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Topic: Breast cancer and parenting special needs children

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A comforting place to discuss parenting children, or issues with partners, siblings, or parents following a diagnosis.

Posted on: Apr 5, 2017 01:20PM

Scottiemom11 wrote:

I would love to see an active thread for those who are parenting or even grandparenting special needs children -of any age- while dealing with breast cancer diagnosis, surgery, treatments and after.

To start off, I am the mother of two special needs children, both of whom are on the autism spectrum and ADHD. When I was diagnosed, the oldest was 18 and the youngest was 12. My youngest also has had multiple serious health issues since birth, including surgeries, asthma and food allergies.

Since my diagnosis, I have had three surgeries while working full time and have had difficulty keeping up with my children's needs. I am blessed with a wonderful husband, but it's still hard. No family close by.

I now need to refigure how I can balance my recovery and treatment with my children's needs.

Scottie

Diagnosed at age 48. Oncotype DX 11. BRCA Neg. Additional Therapy: Lupron & Gabapentin 2/5/15. . .Truncal Lymphedema 9/2/16. . .Capsular Contracture 2/10/17. . .Writer, photographer, mother of two autistic children. Vegetarian and Gluten-Free Dx 10/10/2014, ILC, Right, <1cm, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Dx 12/3/2014, ILC, Right, 1cm, Stage IB, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Dx 12/3/2014, LCIS, Both breasts, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 12/3/2014 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Hormonal Therapy 12/31/2014 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 7/27/2015 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Surgery 3/20/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant
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Apr 14, 2017 10:18PM SSBNewbie wrote:

I have a 15 year old son with Autism. He has been much more flexible with changes to his daily routine due to my appointments and surgery than I anticipated, but we are still a long way from the end of the treatment

Newly diagnosed ILC with area of PILC. Both breasts affected.
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Apr 15, 2017 11:36AM Scottiemom11 wrote:

Hi SSBNewbie. . .Hugs and prayers for your journey. Like you my now 15yo ds has been more flexible this time around. For my first surgery, ds was 12 and stayed at home with 18 yo dd while I was in hospital. He was not happy about us not being there and he called the hospital the night of my surgery and asked Dh to come home.

Having special needs children is never easy. That is also a journey.

Scottie

Diagnosed at age 48. Oncotype DX 11. BRCA Neg. Additional Therapy: Lupron & Gabapentin 2/5/15. . .Truncal Lymphedema 9/2/16. . .Capsular Contracture 2/10/17. . .Writer, photographer, mother of two autistic children. Vegetarian and Gluten-Free Dx 10/10/2014, ILC, Right, <1cm, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Dx 12/3/2014, ILC, Right, 1cm, Stage IB, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Dx 12/3/2014, LCIS, Both breasts, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 12/3/2014 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Hormonal Therapy 12/31/2014 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 7/27/2015 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Surgery 3/20/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant
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Apr 15, 2017 03:00PM mustlovepoodles wrote:

No, it is not easy to raise a child with special needs. My hat is off to everyone of you who are not only dealing with cancer, but also taking care of your children. I have a son severe cognitive impairment and he's autistic. Thankfully he is old enough to live in a group home now, where he gets excellent care. I never thought I would have to do that but it has actually led to better quality of life for all of us. Instead of being his constant caregivers my husband and I are now just his loving parents. I don't know how we would have dealt with this if we had been charged with the constant care during my breast cancer experience. It was all I could do to even take care of myself and my husband is fully disabled.

Oncotype 23. Positive for PALB2 & Chek2 gene mutations. My breasts are trying to kill me! Dx 7/20/2015, DCIS/IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/2 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Surgery 8/20/2015 Lumpectomy Surgery 9/3/2015 Lumpectomy: Right Chemotherapy 10/19/2015 Cytoxan (cyclophosphamide), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 2/4/2016 Prophylactic mastectomy: Left, Right Surgery 10/19/2016 Hormonal Therapy Femara (letrozole) Surgery
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Apr 15, 2017 04:24PM Scottiemom11 wrote:

mustlovepoodles. . .hello and thank you for sharing. You have had some very difficult decisions but you are right about quality of life.

I am currently looking to downsize my career again -I did so for 10 years after ds was born because of his health issues, then I ramped it back up for the last five years. Now I need to take a step back again. That means less money but better life quality for all of us.

Scottie

Diagnosed at age 48. Oncotype DX 11. BRCA Neg. Additional Therapy: Lupron & Gabapentin 2/5/15. . .Truncal Lymphedema 9/2/16. . .Capsular Contracture 2/10/17. . .Writer, photographer, mother of two autistic children. Vegetarian and Gluten-Free Dx 10/10/2014, ILC, Right, <1cm, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Dx 12/3/2014, ILC, Right, 1cm, Stage IB, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Dx 12/3/2014, LCIS, Both breasts, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 12/3/2014 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Hormonal Therapy 12/31/2014 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 7/27/2015 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Surgery 3/20/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant

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