Topic: thread for middle age to older Christian women.

Forum: Older Than 60 Years Old With Breast Cancer — Meet other women who are similar in age and dealing with age-appropriate issues.

Posted on: Mar 20, 2010 01:30AM

Posted on: Mar 20, 2010 01:30AM

spar2 wrote:

I would like to start a forum to meet other middle age or older women who have bc and love the Lord.  Try to live your life for him, walk the walk and talk the talk.  Of course we all fall from grace because we are human but we are covered by the blood of Jesus.  Also this forum is for people who has a large enough vocabulary that they don't need to use profanity to explain theirselves.  I will start.

www.spar2.multiply.com Lets help make each other's life better
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Aug 24, 2014 11:55PM milehighgirl wrote:

Oh Kate, I would have been furious if anyone had done this to me - vent away!  I am a very private person to begin with and would have felt so violated.  I'm surprised your sister hasn't been caught yet and fired.  That is a basic rule of every hospital that employees don't/can't go into patient files for any reason unless they are taking care of that patient which she is not.  You're correct that all your sister has really done is get you upset.  I want news, good or bad, from my own doc. 

Maybe call the administrative office and ask how you can have your file locked because you found out someone not associated with your case has been snooping in your file which is a huge HIPPA violation and could put the hospital at risk of a lawsuit.

Bottom line is that you need to let your sister know that this has put a wedge in your relationship and in no uncertain terms her snooping is over.  I would let her know that even though you're sisters, you will report her and let the chips fall where they may.  The Bible tells us to be "wise as serpents, gentle as doves" but it does not tell us to be doormats!

I will definitely pray for your peace here and for Godly wisdom.  I'm so sorry you have to deal with this on top of everything else.  Sue

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Aug 25, 2014 04:17AM bandwoman1234 wrote:

Dear Kate,

I am so sorry that you have found yourself in the middle of all of this. Dealing with our diagnosis is hard enough and to add to it this drama is just too much. It is obviously a very serious matter what your sister has done and you are stuck in a very uncomfortable position. I am praying for a good result and that good will come of all of this in the end. If there is another spot detected in the rereading then your doctors can proceed accordingly and this could be a good thing to be treated early if it comes to that. I know this is all very upsetting to you on many levels and rightly so. I am praying for wisdom for you in how you will proceed. I know your sister was probably doing this out of love for you but the end does not justify the means.

Please feel free to jump in here whenever you need to. We are all here to support one another.

Love,

Nancy

Dx 3/14/2014, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/27/2014 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Sentinel Radiation Therapy 5/13/2014 Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 7/25/2014 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Aug 25, 2014 04:39AM SewStrong wrote:

Kate, I'm not on here often, as you, but I have prayed so hard and long for you. I was especially drawn to your story since we both have triple negative. Your family picture on the beach is awe inspiring. I pray for your whole family. I'll pray for this situation with your sister. I know that stress is the last thing you need, so try to resolve this quickly. Forgiveness is healing, too. It's easy for me to say, huh? I know it's a hard thing. I've struggled with a forgiveness issue for most of my life and I can tell you one thing for sure-not forgiving her will hurt you the most. I would be mad too, but possibly she is just so worried about you that she just couldn't help it. I'm not criticizing. You have had a long row to how (I'm a gardener.), and any feelings you have are lag intimate. There are many praying for you. I am finished with treatment and give the women on this thread credit for pulling me through. God bless you Kate.   Sharon

Hey you guys. To those of you who prayed for my house to sell quickly: the very first looker is a genuine prospective buyer. They've been here twice and are sending people to make bids on fixing the roof and heating system. It looks good. God is all powerful and it looks like his time for selling the house might be now. Thank you for being God's hands. When were in God's hands, we're in the hands of every Christian alive. Sharon

I have Triple Negative Breast Cancer, but I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13; Surgery 7/12/2013 Lumpectomy: Right Radiation Therapy 10/29/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Radiation Therapy 11/12/2013 Breast, Lymph nodes Chemotherapy Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel)
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Aug 25, 2014 05:11AM bandwoman1234 wrote:

Sharon, I have been praying regularly for your house to sell so this is such good news to hear. I'll pray that this buyer will take the plunge. I know you have probably worked yourself to death on getting the house ready. Thanks for sharing that. How is your shoulder? I have been sick for the last ten days and have done very little with my shoulder exercises. I may have to call my MO tomorrow as this may be from my hormone blocking drug.

I do have some good news which I will share.

Have a wonderful weekend. Do you know where you will be moving to?

Love,

Nancy

Dx 3/14/2014, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/27/2014 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Sentinel Radiation Therapy 5/13/2014 Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 7/25/2014 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Aug 25, 2014 05:25AM bandwoman1234 wrote:

Hi ladies,

This last ten days has been the pits to say the least. In my effort to NOT go crazy I spent time uploading pictures to my laptop. I shared this a few weeks ago but will mention it again. On my way to radiation I discovered two swans in this beautiful pond and garden area. I looked for them every day and my last few treatments I discovered they had five babies. I was so thrilled. Our suburban newspaper has a weekly photo contest and they select three pictures each week. I decided to enter a couple of swan pictures. They picked my swan photo. I was so thrilled. The head guy in that dept. emailed me a few days ago and asked where I live. I was obviously not operating on all cylinders at the time I submitted because they wanted an address. I emailed him back the city I live in. In the submission I mentioned the swans were a bright spot going to radiation every day. In the paper it has me living in the wrong town and the whole radiation thing was left out. The photo theme for today was the joys of summer. I guess they didn't think going to radiation was very joyful. LOL Anyway it was a bright spot today in a dark week for sure. Here is the photo again. Still not feeling great today so will call my MO tomorrow if I don't snap out of it.

 


Love

Nancy

Dx 3/14/2014, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/27/2014 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Sentinel Radiation Therapy 5/13/2014 Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 7/25/2014 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Aug 25, 2014 07:13AM saltyjack wrote:

Hi Ladies - Kate, so good to hear from you and glad that you checked in. I read your blog - what an amazing adventure you and your family had this summer - lots of great memories. I'll be praying for you this week with the new results - but as Sue said, how awful to have the stress and mixed emotions....especially caused by your sister, who should be part of the solution, not the problem.  Sigh.....

Lucy, sounds like you and your friends had a great weekend. I was always the designated driver (I generally drink about a glass of wine a week - just don't care for the taste of alcohol much). It was interesting to see how goofy people could be - and how little they remembered all the embarrassing things that had happened. I'm so glad you had another Christian there - what a blessing you two could have the time together. How sad about your niece's cancer.  Whenever I hear about a young person having cancer, I thank God that if I had to have it, it's now (after there are so many amazing medical treatments and advances, instead of 20 or 30 years ago) and that I was diagnosed when I was 55 years old. Before I had surgery, I watched a Youtube video by a woman about dealing with drains after a mastectomy....and she was 29 years old.  :(

Okay, now to more positive thoughts....In Sunday School, we're working our way through II Corinthians and have gotten to chapter 4. Of course, that's where Paul writes about "the glorious light of the Good News" (v. 4) and reminds us that "this precious treasure - this light and power that now shine within us - is held in perishable containers, that is, in our weak bodies, so everyone can see that our glorious power is from God and is not our own." (v. 7). He goes on to say that his suffering was for their benefit and to bring glory to God. (v. 15). Well, the whole time the pastor was teaching, I was thinking of you, my precious sisters.  Sue, Anita, Debbie (haven't heard from you for a while - hope all is well?), Lucy, Kate, Sharon, Nancy/BW, Nancy/Mini (and everybody - sorry I don't want to ramble too long and lose this post!) God is using your suffering to reach and save others.....not just the doctors, nurses and techs you come into contact with but for me and the rest of us! My faith is strengthened every time I read about your courage, trust and strength - so thank you! You are helping me and others, and bringing glory to God, just like Paul directed us to do!

Nancy/BW - I'm praying that you'll feel much better soon - and figure out just what is causing the problems. What a great kiss from God to hear about your picture - and see it again. Gorgeous!

Sharon, you know I'm praying for you....not only with the sale and packing but your PT and subbing.

Char, praying for you as school starts and you continue training for your races.

Love y'all!  Bev

God's will won't put me where His presence won't sustain me. (from "The Red Sea Rules" by John Morgan) Dx 8/12/2013, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2+ Chemotherapy 8/30/2013 AC Targeted Therapy 11/22/2013 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Targeted Therapy 11/22/2013 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Chemotherapy 11/22/2013 Taxotere (docetaxel) Radiation Therapy 4/7/2014 Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 6/1/2014 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Aug 25, 2014 11:11AM bandwoman1234 wrote:

Hi ladies,

I just got a call tonight from this guy who oversees this cemetery. He said that he got a call to mark my grave and he said I have no record of your grave. The monument company called the WRONG cemetery. I won't say what it is for privacy purposes but the names were very similar and entirely in different towns. I thought you could use a laugh. I guess it wouldn't  be funny if they put it in the wrong cemetery. I haven't even approved anything yet anyway so that wouldn't happen.

Lucy, I am glad you had a good time on your retreat. I am always the odd woman out on those type of things too as I don't drink at all. I am so sorry to hear about your niece and so young. I will pray that she can get some effective treatment soon and maybe in Texas. How disheartening to find out all the weeks of treatment didn't work for her. I will pray for her. How are you doing after the retreat?

Sue, still thinking of you and praying for you during this wait time. How are you feeling today and tonight? Is the tumor still bleeding? I know you have so much on your plate but I hope it gives you some comfort knowing that we are all praying and lifting you up during this difficult time. You are definitely a warrior and an encouragement to me in handling adversity!

Anita, I am praying for both you and DH. I know it must be very hard on him and of course you. Hang in there. We're praying.

Bev, You are such an encourager and I appreciate your spirit so much. I can just see you out there running with your greyhounds. Did you buy the plants like you mentioned. I remember the palm especially.

Char, Praying for a calm and restful night before school starts. Once you get there all that nervousness will fade away.

Angie and Deborah and Mini- How are you all doing?

I had a period of time today where I was feeling better and then tonight back to the stomach discomfort again. I think it is time to give my MO a call and see what he thinks. I would still appreciate your prayers for wisdom for myself and the doctor. I don't want to give up on the Anastrozole this early in the game and I am still not convinced that is the problem but if it looks like it is the problem I will need the courage to face that. I know I have options but I also know my body and I don't tolerate many things like drugs.

Have a great week everyone.

Love,

Nancy

Dx 3/14/2014, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 3/27/2014 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lymph node removal; Lymph node removal (Left): Sentinel Radiation Therapy 5/13/2014 Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 7/25/2014 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Aug 25, 2014 01:02PM milehighgirl wrote:

Good evening dear sisters.  I hope everyone has had a good weekend.  As usual, I'm up waiting to take the last pills of the night so I thought I'd check in here.  Lucy, it was good chatting with you tonight and so glad you have a good get away.

Char, I've been lifting you up all weekend.  You're going to do just fine tomorrow.  Getting over that first day  hump will make the rest of the week go smoothly.

Nancy so glad to hear you're going to get in touch with the doc.  You've been messing with this too long and it may be something simple that brings you back to wholeness.  Great story about the cemetery and the swan picture was wonderful.  I wouldn't worry too much about them getting the story wrong.  If it's the same paper I used to deal with, they changed an ad on me without asking me....Changed the word "Son" to the word sun.  I was obviously not dealing with a Christian, lol.  By the way, did you notice the little bird catching a ride on the swan on the left?  Now that's a good picture.

Bev, thanks for sharing the good teaching.  I don't always feel like I'm suffering for God's glory but do agree that we have some wonderful role models here that do.  I so look forward to the posts and keeping caught up with prayers for everyone.  It's just like family and I would certainly miss having this group in my life if it weren't here.

As for me, I had another quiet day.  I think today I napped on and off because I was bored.  I have such a small place it's hard to know what to do with myself.  I did sit out on the patio this morning with my book but found myself starting to nod off as I was close to finishing it up, lol.  My shortness of breath has returned as has my leg pain.  I'm so praying my leg pain is from sitting too much and not from the leg tumor returning.  Yes Nancy, the bleeding tumor is still giving me grief as well.

Tomorrow I have to make a stab at going to the DMV.  I sent in my handicap placard renewal a month ago and of course it hasn't come back.  Since I'll be in the hospital through the weekend, it will expire and I can't risk getting one of those nasty tickets if I use it after labor day.  There's only one DMV for the entire east side of Denver so it's always a hassle and a long wait.  Hope I don't run out of oxygen, lol!

I trust everyone else is doing well and will check in here soon.  We've got you all covered in prayer dear friends.

Blessings,  Sue

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Aug 25, 2014 01:04PM SpiritBlessing wrote:

Sue it was good to chat with you earlier today.  Please take comfort in knowing we all have you in our prayers frequently.  We will also be praying on Tuesday.  I have reminders set to start the day with you in my prayers.  Make sure you call me as soon as you can after your surgery and I will update the ladies.  Just try and rest as much as you can until then.

Anita and Sue this is for you: Body, I speak the Word of Faith to you.  I demand that every internal organ perform a perfect work, for you are the temple of the Holy Ghost; therefore, I charge you in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the authority of His holy Word to be healed and made whole in Jesus' Name...Amen

Sicknesses MUST FLEE! Tumors can't exist in me, for the Spirit of God is upon me and the Word of God is within me.  Sickness, fear and oppression have no power over me for God's Word is my confession...Amen

Nancy probably best to call the MO on your stomach issue.  Glad your neck is better.

KateW checked your blog, it looked like you had a great trip with the family.  So sorry to hear about what your sis did.  I can only imagine how tough it would be. I think you and SewStrong/Sharon and I are the only ones who have TNBC on this board.  So it is good to hear from you and to know how you're doing.  Keep in touch and know you are in our prayers.

Well Sister's I am going to call it a night.  Tomorrow is my day heading to Seattle, its a 2 hour drive so on the road by 8 to get there in time for my CT scan.  I am excited to share the news of how good our Lord is and to continue to give Him the glory of his goodness. I have my infusion after at 12:30 and the weather is supposed to be really nice...Blessings Abundant...Lucy 

Do not be afraid - I am with you! I am your God - let nothing terrify you! I will make you strong and help you; I will protect you and save you. Isaiah 41.10 Dx 8/28/2013, IDC, 3cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 0/0 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Surgery 9/18/2013 Lumpectomy: Left Dx 11/5/2013, IDC, 3cm, Stage IV, Grade 3, 0/0 nodes, mets, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 11/25/2013 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel)
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Aug 25, 2014 11:24PM milehighgirl wrote:

Thanks for the great prayer Lucy.  It helps so much!

I'm lifting you up as I write this.  I pray your scans come out clear and your infusion is uneventful with no side effects.  Have a safe journey!

Blessings.  Sue

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