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Apr 5, 2021 09:52PM
Apr 5, 2021 09:54PM
Judy, how wonderful that you get to return to Key West! Some day....
Mary, glad you've recognized your depression and are getting counseled for it. Nothing wrong with "Effexor-for-life." In fact, I had a full year of postpartum depression (with anorexia for the first 7 months--not a recommended weight-loss method) starting about when Gordy was about 8 weeks old. Because of the meds I was on (after trying several different ones, a combo of Xanax & Desyrel), I had to stop breastfeeding him, and I still feel so guilty about that. I was okay w/o meds for the next 6 years, regaining all the weight I lost and then some, losing again on Jenny Craig and then beginning to regain. I then learned that Prozac sometimes caused weight loss, so my primary put me on it--and then Redux, which worked very well. Then I was hit by a car, and shortly afterward, Redux was pulled from the market. I tried Effexor (which for me was "side-Effexor") and eventually went back on Prozac, and a year later Wellbutrin--which I'm still on 22 yrs. later.
My doctors have all told me that of all the meds I'm on, antidepressants would be the last one they'd have me discontinue. My shrink (actually the family shrink) retired last year after open-heart surgery; haven't felt the need yet to find a new one. If I do, I'd like it to be an oncopsychiatrist. This past year has been a bit of a rollercoaster, especially since the melanoma dx. It sometimes causes insomnia (especially if I've forgotten to take my 1/2 mg. of Xanax at bedtime) because I obsess over the "what if it spreads?" fears. (Unlike cutaneous, metastatic ocular melanoma doesn't respond to drugs or immunotherapy).
I got into a bit of a kerfuffle the other day over on WhatNext (an all-cancers blog/forum, though breast is far & away the most common over there). There are a few hardcore Evangelicals on there, and yesterday one made a post saying "Whatever your faith, the Message of Easter will lift you up, because history shows Jesus walked the earth, helping, healing & teaching." I gently (at first) responded that it was a cancer forum, with no sub-threads for various interests & spiritualities like we have here on BCO, and that it was not an appropriate place for proselytizing--especially because it made those of other faiths uncomfortable and that not everybody regards the Bible as history. I was tempted to ask what exactly "the Message of Easter" is, but I didn't have to, because...
She and several others shot back that Easter is all about "love," which "everyone can get behind." One took issue with the word "Easter" because to her it refers to a pagan holiday (she posted a YouTube link as "proof"), and snippily said "true" Christians call it "Resurrection Day." Another said she would never be offended by a post that did not fit her faith, and besides, where was my proof that Jesus didn't "heal, help & teach?" I replied that to many Jews (especially the majority in Jerusalem before the Crucifixion), many of his teachings were offensive--especially the one commanding followers to leave their parents and cut all ties with them unless the parents were true believers, which to many Biblical scholars was a rejection of the 4th Commandment ('honor thy father & mother").
I also explained that to many Jews--especially those of us with roots in the Pale of Settlement--being evangelized to about Easter is a trigger. Too many of our (including my) ancestors were terrorized, persecuted and even killed in the name of "the Message of Easter," which all too often was an excuse to rampage through the shtetls & ghettos, wreaking revenge on the perceived "Christ-killers." (Christmas isn't anywhere near much of a trigger, as it was never used as a justification to commit violence). I said that until either people stopped proselytizing on the site or there was a subforum designated for doing so, I was leaving WhatNext (which IMHO devolved since the death of its founder GregWP from head & neck cancer earlier this year). I don't need it--I have all of you here (plus my three bc mentees and ocular melanoma mentor at Imerman Angels).
Sorry if I offended some here (I may likely have), but I had to vent about what Easter sometimes means to me (and many Jews), other than new beginnings, Peeps and biting the ears & butts off chocolate bunnies.
Diagnosed at 64 on routine annual mammo, no lump. OncotypeDX 16. I cried because I had no shoes...but then again, I won’t get blisters....
9/9/2015, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC)
9/22/2015 Lumpectomy: Right
11/1/2015 3DCRT: Breast
12/30/2015 Femara (letrozole)