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Topic: Asexuality

Forum: Sex & Relationship Matters —

A safe place to talk candidly about how your romantic relationships and/or your sex life has changed following your diagnosis and treatment.

Posted on: Sep 25, 2019 12:31PM

Polly_Ester wrote:

Is anyone else starting to identify as asexual after cancer treatment? I identify as gray asexual now. Rarely experiencing sexual attraction.


Dx 2/2015, Right, <1cm, Stage IIA, ER+, HER2- Chemotherapy 4/22/2015 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 2/5/2018 Surgery Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary Radiation Therapy Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Sep 25, 2019 04:55PM trinigirl50 wrote:

My vagina has practically atrophied, I have zero libido, and SEs from Letrozole have aged me by 20 years. I identify as sexually fucked up by cancer, but graysexual sounds better.

trinigirl50 Dx 3/7/2015, ILC, Left, 6cm+, Stage IIIC, Grade 2, 20/24 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Surgery 3/7/2015 Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right Chemotherapy 4/14/2015 AC + T (Taxotere) Hormonal Therapy 9/14/2015 Arimidex (anastrozole), Femara (letrozole) Radiation Therapy 10/1/2015 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes
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Oct 30, 2019 12:15PM KarenJohnson wrote:

I am struggling with this too and it is breaking my heart. Thank you for this post.

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Nov 11, 2019 06:55PM Jennyb60 wrote:

Graysexual is exactly how I’m feeling and as a single woman, it’s making it extremely difficult to date! I just met a really nice guy but I feel no sexual attraction coupled with the fact that I haven’t dated since before my diagnosis so I feel...out of practice...and I’m just having a hard time getting into this new relationship. Am I never going to be sexually attracted to another guy? That’s a really depressing and scary thought.

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Nov 19, 2019 07:39PM Daylightdancer666 wrote:

I too be honest not had sex in over three years have no interest in sex or sexuslly attracted anyone put my libido being low due to anti depressants at one stage I was having one night dtsndd I'm only 32 now not at all xxx

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Nov 20, 2019 05:18PM CinM wrote:

I have been on Letrozole for three years.  In the last year, I have had NO sexual desire at all.  My wonderful husband of 37 years has been amazing through it all but I want to feel that romance again.  So sad. 

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Nov 20, 2019 05:49PM MCBaker wrote:

Been like that all of my life. Tried to be "normal" for many years, but it brought about too much pain. Not sad at all about it, especially now that it is no longer regarded as pathological. There are more things to enjoy in life than sex.

Mary Dx 10/3/2018, DCIS, Right, 6cm+, Stage 0, Grade 3, ER-/PR- Dx 11/16/2018, IDC, Right, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/5 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2+ (IHC) Surgery 11/16/2018 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Targeted Therapy 12/19/2018 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy 12/19/2018 Taxol (paclitaxel) Surgery 6/28/2019 Reconstruction (right): Fat grafting, Saline implant
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Nov 21, 2019 01:44PM karynhelen wrote:

yes! That’s me and it’s horrible. I was on Tamoxifen for 4 years and then after a hysterectomy I switched to Letrozole.

Just quit Letrozole after 2 years because of HSDD. Zero interest in sex. Almost an aversion now. It’s impacting my marriage.

I’m tied of reading articles telling me to masterbate, eat avocado toast, exercise, eat and sleep well.... and everything will be fine.

Grrrrrrrr is there ANYTHING out there that helps?

Dx 4/15/2013, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IB, Grade 1, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 5/7/2013 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel
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Nov 21, 2019 09:28PM Jackster51 wrote:

I'm with you ladies. I feel like a walking talking tree. Or about as sexual as a tree. So sad. Was 47 at DX and single since then. Sad to think this is it, but seeming like it is. I really miss having a sex life and sexual desire. Now....nada.

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Nov 24, 2019 05:47PM kar123 wrote:

Same here. I was ok during chemo, but about a year after that and starting the AI's my desire just plummeted. I feel sad for my husband and for me. I miss that intimacy.

Dx 6/2010, ILC, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 2, 2/7 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 6/28/2010 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 11/17/2010 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right Radiation Therapy 1/24/2011 Breast, Lymph nodes Hormonal Therapy 4/4/2011 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy 5/1/2013 Femara (letrozole)
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Dec 2, 2019 07:29PM redhead403 wrote:

I am tired of people tells me that yoga, massage, meditation all make hot flashes better. Honestly not buying any of that crap.

Dx 9/9/2019, DCIS/IDC, Left, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (IHC) Surgery 11/7/2019 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Prophylactic ovary removal; Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Radiation Therapy 1/6/2020 Whole-breast: Breast
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Jan 28, 2020 10:49AM breaktheice wrote:

I know that feeling. I feel like I`m going through a grieving period, losing this image that I had for my life of what my future would look like. That's all changed and that's sad. I hope the new version of my future will be good,but I don't know what it looks like yet. Or how to get there.

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