oct 25, 2020 05:38PM CeliaC wrote:
Greetings to all. Many thanks for the prayers for my SIL! Surgery went well on 10/13, released from hospital 10/20, stayed in hospital guest house facilities until follow up plastic surgeon visit on 10/23 & then headed home to continue the recovery process.
I only just skimmed through the posts on the last 3 pages, but "Yeah" for the all the good test results that have been posted! NIce bargain hunting, too!
Stay safe, and for those in cooler climates, stay warm as well!
Oct 26, 2020 02:29AM ChiSandy wrote:
Carole, the masks I have that seem to be too big are a couple of surgical ones (designed for men, I guess) and one with the clear plastic window so others can lip-read or at least see me smile. I usually buy size S or S/M, and they fit okay. Bob brought home a couple of Bears surgical masks--not going out for dinner during the game tomorrow night but I might wear one to my melanoma-MO appt. tomorrow morning. (Along with my "Real Bears Fans Wear Pink 2020" long-sleeve tee). My breast MO, his partner, suggested I get an initial consult with him.
Had my followup chest CT this afternoon, but pulled a muscle by my L SI joint getting out of the car at the hospital garage (very tight space to open the door) and then again getting out of the scanner. Having to bend down to feed the cats is aggravating it. Tylenol, ibuprofen, CBD tincture & topicals, heating pad and lidocaine roll-on aren't making a dent. Will slather on some Voltaren gel and then a lidocaine patch for sleep and see what happens.
Bob made it home for dinner, and says the hospitals were suprisingly quiet this weekend (despite the regional spike in COVID cases, which dipped by over 2000 today compared to yesterday, which was the state's all-time high and drove the IL Health Commissioner Dr. Ezike to tears).
Reviewed my NorthShore patient portal, and had an "aha moment." The brain/ear/head MRI/MRA/MRV reports from 7/1-7/3 mentioned, almost as an afterthought, a "tiny" 2x4mm area of "hyperfocus" in the "R orbit, posterior to the lens." It suggested in passing I might want to "follow up with ophthalmology." We glossed over it because I was having those scans to determine the cause of my pulsatile tinnitus (rule out aneurysm, acoustic neuroma or brain tumor). In other words, ears--not eyes. I might have missed it if not for that floater in the other eye a few days later that sent me to a retinologist who saw a growth in the R (obviously, in restrospect, the visible manifestation of that tiny "hyperfocus" area in the MRIs) and referred me to the ocular-onc at UIC who diagnosed it as melanoma and did the brachytherapy.
One more instance of proof that things in life are interrelated in ways that we don't notice at first.
Oct 26, 2020 09:41AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Measure wealth not by the things which you have,
but by the things you have for which you would not take money.
Oct 26, 2020 07:13PM CindyNY wrote:
I had my dexa scan 7:30 this morning, and as always, I asked for a copy. Once home I could compare to 3 previous - it's my first at endocrinologist office. Great news was my hip "neck" is all back in the normal range! No osteopenia. I'm weighing staying on generic Fosamax or doing infusion of Reclast. One of those if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
MO appt was 9:45, received an all good there too. But no stopping to make your next appt, and that's where I get a copy of blood work. I track that too. MO said I can call, they'll mail it.
Lastly was a chiropractor muscle therapist appt at 4. Heavenly and painful too. Enough so I must force myself to use the foam roller daily, on my legs & hips, or she'll knuckle out the muscle (IT band was so tight). I haven't been there in about a year. Once back from FL, w COVID, I wouldn't risk it.
Sandy - I hope your CT scan came out fine. Pulling a muscle to get there isn't on the program. I hope all of your remedies give some relief.
I'm showering, very early, to get my jammies on. A cool 47 here and rainy, drizzly all day. Talk of a snow dusting on Friday. Calgon, take me away!
Oct 26, 2020 07:19PM Cowgirl13 wrote:
Cindy, what is the foam roller? I sometimes fold up a towel, actually roll it, and ly on it on my back for a period of times and it helps with muscle ache.
Oct 26, 2020 07:30PM - edited Oct 26, 2020 07:35PM by ChiSandy
Good news from yesterday's chest CT scan--the lung nodule is stable (and the "nodularity" in the adrenals, likely related to letrozole affecting estrogen production, has actually reduced). Not-so-good news (again, an incidental finding): I have calcified plaques in my coronary arteries (age-appropriate, but unexpected for a woman--perhaps aggravated by estrogen deficiency or the calcium supplements I used to take before I was ordered to stop when my blood calcium levels were too high). Sigh--more fish and fiber, less red meat and butter in my future. No way can I go vegan without regaining weight.
Saw the melanoma-specialist MO this morning. He said my prognosis seems pretty good, because my ocular (choroidal) melanoma was so small. Ocular melanoma is almost never detected until it either affects vision or is visible on the outside. Gotta hand it to that L eye floater: had it not popped up I might not have gone to the retinologist, who found it unexpectably in the R eye and sent me to the ocular-onc at UIC. Because the brain/ear MRI scans were for an ear, not eye concern--and because the ENT said no need to see a neuro-ophthalmologist because the pulsatile tinnitus was caused by an inborn anatomical aberration, not a CSF leak--I might not have even followed up on those scans and the ocular melanoma might not have been discovered until it would cause a problem. He explained that the biopsy was likely done not to confirm the diagnosis but rather for genomic assay--and if the sample wasn't big enough for that I will need to go back to Medical Genetics for another blood draw to test for melanoma-related mutations that were not found back in 2015 when I was tested for the two BRCA, Chek2, and PALB2 mutations (or turned out to be among the weasel-worded "variants of unknown significance," which given the state of the science over the past 5 years may now have "known" significance).
And my back problems (piriformis & IT band) are both referred pain from spinal and SI-joint osteoarthritis and related to thinning in the area of the chunk of bone they dug out of my iliac wing back in 1997 to grind up & mix with epoxy for something for the R tibial hardware to grip after I was hit by a car.
Oct 26, 2020 11:33PM Reader425 wrote:
Cindy snoopy jammies early for me tonight too. That kind of day. I knitted a baby blanket for my grand-niece while I watched Perry Mason. Whoop!
Sandy you have really been through it. Glad your tests have been coming our 'relatively' good. I have the GI doctor and cardiologist on deck in the next few weeks. I really hate going to Drs, always have. But between an autoimmune ailment since my late 20s (Petite, similar to you) and Breast Cancer it seems its what I do. 🙄🙂
Oct 27, 2020 12:19AM ChiSandy wrote:
Well, my "Real Bears Fans Wear Pink" shirt didn't work this time: L.A. stomped all over them tonight (as predicted). So it's back into my knitted leopard-print PJs (not yet cold enough for the fleece ones). Either that, or scrubs with a long-sleeved underwear top beneath. Time to put away those cute shortie PJ sets for the season. Wore a winter car coat (wool, with hood) and gloves this a.m. to my MO appt. First time since early May.
Oct 27, 2020 08:51AM petite1 wrote:
Good morning, Ladies. On the thought of masks, I need a small one and my husband needs a large one. He has difficulty breathing, even without the mask. He usually wears it under his nose.
Oct 27, 2020 09:38AM IllinoisLady wrote:
We need to find the courage to say NO to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity. -Barbara De Angelis
Oct 27, 2020 10:04AM CindyNY wrote:
These are my foam rollers. Speckled one is harder/more dense. I lay on it for my back, roll out my spine, and do my legs for IT band, quads, and glutes.
If you've never used one, it sometimes hurts - but once you loosen up muscles, its a great thing for the body. I need to get back to doing it daily.
Oct 27, 2020 11:16PM Cowgirl13 wrote:
Thanks Cindy. Certainly better than rolled up towels.
Oct 27, 2020 11:22PM Taco1946 wrote:
Great quote today, IllinoisLady. BC has me much better at "No."
Oct 28, 2020 12:43AM ChiSandy wrote:
Petite, hate to say it but DH leaving his nose exposed is opening the door to the virus. Usual route of transmission is in through the nose, out through the mouth. He needs as large a mask as possible and to breathe slowly & deeply. Takes some getting used to, but it's doable. If need be, a double-folded neck gaiter is sufficient. Ask your or his doctor if s/he has any extra surgical masks, size L. Hardware, drug & beauty/barber supply stores have them too.
Oct 28, 2020 09:16AM IllinoisLady wrote:
I am optimistic and confident in all that I do. I affirm only the best for myself and others. I am the creator of my life and my world. I meet daily challenges gracefully and with complete confidence. I fill my mind with positive, nurturing, and healing thoughts. -Alice Potter
Oct 28, 2020 09:28AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Looks like we have another gray day on the horizon. I hope the rain holds off. I went to my clearance appt. with my Dr. yesterday. Cleared for the scope on the 5th. in our local hospital. The week before I had blood tests and EKG. All VERY normal. Blood sugar normal which had me worried but it was great -- so I seem to be in adequate shape for almost anything.
Sure will be glad when we have the election done with. No one needs the stress so try to stay relaxed ladies. I know -- not always easy, but we need to de-stress often just as much for wellness as possible. I think the thing is we are going to have aggravations from any number of things -- like work at our homes, etc. I find just coming here and talking to others works a lot of the time for me. I do admit living in a highly wooded area with lots of trees ( sentinels ) and wildlife also help to take a lot of the life's edges down a notch or two. Thinking of you all and hoping you have a good day and tolerable weather.
Oct 28, 2020 01:44PM Springdaisy wrote:
hello cowgirl, this is in regard to the RSPC which doctors can run for their patients. I am still waiting for my doctor to get back to me. I called oncotype in California and they were adamant that that is not part of their company. She made it sound like it’s a software that some doctors have on their computers. So how do I explain it to my doctor? I am 67 my nine year recurrence is 12% which I feel like is high. I know my recurrent score which is 25 won’t change but if that 12 could come down I would be happy. I’ve read about three or four women on this website that have had their doctors run it and it made a difference in their nine year percentage. It’s very hard getting an answer on this so far anyway. And who knows when my doctor will get back to me. Does anybody know the name of the company that provides software and what if my doctor doesn’t have it? Mine is lobular and no node involvement, grade 2 and Her2negative and positive on both estrogen and progesterone. Tumor was 1.1 CM.
Oct 28, 2020 03:37PM petite1 wrote:
Cindy, In his situation there is more to it than that, but it is a good thing he doesn't do much that requires him to wear one. I do the shopping, errands, etc.
Oct 28, 2020 10:05PM - edited Oct 28, 2020 10:31PM by ChiSandy
Springdaisy, your dx sounds like mine, except mine was ductal. There is a site called cancermath.uk where you can plug in your numbers (size, node status, grade, age, and planned treatments) and get a more specific recurrence-risk and survival-risk prediction. Don't know where you live, nor the sophistication of your local cancer treatment facility (or hospital or just medical office).
Cellars has decided to take down the tents and end patio dining for the season. It'll be open for takeout/delivery 6 nights a week for as long as they can stay afloat, starting next week. But they will be doing curbside wine pickup starting 2:30 pm tomorrow, so I'll swing by and pop the trunk for the 6 bottles we ordered last week. We will order from them every night they're open from next week on, even if it means we have to cram the fridge & freezer with leftovers (or eat dinner for breakfast). Bob & I were considering staking them to the cost of those semi-outdoor "igloos," which are still allowed under the city's new restrictions (which start Fri.), but they have too little available sidewalk space for enough of them (no more than 6 people per, and they must all be in the same party) to be able to make them viable to pay for the necessary servers.
The city and state went directly from Tier 3 of Phase 4 reopening (which had allowed 40% capacity indoor dining & drinking) to Tier 1 (no indoor service, period), w/o Tier 2 (25% capacity indoor service). Only 3 regions of the state are still in Tier 3, and two of them will probably join the other 8 this weekend if metrics don't improve. I have a mani-pedi scheduled tomorrow--and I have the sinking feeling it'll be the last one permitted after next week, because we're likely headed back to Phase 3 (no outdoor dining nor personal-care services). So much for finding a more "compliant" salon to get my ends trimmed and roots done too.
Went outside on my deck this afternoon with my cappuccino--and watched a big fat rabbit sit on my lawn wrinkling its nose. (Obvious as to why my little baby zucchinis disappeared). The rabbit's girth seems to be a clue that a colder-than-usual winter may be in the offing.
Judy, have you been able to find an alternative to moving back into the Mather? Are there units available on the first or second floor so you wouldn't be elevator-dependent?
I've decided to stop getting those keratin hair-straightening treatments (aka Brazilian Blowout or Keratin Complex) after reading a NYTimes article that in 2018 the FDA wanted to ban them because even the ones that no longer have formaldehyde still have methylene chloride, which releases formaldehyde when heated (blowdryers & flatirons) to the very high temperatures necessary to make them "take." (Beauty industry lobbyists slammed the brakes on the ban). I've started using Elvive "8 Second Miracle" lamellar water instead of conditioner after shampooing--it seals the cuticle without any chemicals that release fumes even when heated. (You can even let your hair towel-or-air-dry). I realize that I may be sealing my salon (and stylist's) economic doom, but I suspect the city or state will shut down hair salons & barbershops again soon anyway. My gray roots aren't as awful as my dark brown ones used to be.
Oct 29, 2020 09:21AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Whether one is twenty, forty, or sixty; whether
one has succeeded, failed, or just muddled along;
whether yesterday was full of sun or storm,
or one of those dull days with no weather at
all, life begins each morning!
Leigh Mitchell Hodges
Oct 29, 2020 09:27AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Good morning. Had more rain and some wind overnight. Well, this was forecast that we would have a week of it plus real coolish temps. I hope tomorrow is, even if gray, dry. Have to go to Marion for my 3 month pedicure and maybe an Echogram. No big deal on the Echogram. Just checking on the heart murmur I've had since a long bout with Rheumatic Fever when I was 8 yrs. old. I had no trouble enlisting in the WAC in the early 60's at 18 -- so it is just a check so that I'm up to date in my V.A. medical records. Our Dr. at the satellite ofc. likes to be thoroughly informed about anything -- so as to make things less complicated for the needs of older patients. We all have more confidence then.
Hope you are all going to have a good day. You are all on my mind and I'm sending a wave and hello to all those who don't post a lot.
Oct 29, 2020 09:41AM carolehalston wrote:
I'm thankful to report that Zeta wasn't a major happening for us. We had some rain and wind but no trees were blown down and our power stayed on. A number of people are without power this morning in other areas but a front has brought cooler air so that the lack of power won't be a big heat issue. I haven't heard about any loss of lives.
I plan to go to a Chair Yoga class today. DH is headed to the gym now for his exercise.
Wishing everyone a good Thursday.