A place for members to request and respond to requests from women looking for a one-on-one mentor, or to connect with others living in similar geographic areas.
Posted on: Jan 13, 2007 03:10AM - edited Jan 9, 2009 08:29AM by ritajean
ritajean wrote:I'm very curious about all the Illinois ladies who are making this breast cancer journey or who have finished it. Where are you located? What's your diagnosis? Where are you in your treatment plan? How's it going for you?
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Sep 25, 2017 09:05AM IllinoisLady wrote:
"A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside."
-- Denis Waitley
Sep 25, 2017 09:13AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Kahnartist -- I'm not in your area, and things are fairly slow here as of the last few yrs. but we do have a lot of " readers " as so MANY from the group are definitely in the CHICAGO area. Hopefully some of the readers will get on here or if not pm you personally to help you out. We hate having to have a continual need for BC. Org ( sorry mods ) but it is one of the best up to date places to get help and proper information for yourself. It is a lousy disease, but methods today are so refined and so much better that many, many people can do quite well and go on to very satisfying lives. I can attest to that myself. It's trite, but hang in there.
Sep 25, 2017 03:12PM - edited Sep 25, 2017 03:16PM by ChiSandy
Kahnartist (love the name), I'm in Chicago, on the upper North Side. Your tentative dx has a very, very favorable prognosis--tiny tumor, tubular features, low grade, Luminal A (hormone-positive/HER2-negative). Chemo would almost certainly not be recommended, and you probably wouldn't even be offered OncotypeDX testing to determine if chemo is warranted because your score would be quite low. Extremely unlikely that any nodes are involved, and getting clear margins if you choose lumpectomy is pretty much assured (and unless you test positive for a genetic mutation, IMHO mastectomy would be overkill unless you absolutely, positively can't do radiation). Where are you being treated? I go to Evanston Hospital/Kellogg Cancer Center.
The only scenario in which I'd have opted for mastectomy (single or bilateral) with my diagnosis would have been had I tested positive for BRCA 1, 2 or other mutations that are commoner in Ashkenazim than in the general population. I had no family history of cancer, yet because I'm 100% Ashkenazi my oncologist ordered genetic counseling which led to testing.
There is a support group that meets the second Wednesday of the month at the Graham Prof. Bldg. across Central Street from (and connected via footbridge to) Evanston Hospital.
(BTW, if you're Jewish, L'Shana Tovah)!
Sep 26, 2017 09:29AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Start doing the things you think should be done, and start being what you think society should become. Do you believe in free speech? Then speak freely. Do you love the truth? Then tell it. Do you believe in an open society? Then act in the open. Do you believe in a decent and humane society? Then behave decently and humanely.
Sep 27, 2017 09:19AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Gratitude is one of the great positive emotions because it creates magnetism. A magnet is that which draws things to itself; therefore, by giving heartfelt thanks for all the good we now have, through the magnetism that gratitude creates, we will start attracting more good into our daily life. -Elaine Hibbard
Sep 28, 2017 09:57AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Be the first to forgive, to smile and take the first step, and you will see happiness bloom. Be always the first. Do not wait for others to forgive, for by forgiving, you become the master of fate, the fashioner of life, the doer of miracles. To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return you will receive untold peace and happiness. -Robert Muller
Sep 29, 2017 09:55AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Kindness is perhaps the most essential quality of being fully human.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Sep 30, 2017 09:19AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Walking exercises the whole person. It exercises the body-- it gives the arms and legs a workout. It stimulates the flow of blood; expands the lungs. It is gentle and relaxing. It exercises the mind-- it shakes up the brain cells. It fills them with oxygen; drives out the cobwebs. A famous scientist says he does his best thinking on the two miles of sidewalk between his home and office.
Walking exercises the emotions. It gives you a chance to observe and enjoy the world. Open your eyes to beauty. See the homes, the trees, the gardens. See the shining faces of little children. Listen for the church chimes, singing birds and the laughter of happy people. -Wilferd A. Peterson
Oct 1, 2017 09:01AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light. -Brené Brown
Oct 2, 2017 08:58AM IllinoisLady wrote:
People take different roads seeking fulfillment
and happiness. Just because they're not on
your road doesn't mean they've gotten lost.
H. Jackson Browne
Oct 3, 2017 09:16AM IllinoisLady wrote:
I am still learning--how to take joy in all the people I am,
how to use all my selves in the service of what I believe,
how to accept when I fail and rejoice when I succeed.
Oct 4, 2017 09:01AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Those who humble themselves shall be saved;
Those who bend shall be made straight;
Those who empty themselves shall be filled.
Oct 5, 2017 07:28AM IllinoisLady wrote:
To be a person of true greatness...
Live with honor.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Oct 6, 2017 08:55AM IllinoisLady wrote:
This is the beginning of a new day. God has given me this day to use as I will. I can waste it or use it for good, but what I do today is important, because I am exchanging a day of my life for it! When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever, leaving in its place something that I have traded for it. I want it to be gain, and not loss; good, and not evil; success, and not failure; in order that I shall not regret the price I have paid for it. -unattributed
Oct 7, 2017 12:50PM IllinoisLady wrote:
Positive thinking is not the destination; it is the journey. An optimistic person
will be constantly challenged--by external circumstances as well as
inner fears and doubts. Always remember that these tests are like
a ladder you must climb. As you move past each rung, your optimism
strengthens and your confidence begins to flex newly found muscle
that you might never have developed otherwise.
Oct 8, 2017 10:11AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Real success requires respect for and faithfulness to the highest human values--honesty, integrity, self-discipline, dignity, compassion, humility, courage, personal responsibility, courtesy, and human service. -Michael DeBakey
Oct 9, 2017 10:12AM IllinoisLady wrote:
"It's not the days in your life, but the life in your days that counts." ~ Brian White
Oct 10, 2017 08:52AM IllinoisLady wrote:
I have three precious things which I hold fast and prize.
The first is gentleness;
the second is frugality;
the third is humility, which keeps me from putting myself before others.
Be gentle and you can be bold;
be frugal and you can be generous;
avoid putting yourself before others
and you can become a leader among men.
- Lao Tzu
Oct 11, 2017 09:23AM IllinoisLady wrote:
In the midst of movement and chaos,
keep stillness inside of you.
- Deepak Chopra
Oct 12, 2017 09:26AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Science is organized knowledge. Wisdom is organized life.
Wisdom is not finally tested in the schools, Wisdom cannot be pass'd from one having it to another not having it, Wisdom is of the soul, is not susceptible of proof, is its own proof.
Oct 13, 2017 09:04AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Modern life has made us people of attachment rather than people of
commitment. Indeed, many people have found that it is difficult to
tell the difference between attachment and commitment in their own
lives. Yet attachment leads farther and farther into entrapment.
Commitment, though it may sometimes feel constricting, will ultimately
lead to greater degrees of freedom. Both involve in the moment an
experience of holding, sometimes against the flow of events or against
temptation. One can distinguish between the two in most situations by
noticing over time whether one has moved through this activity or this
relationship closer to freedom or closer to bondage. Attachment is a
reflex, an automatic response which often may not reflect our deepest
good. Commitment is a conscious choice, to align ourselves with our
most genuine values and our sense of purpose.
Oct 14, 2017 09:13AM IllinoisLady wrote:
Humankind must be a steward of the Earth; Caretakers for
all that dwells upon it; To be of one heart with all things.
Human beings must learn to share the tears of every living
thing, To feel in our hearts the pain of the wounded animal,
each crushed blade of grass;
Mother Earth is our flesh; the rocks, our bones;
The rivers are the blood of our veins.
We are all children of God. Traditions are open to anyone
who wants to learn.
Huichol Holy Man
Oct 15, 2017 09:38AM IllinoisLady wrote:
One of my patients who survived three major surgeries in five weeks
described himself as "born again." When I asked him about this, he
told me that his experience had challenged all of his ideas about life.
Everything he had thought true had turned out to be merely belief and
had not withstood the terrible events of recent weeks. He was stripped
of all he knew and left only with the unshakable conviction that life
itself was holy. This insight in its singularity and simplicity had
sustained him better than the multiple, complex system of beliefs and
values that had been the foundation of his life up until this time. It
upheld him like stone and upholds him still because it has been tested
by fire. At the depths of the most unimaginable vulnerability he has
discovered that we live not by choice but by grace.
And that life itself is a blessing.
14 hours ago IllinoisLady wrote:
Love is extravagant in the price it is willing to pay, the time it is willing to give, the hardships it is willing to endure, and the strength it is willing to spend. Love never thinks in terms of "how little", but always in terms of "how much". Love gives, love knows, and loved lasts.
Joni Earecson Tada