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Feb 21, 2018 08:50PM
Feb 21, 2018 08:51PM
I would like to add that, yes, sex is painful now, penetration even with a finger is to painful to contemplate, being touched by the most darling of husbands still feels too uncomfortable to bear. But while the physical difficulties can be helped by lubricants, the real problem is that sex has been amputated from my brain. Enjoying sex - yes I remember it, in theory, but the whole idea of sex has been blurred out. Talk of it now, or tasteful sex scenes in movies on tv, have become annoying and boring, like when they talk about sports on the news, I mentally tune out, hope for it to be over soon. And this from a gal who used to have one of the most tyrannical sex drives ... Luckily my husband is in a similar place at age 81, and is probably somewhat relieved by my lack of interest. On the other hand, cuddling, kisses, touching, rolling together, enjoying physical closeness, declaring our love over and over, that is all wonderful. It is like my whole tyrannical urgent passionate crazy sex drive has moved into my heart.
Current treatment, chemo - Halaven, plus XGEVA, after failure of Ibrance/fulvestrant; failure of Afinitor/Aromasine; mets to skin on chest, extensive node mets, spine and ribs.
11/11/2013, IBC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IIIC, Grade 3, 4/7 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2-
12/12/2016, IDC/IBC, Both breasts, Stage IV, metastasized to other, ER+/PR+, HER2-
10/2017, IBC, Both breasts, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, Grade 2, HER2-
1/25/2018 Halaven (eribulin)
2/2/2018, IBC, Both breasts, Stage IV, metastasized to bone/other, Grade 3, ER-/PR-, HER2-