May 19, 2017 05:01AM wallan wrote:
Hey Tickety boo:
I can relate a bit to your situation. When I told my manager I had early stage breast cancer he promised me full support and not to worry about the workload because others would help. The "work would get done" he said. I told a few coworkers too and they promised to help too. But the help was not forthcoming. My manager told me to delegate work to people and cc him. I did. But the people did not do it and I was still responsible for the results. I found this very stressful. Within about a month, I decided to take a leave of absence because I knew I would not be able to handle the stress of the job. My manager was disappointed because he wanted and needed me to work. That was also stressful. I was even told a prior employee at my organization had had early stage BC and worked thru the whole treatment without any issue, so why am I so upset? This employee even had an easier job with less responsibility than me.
I now believe that unless someone has had cancer themselves, they have no idea of the stress of the diagnosis or treatment. You have to go through it to get it. Kind of like having a baby. If you have never had a baby, you do not know what its like.
Anyways, putting YOU first seems like a very good idea. You only have one life afterall and your health is precious.
I hope you sort it out.