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Topic: Let's re-activate "Silver linings" topic!

Forum: Acknowledging and honoring our Community — Share accomplishments, milestones, goals of community members, family members or yourself. Just finished treatment? Just got married? Watched your child graduate? Ran a big run? Been a huge help to members in our community? Let's honor our members here!

Posted on: Oct 28, 2018 11:57AM

CaliKelly wrote:

I was reading old silver linings topic, made me think of the many silver linings I have taken note of throughout my treatments, and post treatment. For instance, my friends and family and I are so much closer, we express our love more readily. I don't hesitate now to do things that scare me, (like ziplining, great fun, ladies, try it!) I remember, during chemo, my skin was flawless, HAIRLESS, smooth as a babies butt! No shaving my legs for 6 months!😄. And I was hip, and trendy for awhile, post chemo-shaved head, tattoos, and for awhile I had a nice little beard growing😉 .I dont stress anymore about things i cant do anything about, and most importantly, my husband just can't say no to me now!😃, whatever I want to do, he's, ok honey! I'm back in shape, back into my artwork, happy, healthy and loved. Silver linings are there everyday, look for them!💜

Dx 6/17/2015, IDC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IIIC, Grade 2, 8/20 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Chemotherapy 8/11/2015 TAC Surgery 1/20/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 6/29/2016 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant Chemotherapy 11/3/2016 Xeloda (capecitabine) Surgery 10/7/2017 Reconstruction (left): Latissimus dorsi flap Surgery 1/30/2019 Reconstruction (left): Fat grafting Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall
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Oct 29, 2018 07:15AM Moderators wrote:

Hi CaliKelly, 

Thank you for reviving this topic! 

We do hope others will chime in soon, It would be super to hear members silver lining stories. 





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Oct 29, 2018 03:29PM CaliKelly wrote:

OK, if it's just me, I thought of another one! When my hair(finally) grew back after chemo, there were no grays! Grew back just like when I was a baby, wispy, fine, and strawberry blonde😊 My hair forgot how old it was!😃 I had had a noticeable amount of grays, at least to me. The wispy, fine part persisted for 2 years, until I started using the red light hair laser helmet, read those stories on thinning hair thread. So another silver lining, no hair dying! Also, don't you love all your friends and family being in awe of your WarriorWoman strength? I act all, it was no big deal, flexing those muscles, anyone could do it😉 C'MON ladies whats your Silver lining?

Dx 6/17/2015, IDC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IIIC, Grade 2, 8/20 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Chemotherapy 8/11/2015 TAC Surgery 1/20/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 6/29/2016 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant Chemotherapy 11/3/2016 Xeloda (capecitabine) Surgery 10/7/2017 Reconstruction (left): Latissimus dorsi flap Surgery 1/30/2019 Reconstruction (left): Fat grafting Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall
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Oct 29, 2018 06:32PM wrenn wrote:

My silver lining is finding Callanish retreats. I discovered how many wonderful generous neighbours I had. I also managed to keep and love my chemo curls for almost 2 years.

Metaplastic IDC Triple negative...Tumour is 1.5cm. BMX Aug. 16th. Chemo cancelled after one dose due to complications. Dx 7/25/2013, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/6 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Surgery 8/16/2013 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right
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Nov 8, 2018 04:10PM CaliKelly wrote:

Just a beautiful reminder of Life! Bike riding at the beach, mental and physical therapy!

Dx 6/17/2015, IDC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IIIC, Grade 2, 8/20 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Chemotherapy 8/11/2015 TAC Surgery 1/20/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left Hormonal Therapy 1/30/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 6/29/2016 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant Chemotherapy 11/3/2016 Xeloda (capecitabine) Surgery 10/7/2017 Reconstruction (left): Latissimus dorsi flap Surgery 1/30/2019 Reconstruction (left): Fat grafting Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall
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Oct 6, 2019 07:12PM DutchieGirl wrote:

Hard to believe this forum hasn't received more traction! I am 4 months post-chemo, 1 month post-radiation. When my hair started growing on my legs, I was in awe! I was so happy to shave it - I marvelled at my body regenerating itself. My eyelashes took a while but grew in thicker than ever, and my hair is incredibly thick. My hair has always been thick but it's crazy thick now!

One of the biggest silver linings for me is how much more expressive I have become, as well as my friends. We end our texts or phone calls with "I love you" and that makes my heart sing. I'm a lot closer to many of my friends and family as well.

I had zero appetite during chemo and even after, but now I'm ravenous. I am so thankful for that as I'm needing to put weight on.

The fact that I had zero complications all through AC-T chemo and radiation and my EF has been good for Herceptin is also a silver lining.

I'm back to work (very part-time) and really enjoy feeling useful. Next up will be volunteering, which I always enjoyed pre-diagnosis.

Every day I wake up and thank God that He has given me another day to enjoy! And autumn is so beautiful here in Southern Ontario!

Dx 11/7/2018, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIIA, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Surgery 1/14/2019 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right Chemotherapy 3/4/2019 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 7/29/2019 Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab)
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Oct 6, 2019 08:13PM lyzzysmom wrote:

When I was diagnosed I had a very stressful job. During radiation I told my boss that I could not do it anymore and would quit once rads were done as I needed my insurance to get though treatment. My kind boss responded with an offer of 24 hours a week, no nights or weekends and I would keep my health insurance, That worked out really well for 3 years until I was laid off which I did not mind. Also I am a keen amateur photographer and during that time I saw a beautiful image of the Milky Way that a lady had posted on one of the threads.This became my number one bucket list item and I found out more about this type of photography and over the last 5 years have vacationed out west and to Maine taking workshops and meeting wonderful folks who specialize in "Astro landscape" photography as its called (landscapes including the night sky). Over the last year I have lead classes on it at my club and even got an image in the Boston Globe.

All in all, although it was unpleasant at the time, and who knows what the future holds, good things happened as a result of my diagnosis that have been a blessing and which likely may never have happened otherwise.

Oncotype DX 12, age at dx 59 Surgery 5/6/2014 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Dx 5/16/2014, LCIS, Stage 0, 0/1 nodes Dx 5/16/2014, ILC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Radiation Therapy 6/24/2014 Breast
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Oct 7, 2019 12:56PM - edited Oct 7, 2019 12:58PM by Scrafgal

I think that one of the reasons that this thread has not gotten more traction is that silver linings puts more of a positive spin on getting breast cancer than many are able to relate to authentically. So, in other words, being closer to friends and family are things that could have been achieved without having cancer. Maybe having cancer brought this issue to light, but cancer was not a necessary condition for it to arise. On the other hand, the joy of watching one's body return to normal is only possible because the cancer took normality away, for a while and for some people forever, but it would be hard to for me to call those things a silver lining. It's something for which I would simply be grateful, since I got a terrible disease.

I am one of the few people for whom regrowth of hair did not occur. However, I am grateful that I have moved through the psychological trauma of chemo-induced alopecia (universalis--all over my body), but I can't call the cost savings on haircare products/sevices a silver lining because, in reality, I want my hair back. I am grateful that I survived and finished chemo, in spite of two hospitalizations during treatment that, for a little while, caused me to question whether I would make it. I finished, and I am grateful. I am grateful that I now volunteer at a cancer hospital and help others through their traumatic moments and give them some glimmer of hope.

So, in the end, I am grateful for my overall healing but I just cannot quite consider it a silver lining...and I am a glass half-full person...just not a silver lining person because if it were not for cancer, I would have my hair and gladly pay for products/services. Before cancer, I already volunteered and knew the rewards, even it it was not at a cancer hospital. Cancer just revealed who I already was inside: a strong, confident, loving, adpatable, optimistic person of faith. If anything, I am simply more transparent about who I am...and, for that, I am grateful.

Dx 12/2016, IDC, Right, 4cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 0/7 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/6/2017 Mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant, Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 3/22/2017 Taxol (paclitaxel) Chemotherapy 6/15/2017 FAC Hormonal Therapy 9/25/2017 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 10/13/2017 Reconstruction (right): Fat grafting, Silicone implant Surgery 5/9/2018 Reconstruction (left): Fat grafting, Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Fat grafting Surgery 10/16/2018 Reconstruction (right): Nipple tattoo Surgery 5/9/2019 Reconstruction (left): Fat grafting; Reconstruction (right): Fat grafting Hormonal Therapy 7/23/2019 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 9/6/2019 Reconstruction (right): Nipple tattoo
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Oct 7, 2019 01:06PM - edited Oct 7, 2019 01:07PM by Scrafgal

To clarify, I think that the glass-half full person is grateful for having water, even if only a half-glass, while the silver-linings person might suggest that, in some way, it is beneficial to have only a half-glass. With everything considered about having breast cancer, I take the glass-half full perspective, I think, more than silver linings.

Dx 12/2016, IDC, Right, 4cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 0/7 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 2/6/2017 Mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant, Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy 3/22/2017 Taxol (paclitaxel) Chemotherapy 6/15/2017 FAC Hormonal Therapy 9/25/2017 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 10/13/2017 Reconstruction (right): Fat grafting, Silicone implant Surgery 5/9/2018 Reconstruction (left): Fat grafting, Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Fat grafting Surgery 10/16/2018 Reconstruction (right): Nipple tattoo Surgery 5/9/2019 Reconstruction (left): Fat grafting; Reconstruction (right): Fat grafting Hormonal Therapy 7/23/2019 Arimidex (anastrozole) Surgery 9/6/2019 Reconstruction (right): Nipple tattoo
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Oct 7, 2019 01:31PM Lexica wrote:

scrafgal has a good point, but I will buy into the silver linings. (...although the not having to shave your legs during chemo was a particularly good one for me :) ). To be honest, I pretty much despised my breasts before this whole ordeal and was not sad to lose them - so silver linings I can wear spaghetti straps now and don't have to haul those things around anymore!

Diagnosed at 34. 2 years of Ibrance via PALLAS trial (ends 4/2020) Dx 7/2017, IDC, Left, Stage IIIC, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Surgery 12/14/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right Dx 12/27/2017, DCIS/IDC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 5/11 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Radiation Therapy 1/15/2018 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol) Hormonal Therapy Aromasin (exemestane)

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