Jul 2, 2018 07:42AM edwards750 wrote:

Jen - I’m sure there are other ladies going through what you guys are out there but not everyone chooses to post here.

For the record I’m not in your shoes. I’m older and my DH and I have 5 children together. We also have 12 grandchildren, however, I remember what it was like to want a child so badly I would do anything. I didn’t have to deal with the beast though while trying and I’m sure that’s difficult weighing the pros and cons. Having a baby at any age isn’t without risks but as you know as you get older the risks multiply. I had my last child at 39. Also, I did have 2 miscarriages.

Now you have a recurrence which obviously makes your decision even dicier. Idk what the risks are by interrupting your meds but I’m certainly all too aware of the risks with BC.

I also know women who have stopped taking the meds for other reasons and are doing fine. Some resumed taking them, others did not. The problem is it’s not one size, fits all.

I completely understand why you want another child. Only you can decide if it’s worth the risks.

At the end of the day it’s your life and your body. Your medical team will and has advised you but the ultimate call is yours.

Good luck whatever you decide.

Diane

Jul 25, 2018 06:55PM - edited Jul 26, 2018 11:33PM by Sophiemara

Hey Karen, I think the idea is that the first two years after treatment has the highest risk of it coming back. So a lot of oncologists recommend waiting until after this time, so you have passed this point and it's safer to proceed. Also chemo, radiation and surgery all take it's toll on the body. They say that it can take up to a year for people to completely recover from the toxicity of chemo and I guess pregnancy is such a big deal on the body again, that they feel it's better to wait. However I understand where you are coming from with the age thing..I'm 37 and similar predicament. Have you considered seeing a fertility specialist and freezing embryos, that way you could possibly wait a year or two.

Jul 26, 2018 10:14PM RRusso23 wrote:

It was nice seeing what other women have been through with this topic. I’m 34 and 15 months post chemo. I had stage 2a triple negative cancer in my right breast which we found 6 weeks after giving birth to my daughter. 

2 kids was our plan, but after recently being told by my doctor that I’ve most likely started menopause and would need fertility help if we wanted another child, we don’t think trying for a second is right for us. To be honest I’m terrified to be pregnant again for fear of it coming back on the other side since it manifested at some point during my preg

Nov 30, 2018 02:50PM christina0001 wrote:

I have had two kiddos since treatment ended, they are now 2 and 3 and perfect in every way. My oncologist was not supportive of my choice but that never bothered me, his job is to keep me alive, not happy. *smile*

Feb 22, 2019 10:58AM - edited Feb 22, 2019 11:41AM by Gudrun

Dear young ladies,

coming here to tell you my daughter is expecting a baby. She is in her 10th week of pregnancy now and very happy.

Her oncologist had no objections. He only told her not to wait too long, not to do breastfeeding and to restart Tamoxifen right after having given birth.

See her profile below.

Love and best wishes to all of you, Gudrun