Topic: Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

Forum: Older Than 60 Years Old With Breast Cancer — Meet other women who are similar in age and dealing with age-appropriate issues.

Posted on: Feb 7, 2009 06:29PM

Posted on: Feb 7, 2009 06:29PM

Northstar wrote:

I am an "older" woman with breast cancer (I was diagnosed at 65 and am now 66).  I notice that most of the posts seem to be from people younger than I am (often by quite a bit...).   I'd love to "talk" with others my age, exchange info about their diagnoses, effects on their lives, etc.   I see that there is a forum for young women.

Someone suggested that maybe it's that older people aren't so computer-savvy or aren't used to being in online discussion groups.   However, for those who are, it would be great. 

DX 8/15/08, ILC, 5.1 cm, Stage IIb, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-, Oncotype DX 11.
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Jul 20, 2009 11:34AM illinoislady wrote:

Beauty of a morning here in Southern Illinois.  Will remain relatively cool which is a good thing for me. 

Alyson:  What a terrible time to have the flu but I think of our weather here ( quite nice ) and have no idea what it is like in New Zealand.  Hope you get over it soon.  Not pleasant at all. 

02929/Maggie:  So glad things went well on the little computer lesson I attempted to give.  I learned some things on my own and those things stick with me better than any formal training could I think......but I'm always timid about trying to explain how to do things.  I use to think I would ( many of my "seasoned" friends did too ) blow the whole computer up some way ---  though I do think the older ones were trickier, or at least make such a mess that a professional would have to un-tangle everything but that has not happened and probably won't.  Whew !!!

Peg:  Hope all is going well for you.  Your in my thoughts.

Helen:  Still hoping, praying and sending healing energy your way for your medical visits today.

wwjd/Alberta:  No one is really old here.....age is a number that gets assigned to everyone who happens to get through a 365 day period repeatedly --- and we all sure want to do that.  Jo stories about her friend really do prove that.  It is I think pretty much a matter of body, mind, and spirit....working and existing in harmony.  You can accomplish what you think/know you can because you have the will and fortitude to do so.  The less we give in with negative thoughts or actions --- the better we will do.  In that regard....age really is only a number. 

Lizzy:  Jo gave good advice.  There is a thread on here with people who use alternative/holistic resources for their treatment.  I don't have a problem with it as such....but feel finding a top-notch practitioner might be quite difficult.  Also, I feel like...would you wear a silicone vest to stop the harm from bullets...I feel like certain disease processes often might call for going a step beyond so to speak.  It's true that radiation and chemo are hard on a body --- but each year it seems they are perfected more.  The radiation is really targeted to only hit small areas.  Having said that...and having said earlier two or three times that the mind, spirit, and body need to be in harmony to effect good outcomes...they do.  I got such a shock just hearing what was wrong with me -- that alternative therapies did not even register.  I wanted to go straight for whatever proved therapy was available.  I felt comfortable with the choice --- 6 mos. chemo - 7 wks. radiation. 

Once you have consulted with your Dr.'s again and gotten your test results and factored those may feel that you can get by with just diet alone and hormones.  It really depends on what resonates with you as the right thing to do.  I second Jo's opinion.  People that did ( Carole H.  ) everything right still got cancer and conversely I have met and known people who went very strongly the other way and saw few if any problems including cancer.  No one truly knows but as Jo said....eating good nutritional food is a great resource for the body in general.  There is no test to take that will tell anyone who will or will not have a recurrence.  We are all different, our reactions to the same things are all different, and there are just too many variables to come close to predicting much of anything for anyone. 

Hope you all have a fantastic day.  See you later.


Each day I am thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, dreams that turned into reality and likes that turned into love. ~~~Elizabeth Kuebler-Ross Dx 9/27/2007, IDC, 5cm, Stage II, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
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Jul 20, 2009 02:12PM Lizzy90 wrote:

Jo and Illinois Lady - thank you for the gentle advice and teaching me how to process it all..thank you for your time and dedication to this web site it is truly amazing.

I have to think about all of it figure out risk and benefits factors..but I think you are both correct in using everything in my power -radiation in this case to keep the cancer away as long as possible.

I have also heard that some women stay on Arimidex longer now like 7 years and there is research going on about taking it daily forever until we are alive.

your kindness and honest opinion is very much appreciated.

best wishes and God bless.


Dx IDC, <1cm, Stage I, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jul 20, 2009 02:34PM LRM216 wrote:

Just dropping in to say a quick hello to everyone - and to especially wish Helen nothing but a positive outcome to her MRI.


Life isn't about waiting for the storm to end, it's about learning to dance in the rain ... Age 62 at diagnose Dx 2/23/2009, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IB, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2-, Surgery 3/7/2009 Lumpectomy: Right Chemotherapy 4/25/2009 Adriamycin (doxorubicin), Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxol (paclitaxel), Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 10/21/2009 Breast
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Jul 20, 2009 03:06PM carolehalston wrote:

If I had chosen lumpectomy instead of bilateral, I would have had to take radiation treatment.  It seems like that's the standard treatment plan.  I wanted to avoid the radiation and thought that getting rid of the breast tissue would eliminate chemo, too, if the lymph nodes weren't involved.  Now I'm learning that the oncotype dx number could come back high, and I might be in for chemo with a tiny tumor and clear nodes.  My cancer grade is high, 3.  I've learned so much in a month that I never wanted to know! 

Nipple-Sparing BMX w/Alloderm & Silicone Implants 7/24/09, Oncotype Dx 9, No Chemo, No Rads, Arimidex Dx 6/25/2009, IDC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 3, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jul 20, 2009 03:16PM dreaming wrote:

I was a considered 'young" when I was diagnosed over 15 years ago, now there are more younger people diagnosed, I benefited from my support group that had all ages ladies and one man.

Age is in the mind of a person, my mother is 89 and is younger than me!

After the mastectomy a second diferent cancer was found: Invasive Ductal Carcinoma, C.F.M.: Dx 7/7/1991, ILC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/18 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jul 20, 2009 03:55PM socallisa wrote:

A friend of mine is a rad tech...she sits in on alot of breast  tumor boards and says that

almost always surgeons want to cut, oncologists want to do chemo and radiologists

want to that should be considered by anyone making choices of treatments..

Biography: DX 11/2000 LCIS,DCIS,IDC 2B, Grade 1, ER+,PR+ Her2Neg 1 pos node Lumptectomy, CMF chemo X 6 mos, DX 8/2001, IDC same breast--Mastectomy , Left Breast Lumpectomy... Tamoxifen, one year...Armidex, Four years
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Jul 20, 2009 06:53PM MAGA922 wrote:

Hey Pam...We are neighbors.. sorta.  I am in Valrico which is between  Tampa and Plant City.  Anyway,  I love your posts, too.  I am just beginning this BC trip, yippee  I can share!  LOL  I am learning so much from all you ladies.  Some of the best advice I have gotten so far is from this thread!  God love you all!

So.. watch a lot of comedy, laugh myself silly, and think absolutely positive about the end of the trip.  Does that cover it pretty much?

Hug to all,


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Jul 20, 2009 07:30PM gillyone wrote:

Marie - you will be a great addition to this trip we're on.

Dx 6/5/2009, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIIC, Grade 3, 9/15 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2-
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Jul 20, 2009 08:56PM Lizzy90 wrote:

thank you JO..Very much for you thoughts.


Dx IDC, <1cm, Stage I, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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Jul 20, 2009 10:46PM - edited Jul 20, 2009 10:47PM by Gramof3


First, welcome to: Small Word, Barbara, Dreaming, WWJD, Maggie, Alyson, Cindy, Lizzy, Marie, (If I've repeated a "welcome," remember that Chemo Brain is REAL.) This is a wonderful thread--I noticed someone said thanks for the "gentle" advice--you will NEVER find harsh, judgemental thoughts here.  I've read some other threads where women actually left the thread because of the intensity of some of the posts, some of the messages were just downright hostile.  One of the reasons I love to come here is the willingness of the "seasoned" women to share what they've learned, not only regarding bc, but the life lessons and insights gained through the years.  Who says being "seasoned" is negative??? 

Maggie ((((hugs))) for your Wednesday doctor's visit. 

Lisa  Had to chuckle about the balance.  Since my knee replacement 3 years ago, I can't pivot with my left knee.  Sometimes, I get started in a side direction, and end up kind of lurching/staggering and have a hard time stopping.  The folks I work with have gotten used to it, and either get out of the way, or stop moving until they see where I'm heading.  It does startle innocent bystanders, though.

Alyson  Hope your flu episode ends soon.

And, to Jackie, rita, Leslie, LRM216, JO, Gilly, Judy, L4T, (and I know there are others, but if I go back a page, I'll lose the post and I'm too tired to rewrite  Cry).  Thank you very much for your prayers and support.  I was "gobsmacked," as Sheila would say, by the call Friday evening.  I saw my onc today and he had the radiologist report.  The radiologist says "it" is small, dura-based meningioma (there are at least 50 impossible-to-pronounce words in the report)--and "it" is "consistent.......with this age group."  Maybe a nice way of saying little old ladies develop these??  The consensus was that, under ordinary circumstances, observing the lesion via three-month MRI followup to check for changes/growth would be recommended.  However, because of the "hx of breast carcinoma," the neuro should check it out.  So,will do so on Aug. 3. 

The short version is:  I'm feeling much better about it.  Chooks, your support definitely buoyed me up when I felt I was going under!  Thanks again.  Now I wait.....

Motherof7  Hope you are doing o.k.  I'm sure this has been a long, hot summer for you.  And about that rude, pushy, woman--you did nothing wrong.  I know you are a hard-working, sincere, honest woman and take pride in a job well-done.  She was the one who was out of line, and while you may have reacted in a way you later wish you hadn't, don't be so hard on yourself.  She was a bully who gets her way by verbally beating up on people, and YOU stood up to her!  

Kind of Off topic :  Speaking of "seasoned,"  I'm really going to miss Walter Cronkite.  What a gentleman! 

I'm out of steam--Taxol 10 done; 2 more to go.  I'm taking off tomorrow to sleep....zzz,  Helen

Dx 12/16/2008, IDC, 1cm, Stage I, Grade 3, 0/4 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2-

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