I am the one who usually hosts the family for Thanksgiving, but this year I will be getting my last chemo treatment on Tuesday before Thanksgiving. Thursday begins my 3-4 bad days. I have said I wanted to skip Thanksgiving this year, because I will not feel good, I won't be able to eat, and if I can everything tastes like crap. I received a call from my mother yesterday telling me I don't have to worry about thanksgiving I am to come to my sisters house she will be hosting Thanksgiving this year. I said as long as it is just us I am OK with that. but I will need a place to lay down, for when I get tired and don't feel well. I am assuming it will be my sister, her 2 preteen boys, her adult son & wife, and their 2 toddlers, my Mom, my boyfriend and my son. I think that is a lot of people, especially knowing I will feel like crap. She then told me my sister has invited by brother and his girlfriend, my niece her husband and their 3 toddlers, and my nephew his wife, and their 3 school aged kids.
I explained I am having my treatment on Tuesday, I don't need to be around ALL those people, including all those kids. My Mom doesn't understand, she said we always have everyone who wants to come over. I said I would stay home as it doesn't really matter to me. I also said that I would be better at Christmas and that would be a better time to have everyone over. I also explained we are not having my boyfriends kids and their children over during this time because I won't feel good and I don't want to be exposed to illnesses. My sister is being a bitch, because I don't want to come to Thanksgiving, at her house, Really she is a nurse??????
Am I just being a crazy selfish person? I want to see my family and pend time with the kids, I just don't need to get sicker than I already am.Any suggestions?
7/18/2017, IDC, Right, 3cm, Stage IB, Grade 3, 0/9 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
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