Meet other women who are similar in age and dealing with age-appropriate issues.
Posted on: Feb 7, 2009 06:29PM
I am an "older" woman with breast cancer (I was diagnosed at 65 and am now 66). I notice that most of the posts seem to be from people younger than I am (often by quite a bit...). I'd love to "talk" with others my age, exchange info about their diagnoses, effects on their lives, etc. I see that there is a forum for young women.
Someone suggested that maybe it's that older people aren't so computer-savvy or aren't used to being in online discussion groups. However, for those who are, it would be great.
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Oct 29, 2020 10:42AM Beaverntx wrote:
Carole, so glad you had just a storm and not a disaster!
We are still cold and very windy. Had to turn the furnace on.
Oct 29, 2020 11:17AM MCBaker wrote:
I got a special order of antidepressants from the library. She chose surprises for me; they have a computer program that runs through checkout history and present preferences and gives recommendations. "Joy Luck Club" and :"At Home in Mitford". Mysteries can be so gloomy.
I think I will take down my manifesto, those who would read it have probably already read it. I hate polarization and false assumptions based on religious and political affiliation. And I am not politically affiliated, which breaks another affiliation. I need more light in apt. Putting film on the window on my front door helps, but I need all the light I can get. Beginning to wonder.....
I got my https://www.amazon.com/Wholesale-Layers-Womens-Ind...=sr_1_16?crid=XLYAJWB25XH&dchild=1&keywords=sari+wrap+skirts+for+women&qid=1603984184&sprefix=sari+wrap%2Caps%2C211&sr=8-16 It was much more expensive than these. But I am still happy with it.
I also got some wool with a spindle so I can learn to spin, and be able to spin Tippy's clippings.
Then I am beginning to review my writing project.
Oct 29, 2020 01:09PM Betrayal wrote:
Another gloomy day here and after nearly a week of this, it is wearing thin. The west coast could use this rain and we have had our fare share. Dampness and dreariness doesn't improve my mood nor my joint pain.
Insulation guys are coming back today to install baffles in attic today and I cannot understand why they did not do this when they put in the insulation. A/C guys also have to come back because they were unable to do hookups from attic to dampers in MBR due to an issue with angles? We need the siding guys to complete the siding and to install exit portals for the bathroom exhaust systems. The electrician still has a lot to do and we are in a holding pattern for all of this completion work. The painter wants to come but the areas he needs to paint are filthy with drywall dust, wood dust, etc. and no one seems to be doing the prep. I will not let them paint until the walls and wood work are clean; the first rule of painting is start with a clean surface. Still need shutters installed, etc. So the list is still miles too long and the first year anniversary of initial damage will be this weekend.
Saw an audiologist about tinnitus today and learned a lot. She explained hearing test results far better than MD. Hearing loss in dog whistle range is gone and is really only relevant if I am 1. 21 years old, not and 2. I am a dog, not. They offer a 2 month test of hearing aids with a "notch" in them that should knock back tinnitus if they will work for me. If I buy the hearing aids the trial fee is applied to cost, if I decided they are not for me, then I am out the trial fee which is much less than cost of hearing aids I won't use or ones that don't work. I have difficulty with ear buds especially sizing and fit since most are too large, and she explained that this is not an issue with today's hearing aids. So this also gives me time to explore other options before I see her again.
Oct 29, 2020 02:57PM - edited Oct 29, 2020 11:26PM by IllinoisLady
MC: Glad you were able to find good things at the library. I hear you about the light. I also need a lot as well .Carole, always good to hear about storms that by-pass you.
Betrayal, ooh, we are gray again today as well. Some mist on the way to work, but so far I can't call it rain. Still, I so need the sun to bloom so I an not a happy camper. The forecast was for a week so that means a couple more days I think. Just ick, if I may say so.
I'm sorry to hear that you still have all that work that is hanging out un-done. Even though it sounds like a lot of the work is sort of minimal, still to have it outstanding after all this time and the minimal things are not what you think of as work still needing to be done. Here's hoping someone DESPERATELY wants to end their relationship with you and just grabs the bull by the horns and goes for it.
Hope you have smooth sailing for whatever you choose for your ears. Hugs.
Oct 29, 2020 04:14PM Beaverntx wrote:
Betrayal, I too have small ear canals, one with an unusual curve. Early efforts with hearing aids were not very successful ( I would take them out due to discomfort, left a pair on an end table, the dog found them and I found only the pieces!) Have finally gotten some that will stay in place. As with so many other things, there have been major strides in hearing aids in more recent times. Anyone else remember the old time aids with the battery pack in a shirt pocket?
Oct 29, 2020 04:37PM IllinoisLady wrote:
I remember the old fashioned aids. My dad had the thingy like a very abbreviated camisole sort of with the pocket in the middle of the upper chest area. It was sort of wild in a way -- and only one ear and earpiece. Likely all that was possible in those days. It was a Beltone Hearing Aid. Seemed always to whistle and he would have to adjust the earpiece or turn it down and then back up. He wore it all of my life ( I was born in 1945 ) until he passed on in 1996. The Army provided it since he was a disabled vet. Mine which are very nice come from the Army as well. They give me new ones ( apparently a calculated shelf life ) every four yrs. and provide all the batteries I use.
Oct 29, 2020 06:24PM CindyNY wrote:
Betrayal - my heart goes out to you. Holidays are around the corner and the stress just keeps coming.
Our covid rates are increasing again, nothing drastic but a slow tic up. Our state universities are testing all kids going home for Thanksgiving so they don't take the virus home with them.
Weather, I'm glad Zeta missed you. We've had rain all night and day. As strange as it sounds, I swear they said result from Zeta. Snow to start tonight as the rain hits a cold front coming down from Canada.
I think we have a roof leak on the front porch, it's a finished enclosed porch. I dread calling a contractor but it can't wait long. Plumber, Friday of last week said I was on the schedule for snaking the roof vent. Then rain, wind, and more rain. I haven't heard back from them. I'll call them tomorrow too.
Everyone have a good night.
Oct 29, 2020 07:06PM keywestfan wrote:
Sandy, A real conundrum about moving back to the Mather. No other available rentals in Glencoe and the thought and effort and expense of moving to some other suburb, being disoriented, etc. is disheartening, as is the chance of possibly getting the virus in long term independent living. But we did go there for delivery of an elliptical I bought and seeing our beautiful lake view apartment felt like being home for the first time in 6 months- although have loved being back in Glencoe and the long mask-less walks because no one is on the streets at 6:30 am or,hardly, at any other time. But being in the building itself with those elevators, corridors, maintenance men, waiters, concierges, felt much less safe than being in our rental house, even though I double masked. There is a 3 year wait for apartments, so nada available. Will just be very attentively on guard. Of course, the elliptical, because I won’t use the gym, was not assembled correctly and makes a hideous grating noise and isn’t usable til fixed. Mather made an exception letting a delivery man come in the building, but I doubt they’ll let him back in to fix it. We are moving about 45 bankers boxes back on Nov 7 and final move on Friday the 13th.
So strange that I won’t, haven’t goneto beauty shop, have had hair cut in back yard, no manicure, nails look horrible, even with Nailtiques, but that I’m moving back into what might become a hot bed of the virus.
Went to derm today for full body check. Go back in 6 weeks, to recheck tiny dot that she’s pretty sure is a pimple on my leg. Mohs surgery, 5 weeks ago, scars have healed beautifully on my forehead, but still, masked, wrinkled,scarred, makes me realize, once againS, that I’m 19 no more.
Oct 29, 2020 10:20PM Taco1946 wrote:
Carole - glad you were spared Zeda. What is your course doing about Covid precautions? Ours, which went to four carts allowed in March has now decided to go back to two "to save the grass." Needless to say, I'm not happy. My foursome seems to have decided how we want to handle it, with 4 carts alternating who walks from the cart path and who drives on the course. All 4 of us have husbands at high risk and we don't want to share carts. We have been really careful and played all summer, even masking for the brief time we were in the locker room to post our scores.
I used to participate in league play once a week but don't think I will right now. On "opening day" they plan a two cart/four person scramble and then lunch inside seated at tables for 6 with someone other than those you played golf with earlier. Being inside over there feels less and less comfortable. They are skirting the guidelines by doing things like booking two separate events that really is one. The holiday bizarre is being held in 4 sessions with the same vendors both days.
Ken, age 77, had an impacted wisdom tooth removed yesterday. He feels better than he expected to but we are overwhelmed with his dietary restrictions for 4 weeks. Not even sure he should eat his Thanksgiving turkey. We've had a weekly dinner with friends for years and even though we feel safe with them, I don't what we will eat. Mashed potatoes and cottage cheese will only make it for so many dinners. Tonight he had an Arby's large milkshake and I had a sub. Oh well, "it is what it is." We won't starve.
Stay safe everyone.
Oct 29, 2020 11:03PM - edited Oct 29, 2020 11:14PM by ChiSandy
Mary, "Joy Luck Club" made me a huge Amy Tan fan. I've read every one of her novels.
Carole, so glad Zeta decided not to hang around NOLA very long. I hear it did go right through the Quarter, though; but this time the new floodgates and sea-wall held up.
Jackie, I agree that echocardiograms are no big deal. Kinda cool watching the screen, especially the color ones. Turned extremely windy today. Had my mani-pedi (normally get manis every other week and pedis every four, but I missed the last mani due to quarantining). Nail tech remarked today how well my fingernails are holding up--probably due at least in part to going four weeks between acetone soak-and-scrape-offs. Had the left hand ones clipped down to the quick so I can pick up my guitar and start rebuilding calluses. Ingrown toenails weren't too bad today--I bring along a can of lidocaine spray, which helps a lot. I suspect this may be my last mani-pedi till spring, if IL keeps setting daily COVID case records.
The kids decided to cancel their "igloo" reservation at Sapori for tomorrow night, after reading that unless they're open on one side, limited to one table, and aired out for at least 10 min. and disinfected between parties igloos & plastic "cabins" are really not much safer than indoor dining. Tents are safer, so long as 50% open on the sides. But most of the risk either way is to the servers. They will be going to Houston to visit her family for Christmas, renting a large house on a half-acre so nobody has to share a bedroom (except with their significant others) and everyone can still distance. As far as Thanksgiving, Gordy doesn't know about his work schedule yet. Bob & I will work around him. We're considering having an outlet put on the outside back walll to plug in an electric heater, and perhaps look at home outdoor dining tents for the deck. (Propane is too much of a fire hazard). We still won't have friends over, nor go to their homes, no matter how strictly they've sheltered-in-place--so long as Bob goes to work, he still poses a risk.
Judy, I think so long as you are super-prudent about masking whenever outside your apt. door you should be okay at the Mather. Hope you can get the elliptical fixed, though. Evanston sidewalks in the very early morning can be just as deserted (and safe for walking) as those in Glencoe. Will the Mather allow restaurant meal and grocery deliveries?
I ordered out from a French bistro in Ravenswood tonight--didn't want to risk eating there for tonight's "last hurrah" of indoor dining. Wonder if The Barn will put more heaters in its tent--even enlarge it--for the winter. We've really come to enjoy dining there, chilly though it may be. Cellars wiil be doing curbside pickup all weekend of the wines we ordered a week ago; and they plan to reopen Tuesday night for takeout & delivery.
Oct 30, 2020 09:04AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Youth is not a time of life, it is a state of mind. You are as old as your doubt, your fear, your despair. The way to keep young is to keep your faith young. Keep your self-confidence young. Keep your hope young. -Luella F. Phean
Oct 30, 2020 09:06AM - edited Oct 30, 2020 04:00PM by IllinoisLady
Well thank goodness it looks to be coolish but a sunny day at last and I won't mind so much driving to Marion today. Was afraid that it would be raining. I am wishing success for all endeavors today. Hint: Knowing I am going to see sun all day helps me be hopeful and feeling a huge desire to be positive.
Hope you all have a wonderful day.
Oct 30, 2020 10:26AM carolehalston wrote:
Thanks so much for the comments that indicate concern for me during the storm. It means a lot, especially during this time of relative isolation.
Keywest, your apartment to which you're returning sounds like a wonderful place, with a view of the lake. I, too, hope you can get the elliptical working properly. An elliptical is great exercise, much more vigorous than a treadmill.
Wearing a mask has eliminated much of my use of makeup. Before Covid I used a tinted sunscreen on my face every day. Now there's no point in using sunscreen. A mask covers my face. I do use a little mascara but rarely bother with additional eye makeup since I began to wear glasses the last couple of years. I feel like I'm invisible behind my mask and glasses.
The Chair Yoga class at the Y is not as popular as the other Silver Sneakers classes, which are call Chair Exercise. I enjoyed the yoga class yesterday, attended by about 10 people. The stretches are very relaxing. I hope our Covid cases don't increase to the point that I will need to stop going to the gym. I plan to go to a Chair Exercise class today. We actually do the majority of the exercise standing, but people with limitations have the option of sitting.
Dh has used Zoom quite a bit since Covid hit. He attends meeting and classes featuring wood turning. He mentioned last night that he hopes to set up a Zoom session with his family at Thanksgiving. This will be the first Thanksgiving in many years that we haven't travelled north to IL or IN to have Thanksgiving with his family. It will also be the first big holiday for his family without dh's sister, who died this year. She was the Thanksgiving dinner hostess for numerous years when she was healthy.
Happy Friday to all.
Oct 30, 2020 02:10PM petite1 wrote:
Hi, Ladies. It has been a little cooler today and I opened up the house, no a/c, and aired it out. I love the fresh air smell or lack of smells. LOL
Oct 31, 2020 09:06AM petite1 wrote:
Good morning, ladies. It is cool, in the 50's. I wore a hoodie while enjoying a pleasant walk. Hope everyone has a pleasant weekend.
Oct 31, 2020 09:07AM IllinoisLady wrote:
In real life I have qualms, a moral code, a sense of duty. I live within confines. In books, I am free to soar and to explore. There are no limits to my being.
Books, with their secret knowledge, free me from myself. I'm never alone. The greatest minds in history wait by my bed, sit patiently in bookcases, respond to my touch. I reach out and they are there, waiting to transport me to another realm. -Linda Weltner
Oct 31, 2020 09:11AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Another sunny day on the roster. I'm loving it. I was sinking fast after a whole week of gray and much to my surprise got to go to Marion in full sunshine with my sun-glasses on. I hope all of you are having nice weather as well. In much agreement with the latest entries on here. Sometimes I forget to respond to entries ( get so focused on the quote ) and if so I apologize.
A busy week coming up and one I will be glad to have over. Lots and lots of work -- but idle hands as they say so I should stay out of trouble. Just hope I recognize myself if I meet me.
Have a wonderful day, ladies.
Oct 31, 2020 10:02AM carolehalston wrote:
Taco, forgive me for not replying sooner to your query about precautions at our golf club. We are still allowed to take a cart without someone else riding with us. But I learned that the cart barn employees have stopped sanitizing the carts. The women's events luncheons have taken place outside on a patio. I have not attended any of those. Masks are required of those entering the clubhouse because of the governor's mandate.
If the club changes its cart policy, I will not rent a cart and will not play with the Tuesday/Friday group to which I belong. As in all other shopping and socializing considerations, I figure it's up to me to look out for myself.
Oct 31, 2020 10:41AM - edited Oct 31, 2020 10:42AM by Betrayal
Loved the quote about how books can transport us to another realm, introducing us to the thoughts and feelings of others and keep us from being alone. How appropriate for this point in time.
edited for lousy typing
Oct 31, 2020 09:34PM CindyNY wrote:
19 degrees overnight, full sun today with a high 42 I think.
I'm remiss in keeping track of who is doing what. I've read posts, meant to post, even did a long one and hit the back arrow by mistake, gone.
I had sad news today. Back in my bowling days our league was compromised of mostly one family, with us outsiders filling the league. I found out one of the "moms" had passed away last night from stage IV breast cancer. It sounded like in May she was in FL golfing, no problems, then in a few months home in hospice. Even more unsettling is her daughter, maybe 50, also has stage IV BC. I'm planning on attending the wake, covid sets number of people inside, so it will be brief. They're a great family.
Halloween - I had two kids show up. We had treats in a bowl (opened bags, poured in & never touched them), and I set it on the porch floor and used one of those gripper things (used to reach higher item on shelves) to drop candy in their bags. LOL The lengths we go to hope some kid has a good night. Halloween 2020, it's a wrap.
I've made a goal for November to get out and walk for 1/2 hour everyday. I'm still not comfortable going into a gym, and my past gym closed for good, so I've got to do something - besides remote school all day to nap and pass out at bedtime.
Here's hoping everyone has a good Sunday.
Oct 31, 2020 11:44PM Taco1946 wrote:
Carole - thanks for the info on your golf group. At Briarwood, most of us have our own carts but I have wondered how well the Club's carts get cleaned. On Tuesdays, we can sign up as a 4some but on Thurs. they try to mix us up so I won't be playing with the League that day. My foursome has decided that we will continue to take separate carts and alternate which two carts drive on the course and which two of us will walk in from the sidewalk. We are walking all 9 now because of overseeing but the 90 year old and I (with bad knees) really struggle. All 4 of us have husbands with pre-existing conditions and we aren't willing to deal with the risks. We felt really comfortable playing this summer even when AZ numbers surged but we were able to drive separately and masked even for the few minutes we were posting our scores. No state mandate. Maricopa County has one but it's pretty casually enforced at our Club.
I have second hand information from a local police dept. that they expect violence whoever wins. I'm filling the bathtub and have stocked up on batteries and candles although Ken thinks I'm over-reacting. I hope he's right!
Nov 1, 2020 01:08AM Cowgirl13 wrote:
Taco, I think you are very smart to stock up on things. I went to Ross clothing store today and it was already boarded up but I am here in SF and folks come from all over to bust things up. Not to be negative but I do think there will be violence no matter who wins. Our governor has plans in order to deal with it.
Nov 1, 2020 06:26AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Realize that each soul is related to you. When you recognize that everyone is a part of you, you will find you cannot withdraw from another. Elsie Morgan
Nov 1, 2020 06:34AM IllinoisLady wrote:
We don't get Trick or Treaters here in the woods. I am hoping ( though I've heard it is beginning to happen ) that there is not another round of hoarding and stocking up well past personal needs. I do think one extra package of certain things might be okay. Last time the hoarding too place we never really ran out of anything though we did come close. Strange pairings at a couple of meals, but not a big deal over-all.
I think we really might ( not sure too much will go on in our little berg ) have harsh issues this election and I pray we all stay safe and anything that does go on is taken care of quickly and without too much harm to anyone. Lot to ask maybe but I'll still hope we all make it through okay.
Loving the sunny weather. Got up at 5 this morning -- ahem, it was really 4 -- but I went to bed an hour early so I'm pretty well rested anyway.
Nov 1, 2020 08:43AM - edited Nov 1, 2020 08:45AM by IllinoisLady
Not meant as a political post, but some viewpoints for your possible actions or reactions as we get into the time period for same day voting and the election. We all want to be safe and feel secure. I will not be posting anything else here ( our policy is only EXTREMELY light political statements as well as religious viewpoints, afterwards, but this time is like no other -- and I hope this will help.
1 big thing: A safe, sane way to navigate election night — and beyond
On Halloween, Colin Buckley of Omaha wears a Spiderman suit as he votes early at the Douglas County Election Commission office in Omaha, Neb. Photo: Nati Harnik/AP
We all need to be clear-eyed about the social and political volatility heading into Election Day:
But all of us — Democrats, Republicans, independents alike — can do our part to minimize the drama and darker scenarios, Axios CEO Jim Vandehei writes:
1. Vote and then chill until late Tuesday night. There'll be dumb rumors, wild speculation and armchair projections, all of it meaningless.
2. Don't expect a quick, clear winner: We can't stress enough the chance of it taking days to fully count mail-in and absentee votes, to determine the real outcome in places like Pennsylvania and Wisconsin.
3. Brace for the possibility of a "Red Mirage." We first told you about this term, coined by the Democratic data firm Hawkfish, on "Axios on HBO" before Labor Day:
4. Don't share social-media posts that aren't from a source you trust and know well. Period. Too many people share too much garbage too often.
5. Don't overreact. You might see images on cable or social media of protests, or what seem like massive voter intimidation or issues. This can often seem bigger or more widespread than it is.
6. Expect that President Trump may refuse to accept results, if he loses.
7. Don't hyperventilate about court cases. There will probably be many. But wait until there are actual verdicts and appeals to appraise the significance.
8. Brace yourself for 78 days of drama and turmoil from Nov. 4 through the inauguration.
What's next: The nation is headed into a firestorm. There's no way it's orderly or normal, or even necessarily over when it seems over.
We can all be safe if we are careful and mindful about what is going on around us. Likely a useless statement but try not to worry. It tends to add wrinkles and a lot of times a huge variety of our worries never bear fruit.
Nov 1, 2020 09:02AM carolehalston wrote:
Interesting and somewhat surprising to me that there are expectations of violence no matter which side wins. I'm partisan and tend to expect violence from "the other side." I will be glad when the election is over and enough days pass for the count to be completed. For all the lawyers on the "other side" to do their thing in trying to prevent votes from being counted while the lawyers on "my side" try to block them.
On the one hand, I think it would be more efficient to have a national standard of voting but our current system does make hacking the system more complicated. When there are so many systems.
We have not voted early because our voting site is nearby in the gym of an elementary school. Our precinct is small and we've never had to contend with long lines. I hope that's the case on Tuesday.
It's a pretty, cool Sunday here. DH and I need to reset the clocks around the house.
Nov 1, 2020 12:03PM MCBaker wrote:
At freezing, but wicked winds. Did not want to ride scooter to Mass. Called a friend for transportation, but she told me one of our priests is sick with C, and of course they live together, so the other might get it too. Her husband has chronic leukemia, so they did not go. I decided to skip it too. I am sure Msgr. would not be distributing the Eucharist, but....
Tippy (initially typed yippy) was difficult last night, so he ended up sleeping with me. I think I will go down for a nap. Made some changes, and I hope things will settle down, there are negative and positive aspects of co-sleeping, especially with a small dog.
I have things to do, but they will happen later.