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Jan 13, 2015 06:01PM
Hi- I just found this thread today and love the topic. I know it has been a few months, but thought I would share. I have made a lot of changes in my life and still am working on them. It is a long road out from all this, but I keep plugging away.
Food and Exercise: I have always been a pretty healthy eater, but further changed my diet to eat whole foods and gave up sugar. I still enjoy a a glass or wine or two on occasion but limit alcohol per the recommendation of my MO. I have been working to get my fitness back and just finished a 4 month personal training program to get fitter and loose weight. I also make sure I get plenty of sleep.
Work: I am self employed and that usually means I do a lot more than most, but am learning to not overwork anymore. My last contract I did for a client was 30 hours which was perfect for me. I still was able to provide value and left the project with many accolades from my client, made enough money and was able to take good care of myself. I am learning to say no to situations I know will require too much from me if I cannot negotiate a better arrangement.
My sacred space: since last summer, I have been changing things at home too. Something interesting I am doing right now as part of some home renovation activities is to create a space in my former guest bedroom for me called "The Wellness Room" and it will be a place I can go to do my yoga practice, play music, read, journal, etc. It was just repainted a soft pink, and it is now my "self care room" now. I am waiting for the new floors to be installed next week and look forward to using this room soon.
Relationships: like with many hard things in life, you really find out who can do the hard stuff and be present with you as you get diagnosed, through treatment, and beyond. I told a small selected group when I was diagnosed for support, and am grateful I had everything I needed along the way during this journey. Some relationships fell away too, as some people could not deal with any of it; other friends became closer in the past few years. I feel like the people around me now are people who really CARE about me vs. people who just want something from me. I also have learned to better say no to others. From people who want from me or want TOO MUCH from me. I just step back and let them pass on by. I have learned to pay attention to the way I feel around people.
Bucket List: I love to write and am spending more time doing that in my free time. I have been doing short stories, but have always wanted to right an autobiography and am doing my first writing workshop this summer in Taos. This has been something I have had with me along time to do. I am going to get going on writing that book this year.
Going through difficult times teaches us much about ourselves and others. I am still absorbing and integrating the lessons.
I am grateful for BCO too! I have made many cyber-friends here and continue to remain for support and to support others.
Thank you for asking!
9/14/2012, DCIS, 1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
9/14/2012, IDC, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 1, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel
11/14/2012 Lymph node removal: Left, Sentinel
11/14/2012 Lumpectomy: Left, Right
3/20/2013 Arimidex (anastrozole), Aromasin (exemestane)