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Nov 8, 2018 08:07AM
Thank you so much, Georgia. I did call my employer-sponsored financial consultant. He was nice. It was about a year ago. He only gave me some advice which was to pull my report and call those I owe money one by one to negotiate. I got really motivated for a day, but then I got swamped (as I mentioned, I have full custody, work full time and am a full-time graduate student.) I blinked and months passed. I put it off and the more I put it off, the more anxious I became actually to follow through.
I understand that my issue is as much emotional and irrational as it is financial and rational. But I simply do not have the time to see a therapist or join a support group. I cannot take that time from my daughter. What I need is someone who will help me, take charge and keep me on track until I fix my situation.
Sometimes I feel that what I'm missing is what most patients receive from friends, family and their community. Just someone to give me motivation without judging me. But I'm all alone. My relationship ended the day I received invasive cancer diagnoses (which meant I won't be having more children) and my family is not really involved in my and my daughter's life. I've been too busy working to create a social network. And I feel a bit like a social outsider being a single parent and a cancer survivor. Most of the people I know are married or have no kids and did not go through cancer.
I looked on the FFP site. There was nothing for actual patients. I could not find one part of the site that helped me navigate to a help page of some sort. It seemed like it was focused on them and on collecting donation, not on distributing help. I live in DC, looked like another DC nonprofit raising funds. I may be wrong.
7/2013, DCIS, Right, 6cm+, Stage 0, 0/7 nodes, ER-/PR-
8/2013, IDC, Right, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/7 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+ (FISH)
8/3/2013 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement
9/10/2013 Herceptin (trastuzumab)
9/11/2013 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel)
Reconstruction (left): Nipple reconstruction; Reconstruction (right): Nipple reconstruction
Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant