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Jan 19, 2018 06:24AM
Been thinking of you, how are you doing? Do you feel better each day? I know physically you'll be fine. Not sure mentally, with your husband and kids. Are you staying at your mother's? Do you still have your drain tubes? I know you are going through tremendous stress, but look out for you. Have you heard anything at all from your husband, or children?
I ran into an a friend the other day who is divorced. I met her 11 years ago at the pool where we would take our daughters swimming when they were little. We were stay at home moms. One day we were talking, and found out her husband was my dentist. Small world. Well several years went by, ran into her, and she told me her husband just packed his crap, and left her for another woman 15 years younger. Asshole, and he is still my dentist.
Now back to the other day, it had been three years since I had seen her, and we got into a deep discussion for over an hour. I was horrified with her story. The ex is from Russia and got to America with a scholarship for ice hockey. Not sure how they met, but she taught him English, and helped him through dental school. They were married 22 years with beautiful twin daughters, and another beautiful daughter. Well, the daughters got mad at her accusing their mother for kicking their dad out!!! Apparently, he made their mother look bad, so the girls took his side!!!!! She told me he didn't want to pay alimony, got lawyers involved, and he only has to pay for three years. That's bullshit!!! She also told me he never payed child support on time, and he cancelled her insurance before she had major knee surgery!!!!! He's a millionaire, with a 500,000.00 house, and a 80,000.00 car. She was in tears telling me all this. I was disgusted. He doesn't want to give her anything, and had plenty of money!!!! She also helped him build his clients, which contributed to his wealth. He has no problem spending on the girlfriend. On top of that, right after he left her, he started bringing the girlfriend to their church!!!! Robin had to find another to go to. He hangs up on her if she calls to talk about the daughters, which the twins are 18 now, the other is 13. She has tried to go to his house to just talk, and reach an understanding. He won't let her in, and threatens to call the police. She is about broke, and he has it all!!!! She said her daughters want to be with him more due to all the material possessions. Unbelievable!!!! She keeps beating herself up wondering what she did wrong!!!! I told her absolutely nothing just being a good wife, and mother. She cannot get over him. Just kept crying, I felt so helpless, what could I have said? I just listened. I told her I don't want him as my dentist anymore, but she told me I don't have too. He is a good dentist, but I cannot be comfortable, and I might cause a scene. I know there are always two sides, however I know she was telling the truth. What I cannot get my head around is how can a man be such a devil to the mother of his children, and have a conscience??? Very, very selfish. I just don't have that problem with my ex, and I left the marriage. He has always been there for me, and never let me down. Sure, he can be an ass, but he puts our daughter first, and he was right by my side through my journey with breast cancer. Always pays on time for child support, and he will give more. It so astounds me how men can be so horrible to wives who were selfless, and loved, and was committed to every step of the way. Well, karma is a bitch, and will bite you in the ass!!!
Faith, sorry for the long text, I just needed to get that out. I was making a point of how horrible, spineless, selfish, and cowards men can be. I'm not sure what your future holds, but know you're not alone. It is ok to think of only you.👍👍❤️❤️
2/15/2017, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/13 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH)
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