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Apr 6, 2021 11:59AM
Interesting topic. I was originally diagnosed at 38 and to be honest, at that point I wasn't pulled in 100 directions like I am today. I don't have children so I was able to focus on my treatment and continued to work full time throughout. As moth indicated, you will get through this period of upheaval but you may need to set boundaries and think about what takes priority.
Things are a bit different for me now. I'm just shy of 59 and live with my mother who recently turned 90 and is in declining slowly health. Between work, my house (including trying desperately to downsize the various collections/family stuff), my dog and my mom, I'm finding it all a bit of a challenge. In particular, I worry about my mom if, god forbid, I should go first. I know she would never be able to cope. I also find it a bit tricky managing my mother's angst regarding the aches and pains that come with aging. (Sympathy can sometimes be in short supply when your liver is sending you shots to remind you there is a tumor behaving badly.) And like illimae, I do mourn the fact that retirement is unlikely. I'm scaling back now so perhaps I can take a page from her book and experience it a bit early!
Hope you are able to find some balance Saltmarsh. I know you will find lots of support here on BCO.
4/2001, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 1/10 nodes, ER+
5/11/2001 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary
12/17/2001 Whole-breast: Breast
12/20/2001 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
1/2/2007 Femara (letrozole)
10/22/2007 Arimidex (anastrozole)
1/3/2017, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/lungs, ER+/PR+, HER2-
1/27/2017 Taxol (paclitaxel)
3/29/2017 Arimidex (anastrozole)
4/20/2017 Ibrance (palbociclib)
10/12/2017, IDC, Right, Stage IV, metastasized to other
10/21/2017 Xeloda (capecitabine)
11/15/2017 External: Bone
1/19/2018 Faslodex (fulvestrant)
8/2/2018 External: Bone
11/5/2018 External: Bone
11/3/2020 External: Bone
1/22/2021, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IV, metastasized to liver, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2-
2/4/2021 Xeloda (capecitabine)