Topic: Very private person

Forum: Acknowledging and honoring our Community — Share accomplishments, milestones, goals of community members, family members or yourself.

Posted on: Dec 20, 2021 11:15PM

Posted on: Dec 20, 2021 11:15PM

OLYMPIA62 wrote:

Very private person, but finding it a bit too much to handle on my own.

I found this format a bit easier to free myself. I was diagnosed, had surgery, and all the tests. Met with several Doctors and

found I was not a good candidate for Chemo. So, I am now undergoing radiation therapy.

I am very self conscience about the appearance of my mark. I no longer have a nipple/areola, it had to be removed along with 1/3 of my breast.

In it's place I have what I see as a zippered pocket. The appearance makes me cry. (Privately, of course) My husband

does not openly wince, but he has not looked, nor touched me since the removal of the tumor.

At the same time, I have laxed in interest myself. Feeling a bit more fatigued than usual, and starting to have the "Sunburn type

irritation" that the Oncologist warned. It has only been my 6th treatment, 14 more to go. Then onto the Estrogen Blockers...

With that said, may I ask how others have handled the change to their breast, and partners attention? I am being aware that what

is good for one may not hold for another.....

Thank you so much for this forum, it has given me some ease...




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Dec 21, 2021 12:18AM moth wrote:

Olympia, I suggest you try this forum section

Sex and relationship forum

https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/150

Cancer is life changing. It's not just the physical scars, it's the emotional and relationship changes we all need to deal with


Also check out the radiation therapy threads for helpful hints on how to deal with the skin issues during rads

Best wishes

I take weekends off

Initial dx at 50. Seriously?? “Sometimes the future changes quickly and completely and we’re left with only the choice of what to do next." blog: Never Tell Me the Odds

Dx 12/2017, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/5 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Surgery 12/12/2017 Lumpectomy; Lumpectomy (Left); Lymph node removal Chemotherapy 2/14/2018 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 8/13/2018 Whole breast: Breast Dx 2/2020, IDC, Left, Stage IV, metastasized to liver/lungs, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 3/18/2020 Taxol (paclitaxel) Immunotherapy 3/19/2020 Tecentriq (atezolizumab) Chemotherapy 11/26/2020 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Radiation Therapy 12/9/2020 External Hormonal Therapy 12/16/2020 Femara (letrozole) Radiation Therapy 3/3/2021 External Local Metastases 3/3/2021 Radiation therapy: Bone Targeted Therapy 1/1/2022 Trodelvy (sacituzumab govitecan-hziy) Chemotherapy 6/1/2022 Other
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Dec 21, 2021 12:32AM tntnsd wrote:

Hi Olympia,

I read your sharing and question, I really want to give you a big hug.

I can’t honestly offer any thoughts on this as my husband and I are at ease with my (left) mastectomy. I chose not to have any reconstruction, so we both knew that left breast will be gone forever. I did cry hard the night before my surgery. We hold each other and thought of the things that are more important to us.

We are lucky that our intimacy has not been affected much by this. We playfully steal a kiss from each other more often. When I change clothes, I just don’t hide that from my husband. So I guess, in a way it helps both of us.


Wish you with all my heart to be at ease with all of this

Dx 12/29/2020, DCIS, Left, Stage 0, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes Surgery 2/2/2021 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left)
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Dec 21, 2021 11:47AM - edited Dec 21, 2021 11:48AM by OLYMPIA62

Thank you Moth for the direction. I will look into those threads.

Then I believe I will exit here and write a private diary.


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