Dec 8, 2018 09:49PM bandwoman1234 wrote:
Joanne, I totally agree. That's how we grow our faith muscles.
Good night all.
Meet other women who are similar in age and dealing with age-appropriate issues.
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I would like to start a forum to meet other middle age or older women who have bc and love the Lord. Try to live your life for him, walk the walk and talk the talk. Of course we all fall from grace because we are human but we are covered by the blood of Jesus. Also this forum is for people who has a large enough vocabulary that they don't need to use profanity to explain theirselves. I will start.
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Dec 8, 2018 09:49PM bandwoman1234 wrote:
Joanne, I totally agree. That's how we grow our faith muscles.
Good night all.
Dec 10, 2018 11:50AM JO-5 wrote:
Part of my devotion today.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
Some people get this messed up. It says IN all things, not FOR all things.
God loves us just the way we are.... but He loves us too much to leave us the way we are.
Being thankful IN trials is only good if we know what He can accomplish in us through trials.
Sometimes a hard lesson to learn.
God bless all of you
Dec 10, 2018 01:31PM Ade wrote:
Nancy your pix are ALL Outstanding - too hard to choose!
Joanne, your posts are so right on. Thank you! How are you holding up and how is Michelle doing? And Teresa?
Sorry to not be here much - combination of no energy & my busy season at my work (but that's a good thing).
Lord bless you all,
Dec 10, 2018 07:40PM bandwoman1234 wrote:
Joanne, that is a good word. Today has been a huge trial for me and the Lord finally calmed me down but it took some time. Fighting to get needed meds is wearing very thin but God keeps saying trust me in this. So I am trying to do that.
Ade, it is good to hear from you. I figured this is your busy time. Praying you have the needed strength to do all that you need to do for your business and of course in your personal life. Thanks for you nice comments on my photos.
Ellen, it sounds like the Carolinas have experienced another big challenging weather event. Hope you are doing okay. Praying your children's choir is shaping up and will be ready to sing at your special service.
Have a good evening dear sisters.
Dec 10, 2018 07:53PM bandwoman1234 wrote:
Not sure if this will open but a friend sent this to me. It made me cry.
Dec 11, 2018 01:07PM bandwoman1234 wrote:
Dear friends of faith,
I am praying that you can feel the peace in this banner. I know that this can be one of the most stressful times of the year and it is a shame that in our world today this is unfortunately the reality for many.
I had shared yesterday about the trial that I had yesterday in trying to get meds. I prayed about this and felt God saying trust me in this, I will work this out for you. I lost a swim session today because I spent an hour on the phone with my insurance. This person was a gem and was SO helpful. In the end God came through and beyond my expectations.
I will see the neurologist tomorrow that I have been waiting for weeks to see about this brain tumor. I am praying that I will leave her office with the same peace that I have had which has really been a miracle in and of itself. I know many have been praying for me and for that I am so thankful. I know those prayers have helped me get to this point. I know God will see me through to the finish however and whatever that may look like.
Praying that you all will feel peace today. One thing God has shown me throughout this year and that is don't sweat the small stuff. I know most of the things in the past I have worried and stewed about were small stuff in the big scheme.
Dec 11, 2018 04:22PM Ade wrote:
The Christmas Peace banner is so peaceful & beautiful. I am dealing with some unreasonable and cranky customers (I hate to say it but the Christian buyers are really no nicer than the non ones - very sad!). I am trying to be kind and understand that they may be dealing with a lot on their plates too and don't have an outlet to vent to. I can and do pray for those crabby folks. :o) Jesus loves them too.
Nancy I pray your peace found in Christ alone will remain and you will get GOOD news from the neurologist. We're lifting you up in prayer. Praising Him with you about the medication ordeal! We sent in the new application and are now waiting to see if James will get the free medication for the NEXT year. (It is a BIG deal for us!)
I head off to Midland tomorrow for the 6-month Onc. checkup. Not expecting any surprises. Wishing it wasn't 3 hours away & the traffic wasn't so awful up there! Will be gone ALLL day. (But we get to have a dinner out - wooHOO!)
Joanne, praying for strength and peace for you, and of course praying for Teresa & Michelle.
A big Texas HOWDY to the ladies I haven't gotten to greet yet - WELCOME!
Love & blessings,
Dec 11, 2018 09:00PM bandwoman1234 wrote:
Thank you Ade. Praying James can get good news on his meds being paid for and that your long commute to your MO is safe and hopefully not too exhausting. Have a good night.
Dec 12, 2018 07:30PM JO-5 wrote:
Praying your dr visit went well and was uneventful.
Praying James gets his meds.
Dec 12, 2018 07:31PM JO-5 wrote:
Been praying for you today.
Dec 12, 2018 07:42PM - edited Dec 12, 2018 07:44PM by JO-5
It has been a roller coaster of bad frightening days and joyful days of praise.
Michelle had collapsed vessels in her brain. Yesterday they went up through the groin and opened some of them.
Yesterday she spoke a few words through the trach. She is awake and aware....knows most people. Memory is short and cannot remember not to pull on the tubes and lines. Some family stays with her 24/7 because the nurses cannot be in there every minute.
She is aggitated and restless. Her right side is still paralized but shows some improvement once in a while.
It is not clear what she remembers. We are not sure she knows she had a baby. It seems past memories are there.....but not so much recent.
She did know my husband and me today and puckered her lips for a kiss. She smiled when I joked with her.
Thank you for the prayers.
Dec 12, 2018 07:59PM IntoLight wrote:
Joanne, thank you for the update on Michelle. I know this is heart-wrenching and there are no words to help. Just know I pray for her and your family throughout the day as I remember. Chris
Dec 13, 2018 05:14AM Ade wrote:
Yesterday the Lord kept us safe as we traveled 3 hours for my 6 month onc. check up. (The traffic is NUTS up there!) My bloodwork shows little change and 3 years from my diagnosis I have graduated to just an annual check up. He said about 15% cannot tolerate the medications (I tried three) but he was confident that I had passed the most common reoccurrance time. Praising the Lord! I will try to get the spectacular sunset pix from the trip off the phone and post for you. It was amazing.
Nancy, do let us know what the neurologist says. In the meantime we will be praying for God's perfect peace and for a good report.
Joanne, we continue to lift up Michelle and all of you in prayer. We appreciate the update.
God bless and keep you all,
Dec 13, 2018 06:52PM gkbuser wrote:
Nancy, yes I made the road trip to see my mom and she is doing fine. She is still trying to wrap her head around this diagnosis because she has no symptoms whatsoever. So, I just don't think it feels that real that she even has it yet. We are going up there again on the 22nd of December, spending the night with her and having a family Christmas on the 23rd. It really is hard to see our mothers going through all this. How was your mom?
Dec 13, 2018 06:59PM gkbuser wrote:
One last thought Ladies. As I have been reading through Luke to prepare my heart for Christmas I have compared and contrasted zachariahs response to the angels message and Mary's response to the angels message. It seems easy to criticize Zachariah for his lack of faith in the Angels message. It wasn't enough that his name had been chosen by lot to go into the holy of holies and an angel was talking to him in there. He asked for more proof. I started to think about all the promises in the Bible and how they are just as reliable as if God himself was standing here telling us. And I had to examine myself and ask myself how am I responding to all these promises from God? Why do we find it so hard to just let go and let God? The Bible is chock-full of promises to us. Awesome things like all things are working together for our good, and he will be with us until the end of the age. I pray to live by faith!
Dec 13, 2018 08:39PM bandwoman1234 wrote:
I had another doctor apt today and errands to run. I got home are really started feeling like I was getting sick. Trying to do laundry tonight and I still haven't had my play session with Cammie yet. UGH
I will have to make this short. Neurologist thinks my symptoms are coming from my neck and not the brain tumor. No brain surgery at this point. She wants me to repeat the MRI in 3 mos instead of the initial recommendation of 6-12. She said cancer almost never goes to that part of the brain. So why is she so concerned to move the timing of the MRI up. I don't know. I am not sure she is entirely is convinced this is a hamartoma which is very rare in the brain. Can be in all other parts of the body. She wants to see if any changes too.
So I get home and look at the MRI order last night at 12:30 and it says MRI of the cervical spine. WHAT????????? I sent her an electronic message knowing she may not respond for two business days. I asked my primary doctor who I saw today too about if the cervical spine MRI would show the tumor in the base of the brain and he said no. So at this point I can't schedule the MRI because she must have made a mistake.
I have already shared about my neck surgery in 2001. I have stenosis of the cervical spine and had horrible spinal cord compression where the spinal fluid was dammed up in my neck. I knew it could come back. So now the idea of having two issues has been pretty much of a bummer for sure. Also I am wondering if my low back is involved too since my right foot has been losing feeling. She asked me if I had low back pain which is really more of an issue than my neck pain. I have some weakness on the right side of my body after her doing some hands on testing.
So that is the deal. I know God will see me through whatever but the fact that I don' t tolerate pain meds makes any surgery very difficult for me as you can imagine.
I will have to respond to other posts later and when I am feeling better. I have read them but need to put clothes in dryer and play with Cammie. We haven't missed a session for months and I don't want anything regarding the litter box to go south again!
Dec 15, 2018 08:38AM JO-5 wrote:
Still praying! I'm sorry you did not get a definitive answer and have to go through another MRI.
Hoping you soon get a call back from the neuroligist on the question about the cervical spine MRI.
I'm wondering if she wants the one of your neck soon......and one of the tumor in 3 months?
Most of my drs make those appointments for me. They get you in sooner.
If neck surgery is in the picture---- which it may not be ....surgery on the neck and spine has improved dramatically since 2001!
May God give you peace!
Dec 15, 2018 10:05AM bandwoman1234 wrote:
Hi dear friends,
Sorry I have been MIA. I am down sick with a cold. I haven't had a cold in years. Hopefully it will stay in my head only. I am just very tired and drained.
I do have to my an MRI of the neck first. I am assuming soon but I am supposed to be leaving for downstate on Thursday. Not sure if that is going to happen. I have two doctor apts this week too.
I am suspecting that neck surgery might be in the picture. My symptoms are looking like spinal cord compression. My balance is way off and my clumsiness is apparent and I am usually very coordinated so this is all very disturbing.
Joanne, I hope you are right. My searching has said neck surgery recovery 3-6 mos which is about what it was for me last time. I ended up with complications which lasted for a long time and some permanent. I also had a tremendous amount of support and had a wonderful faculty at my two schools who brought in meals for me for a month and some of that was in the summer when teachers are not in school. They even paid for me to have a cleaning lady for three times. I am very independent but in situations like these living alone is not easy. Now that I am not working I don't have that same network of support.
I would appreciate your prayers everyone.
Dec 15, 2018 11:28AM JO-5 wrote:
Nancy ....so sorry you have a cold. I'm concerned about you driving down state with your symptoms.
Something must be going around everywhere. I really feel awful today. Can't even explain it.....just can hardly move.....fatigue is bad, dizzy, headache.
God be with all of you ..... I may not be on much for a while.....but praying.
Dec 15, 2018 02:48PM IntoLight wrote:
Nancy, I am so sorry you are sick. It definitely makes things more difficult especially this time of year. Please be careful driving. I am praying God intervenes for you and your body improves so you can see your mom for the holidays. One of the reasons I am glad to be back in California is the support system I have here. I do not know what I would do without it and I pray you get the help you need. Do you have a small group at your church that would help? If you were closer I would share!
Joanne, praying things improve for you too and that you feel better quick.
I am finally over my pneumonia and feeling good that way, but I am emotionally struggling. It is probably all of the stress of finishing this remodel plus all I do for the holidays. My "system" has been all out of whack because I have had to get up early every morning and have not had good access to a bathroom during the day while the workers are here. They should finish on Monday...yay! I almost had a meltdown at the store today because I had to use the bathroom and couldn't get the door code to work! (A locked restroom is a necessary thing at the store where I shop in San Diego with all the homeless.) am strongly considering letting everyone know next year I am cutting way down on what I do for Christmas. It is just too much for me although all the online ordering has helped immensely! It is hard as I am the one putting the high expectations on myself.
Have a blessed Sabbath tomorrow.
Dec 15, 2018 03:46PM Ade wrote:
GK, Good word about standing on God's promises. I think the enemy sometimes gives us an amnesia in that area (but he's a loser and liar!) I pray the Lord grants your mom (and you) His peace.
Joanne and Nancy - so sorry you're not feeling well. Seems like all of us are lately sick and exhausted. I am lifting you up in prayer. The stress you've both endured can really cause problems in the way you feel...I know! May the Lord heal and comfort you.
Chris, glad your pneumonia is on the way OUT. I noticed you're on Letrozole. I was too and it completely did a job on my emotions to the point that I literally couldn't take it anymore. I can't even explain how bad I was emotionally. I am SOO much better off of it! I am ME again! Just wondering if that could be affecting you?
James has run fevers the past 3 nights (Oh NOT again!) and he is feeling really bad. Prayers appreciated please.
We may be in battles but we are NOT defeated because we are daughters of the King, His precious beloved children. May you all feel His comfort and peace in these trials. As the saying goes, "He's got this".
Love to you all.
Dec 16, 2018 07:47AM JO-5 wrote:
Tammy, our youngest daughter knows my husband and I are about whipped from all the trauma going on. Not only visiting Michelle, but helping her mother, Theresa.....and baby sitting so Michelle's sister can visit her.
Tammy sent this and I thought I would share it for those of you that are so weary, tired and fatigued from whatever is going on.
We did not go to church today AGAIN. We have to babysit 4 and 5 yr old rambuncious boys tomorrow morning. I am going to need all the strength I can muster.
God be with you all today.
Dec 16, 2018 07:50AM Ade wrote:
Joanne, that is beautiful! God is our STRENGTH and our shield. We can do all things through Christ Who STRENGTHENS us - and so much more.
Blessings upon your day,
Dec 16, 2018 02:10PM Lita57 wrote:
I praise the Lord that DH and I were able to go to church today as we were chosen by Pastor to light the 3rd Advent candle on the wreath. I wasn't in too much pain and didn't fall down the stairs on the way up/down the steps to the altar. This week's candle was the candle of JOY, so Pastor preached on having joy at this time of year, and how difficult it is as many of us are facing a lot of challenges: Pain/illness, suffering, stress over trying to get too much done, sorrow over losing family members this past year, to name a few.
I was even able to hang on to the row in front of me and sing the hymns and carols, which I haven't been able to do for weeks. Of course, NOW my back is starting to hurt, but the Lord took care of me earlier this morning, and I am grateful for that. I'm making a curry stew for dinner, and I will have to sit down to chop up all the vegetables and meat, but that's okay.
Even tho I don't post a lot on this thread, I pray for ALL of you. Despite all the crap we're going thru, may we all have a blessed, joyous Christmas. Pace yourselves, and let some things go. I used to decorate EVERY room, put holiday linens and/or place mats on every table, bring out the Rudolph Misfits collection, put up all my nutcrackers, etc., etc.
I don't do that anymore.
I pick out my FAVORITE stuff and just stick with those items. My family just has to understand. The more stuff you put up, the more stuff you have to take down.
Tidings of comfort and joy to you all,
Dec 16, 2018 02:19PM Lita57 wrote:
Very simple decorations on the Baby Blue Spruce we picked for this year. We will plant it in the back yard in January, and it will be the LEGACY tree I leave behind for my family. Have never done a tree w/white lights before. It only has glass ornaments on it and the angel. Easy to put up, and it will be easy to take down. It always took FOREVER when I did our usual tree, with all the Hallmark keepsake ornaments, other handmade ornaments, and the delicate ones that you have to unwrap and then wrap up again in January.
A joyous Christmas to all of you, my dear sisters,
Dec 16, 2018 02:45PM IntoLight wrote:
Lita, beautiful tree and I totally understand it all. So glad you made it to church today--I did too! It was the first time since the pneumonia hit me. But I did not sing in the choir. It was nice just to worship.
Last year we bought a 6' tree instead of using our usual 9' tree. It is easier to put up and take down, and takes less to decorate and less space to store. My DD and DH did all the lights and ornaments with some help from my 3-year-old GD (namely the bottom row!) We still put it up on a table so not to tempt my not-so-obedient GD and cat! But it is all good! Other than that, I put up my Simpich collector dolls, my DHs rubber Santa collection, and not much else. I only decorate the living room now, but that is ok. These pictures still have the bins around so they are a bit cluttered, but hopefully once the workers finish tomorrow I will have my shelves back. I will try to send a picture with the sunset in the background over the water tonight. So pretty. Oh, we also hang lights on the balcony and my DH wanted the front walkway lit so he did that. No climbing or things to nail. Easy-peasy!
Dec 16, 2018 06:22PM gkbuser wrote:
beautiful trees everyone!
Lita, your drapes look just like my moms.
Dec 17, 2018 03:21PM - edited Dec 17, 2018 03:24PM by JO-5
Pretty trees, ladies!
We went from a 7ft tree with a 14 buildings village underneath with people, trees, etc. to this 4ft tree on an end table when I had the mastectomy.
I put this up the 1st of November just so I would have it done. If I had not done that there would be no tree with all this with Michelle and babysitting. There is no telling when it will get taken down. I have no energy. It is probably the only one in the family up, because no one has had time. Theresa's is up but just lights.....no decorations.
My curio and clock was done at the same time. I almost wish it was not up.
But since it is thought I would share.
At least the little kids will see some decorations.
I don't think Nancy would mind me asking for prayer for her. She is not much better....throat very sore.
If you have an extra minute I could use prayer too......not sure what it is with me. I just feel terrible and have a slight sore throat. I feel like I am going to fly into a million pieces! My husband is not feeling well either.
Michelle is about the same. It seems the frustration and anger is worse, then she calms down......Drs are not sure what is real and what is brain damage.
Still leaning on Jesus and trusting.
God be with you all.
Dec 17, 2018 04:44PM Ade wrote:
Ladies, your trees are breath taking! I didn't have the energy myself or the heart to ask James to do one here this year. Neither of us is really doing much more than necessary at present. He didn't have a fever last night, praise the Lord.
We used to decorate a beautiful fireplace & hearth plus tree in Ohio. I have a snowman collection that hasn't been seen since we moved here to TX (Maybe they melted!) :oD Anyway I did all of the laundry and baked a whole wheat honey banana bread with walnuts & mini chocolate chips, which I just put into the oven.
I admire all of you and hope you and your loved ones all have a wonderful Christmas season and new year.
Missing you, Nancy & praying for you. Stay focused on His Word and not the "what ifs". Sending a hug.
Love to all,
Dec 18, 2018 06:02AM JO-5 wrote:
It would have been much easier to just do this.
Sometimes a smile helps.
My throat is better....hubby has it now.
We have to baby sit again Thursday.
Ade, there have been many years that we did not decorate at all. Had I known all this would happen I would not have put up one thing. I have no idea when it will get taken down.....hopefully by Easter!
We are not sure, but it seems that Michelle may not remember baby Emma. So sad.
God bless you all, comfort, peace, energy, and healing.