Topic: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

Forum: Older Than 60 Years Old With Breast Cancer — Meet other women who are similar in age and dealing with age-appropriate issues.

Posted on: Feb 7, 2009 05:29PM

Posted on: Feb 7, 2009 05:29PM

Northstar wrote:

I am an "older" woman with breast cancer (I was diagnosed at 65 and am now 66).  I notice that most of the posts seem to be from people younger than I am (often by quite a bit...).   I'd love to "talk" with others my age, exchange info about their diagnoses, effects on their lives, etc.   I see that there is a forum for young women.

Someone suggested that maybe it's that older people aren't so computer-savvy or aren't used to being in online discussion groups.   However, for those who are, it would be great. 

DX 8/15/08, ILC, 5.1 cm, Stage IIb, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-, Oncotype DX 11.
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Sep 11, 2012 09:46AM illinoislady wrote:

[Common sense] is the best sense I know of.
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Each day I am thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, dreams that turned into reality and likes that turned into love. ~~~Elizabeth Kuebler-Ross Dx 9/27/2007, IDC, 5cm, Stage II, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Sep 11, 2012 02:34PM carolehalston wrote:

Bonnets, sorry for not replying sooner.  Congrats on BRCA negative!  I also tested BRCA negative a couple of years before I was dx'ed with IDC.  I do have a family history, though not directly from my mother.  My father's half sister and her younger daughter died of bc.  My aunt's older daughter had bc in situ and is a survivor.  All three, aunt and 2 cousins, were BRCA positive.  Even my aunt's two sons are positive.  One of the sons has two daughters.  My surviving cousin has a daughter who tested positive, and this daughter has had elective BMX and Reconstruction and a hysterectomy.  This is what is recommended for young women who are BRCA positive--after the young women have had their children.  BRCA positive women have an 80 per cent risk of developing bc.

My bc dr. was also my aunt's dr. and my deceased cousin's dr.  So Dr. Lagarde was familiar with the family history.  She also knew I had tested BRCA negative.  She explained my surgery options and I could have opted for lumpectomy.  But that would have meant having radiation.  Plus I was an A cup and I would have ended up looking deformed.  I would also have to endure more mammograms and more fears of another tumor being discovered.  It just made sense to me to minimize my risks of future bc by having the BMX with immediate reconstruction.  One surgery.  Go into the hospital with breasts.  Come out of the hospital with breasts.  The recovery was longer than for a lumpectomy but I avoided radiation.

I was lucky enough to get a low oncotype dx score, indicating lower risk of recurrence.  So I also avoided chemo.

Dr. Lagarde explained to me very gently after I was recovered that people who have one type of cancer are more likely to develop another kind of cancer than are people who've never had any kind of cancer.  She urged me to keep up with all types of screening.  For colon cancer, for example.

On a more pleasant subject, we're in a lovely rv park on the MS river in LaCrosse, WI.  Our truck is undergoing front alignment and is getting new "balls."  Did the rest of you knew trucks had balls?!

Tomorrow we're planning to move on to Madison, the state capitol.  DH wants to see the capitol building.  On Thurs. we'll move on to Milwaukee to begin the first of a series of family visits.  We have not been to Milwaukee before this will be a new  discovery.

It looks like fall here.  Lots of leaves on the ground.  Today is lovely with sunshine and a breeze and temp. in the high 70's. 

Hope everyone is having a good day.

Nipple-Sparing BMX w/Alloderm & Silicone Implants 7/24/09, Oncotype Dx 9, No Chemo, No Rads, Arimidex Dx 6/25/2009, IDC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 3, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Sep 11, 2012 04:06PM bonnets wrote:

Thanks, Carol. I figured if I  tested positive I wud have the bi with  immediate reconstruction. I did find a group of  drs in my area that have been doing it for about 10 years. REad the paper they published, but for now, if the nodes are clean, ill do  the lumpectomy. Our only history is my daughter, who was 27 at dx, passing at 33.If I get a recurrance, I will go for the double and recon. Didn't think I'd do reconstruction , but finding out about the one step, I wud opt for that.

I know my surgeon, had been seeing him for the last year , due to my  history with my daughter, so hope to get this going soon. See him tomorrow. 

Beautiful here in the HUdson Valley, hubby is out mowing. Guess supper will have to wait. 

Bonnets Dx 8/30/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 9/13/2012 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 10/21/2012 Breast
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Sep 12, 2012 07:14AM chevyboy wrote:

Morning gals!  Jackie, have you been getting the last batch of emails from me?  Maybe something is wrong with one of our servers?  Let me know, okay? xoxoxoxoxo

Don't walk ahead of me, I might not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not want to lead. Just walk beside me & be my friend. Dx 11/2009, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+ Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Sep 12, 2012 08:33AM illinoislady wrote:

When you feel worried and depressed, consciously form a smile on your face and act upbeat until the happy feeling becomes genuine.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Each day I am thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, dreams that turned into reality and likes that turned into love. ~~~Elizabeth Kuebler-Ross Dx 9/27/2007, IDC, 5cm, Stage II, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Sep 12, 2012 08:41AM illinoislady wrote:

Morning everyone.  Oh it is so pretty....nice and cool in the mornings lately.  I know real Fall will soon start, but have to say this feels like the early part of summer we actually missed.  Still can't believe that the drought and terrific heat began in June and never really let up much until now.  Our lawns are green again and it is mostly pleasant to be outside.  Sigh !!!!  It won't last  long enough for me.

 Finally have the new lawn machine....wow !!!!  It went in the truck ( dh had to drive about an hour from here to get it ) in a huge box with a forklift.  Had to be set up on a couple of pallets so it wouldn't crush the wheel wells......and it was a slow drive home.  I was amazed.  But.....guess I should have expected it.....after all it will crush anything in its path more or less....that is eat and mulch ( and the results can be used as mulch ) all leaves, nuts, small twigs and branches that can go into the machine. 

Chevy ---- I am not getting a thing from you.  I guess I will have to call Charter and see what they have to say.  Interesting.....I seem to have plenty of subs, and other email.  Hope we get it fixed.  I need your brand of comfort.

Hugs, Jackie

Each day I am thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, dreams that turned into reality and likes that turned into love. ~~~Elizabeth Kuebler-Ross Dx 9/27/2007, IDC, 5cm, Stage II, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Sep 12, 2012 10:14AM mommarch wrote:

Good Morning everyone.  We got back from Iowa on Sunday evening.  We had a nice visit.  My Mom is doing pretty good.  Glad we went.  We took Rosie with us and bought her a doggie car seat on the way through Odessa at Pet's Mart.  Wow did that make a difference, it is great, I would suggest it to anyone with a small dog who travels with them. 

DH still having knee and shoulder trouble, will see ortho on Friday and I have my 6 month mamo on friday.  GD is still with us for now.  Daughter in FL.  they are to be married on Oct. 20th unless they decide to elope before.  Future husband was in Louiana on a job and for some reason the company had to shut the job down.  He texted DD and told her she needed to come to LA this weekend and then he walked in the back door.  How funny.  Kind of like what my Hubby would have done in earlier years. 

My sister who was in the motorcycle accident, is doing well, got to see both my sisters.  The trip really wore me out but am doing better today.  Well had better get this work done that I am paid for.

Take Care

Life isn't about waiting for the Storm to pass...it's learning how to dance in the Rain! Vivian Green, writer and artist Dx 3/11/2011, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 0/23 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Sep 13, 2012 09:17AM illinoislady wrote:

Mommarch....always good to hear when parents  ( your mom ) are pretty much holding their own.  I often miss my Mom a lot....while at the same time being glad that she no longer suffers in any way.  You never quite let go though and it always brings me joy to hear good news of someone else's mom or dad. 

I am intrigued about the dog car seat.  We don't take long trips, but Baby Boss ( our Pomeranian ) when going to the groomer's always whines and is very antsy.....not quite hyper as such but still paces a bit too and fro on your lap......don't know if that would help him or not, but I've gotten to dread grooming time for this reason.  I now give him a bath at home, but have to take him for hair cuts now and then and ggrrrrr.

Hope your Dh gets good news tomorrow.  I think aging has some real pitfalls.....only thing good is we older folks have usually enough patience to get thru it.  I hope both of you do well on Friday.  

Good news about your sister too......Even though the trip was wearing....maybe some of that was relief that you saw your sisters and they are doing all right.  I think we can get over-stimulated by any news good or bad. 

Hope you all have a fantastic day.

Hugs, Jackie 

Each day I am thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, dreams that turned into reality and likes that turned into love. ~~~Elizabeth Kuebler-Ross Dx 9/27/2007, IDC, 5cm, Stage II, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Sep 13, 2012 09:18AM illinoislady wrote:

Here's an interesting take on things:

. The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be - Marcel Pagnol.

Each day I am thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, dreams that turned into reality and likes that turned into love. ~~~Elizabeth Kuebler-Ross Dx 9/27/2007, IDC, 5cm, Stage II, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Sep 13, 2012 04:19PM bonnets wrote:

Surgery tomorrow AM, praying the SLN is negative. 

Hubby  went to the dr. today and has to have a carotid sono. Sure hope its OK, he has had open heart,  followed by gout, then melanoma , this year, now my BC. Had enough. Just start to breathe and something else pops up!Jean 

Bonnets Dx 8/30/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 9/13/2012 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Radiation Therapy 10/21/2012 Breast

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