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May 15, 2018 10:35PM
I’m sorry your mom is going through this. I’m even more sorry you’re so scared and needing to reach out for help on her behalf. My heart goes out to you and at the same time I’m awed by your strength, courage and determination to reach out to us and to help your mom.
First, not all lumps are cancer. Even if they grow. There are many benign breast conditions that this could be.
Second, if it is cancer, treatment options vary depending on what type it is. Some cancers don’t require chemo. Radiation isn’t always necessary either. Surgery options may include lumpectomy instead of mastectomy (either option is a valid one, though). Some of us just have surgery and take a pill everyday for 5 years. Others of us do some combination of the above treatment options.
Third, the earlier what’s going on is identified, the earlier she (and you) will be able to change your worry and fear of the unknown to a plan of action.
I don’t know your mom’s personality or the dynamics of your relationship. Sometimes, a loved one won’t make the appointment themselves because the fear is too great and they’re almost paralyzed by the fear and they need someone else to take the reins at least temporarily. If you can’t convince your mom to make her own appointment (and I’d advise you to go with her as a second set of eyes and ears is important to catch all the information the dr will give her), you may want to try making an appointment for her. And letting her know that it’s been made and reassure her that you’ll go with her for support - that you're in this together.
I wish you luck, I know it’s hard. Well wishes and warm thoughts for you and your mom.🍀🌷
1/2017, DCIS/IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
2/13/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Prophylactic ovary removal; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap
3/2/2017 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
11/1/2017 Prophylactic ovary removal
1/2/2018 Femara (letrozole)