Topic: Pregnancy after cancer?

Forum: Family and Family Planning Matters — A comforting place to discuss planning a family, fertility concerns, parenting children, or relationship issues with partners, siblings, or parents following a diagnosis.

Posted on: Jul 28, 2017 02:34PM

Posted on: Jul 28, 2017 02:34PM

Nursie wrote:


I am 40 and finished my treatment for stage 3 breast cancer two years ago. My onco has given me the go ahead to continue with my life plan of having another baby. We are seeing fertility doc next week to discuss our options.

Has anyone else went on to have kids after? Please share!

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Jul 2, 2018 07:42AM edwards750 wrote:

Jen - I’m sure there are other ladies going through what you guys are out there but not everyone chooses to post here.

For the record I’m not in your shoes. I’m older and my DH and I have 5 children together. We also have 12 grandchildren, however, I remember what it was like to want a child so badly I would do anything. I didn’t have to deal with the beast though while trying and I’m sure that’s difficult weighing the pros and cons. Having a baby at any age isn’t without risks but as you know as you get older the risks multiply. I had my last child at 39. Also, I did have 2 miscarriages.

Now you have a recurrence which obviously makes your decision even dicier. Idk what the risks are by interrupting your meds but I’m certainly all too aware of the risks with BC.

I also know women who have stopped taking the meds for other reasons and are doing fine. Some resumed taking them, others did not. The problem is it’s not one size, fits all.

I completely understand why you want another child. Only you can decide if it’s worth the risks.

At the end of the day it’s your life and your body. Your medical team will and has advised you but the ultimate call is yours.

Good luck whatever you decide.


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Jul 25, 2018 11:18AM karentwriter wrote:

I am in the same boat. I'm meeting with my Onc next month. I'm only 6 months out from chemo...roughly or will be in September, but I'm 40 now, I can't really wait the 2-3 years so many people wait. If there are no increased risk of recurrence or risk to the baby, why would I wait? I think if it's going to come back it's going to, why would I stop. Plus with triple negative I would likely have to wait 5 years to know for sure if it was going to come back and then I'm definitely too old to have a baby, not to mention, according to blood tests, I'm perimenopausal. I'm in a race against the clock. Can anyone provide reasons or legitimate reasons why it's necessary to wait that long since my doctor said the chemo is out of my system by now and that isn't the issue?

Dx 9/28/2017, DCIS/IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2-, Surgery 10/11/2017 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Sentinel Chemotherapy 11/6/2017 AC + T (Taxol) Radiation Therapy 3/15/2018 Breast
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Jul 25, 2018 06:55PM - edited Jul 26, 2018 11:33PM by Sophiemara

Hey Karen, I think the idea is that the first two years after treatment has the highest risk of it coming back. So a lot of oncologists recommend waiting until after this time, so you have passed this point and it's safer to proceed. Also chemo, radiation and surgery all take it's toll on the body. They say that it can take up to a year for people to completely recover from the toxicity of chemo and I guess pregnancy is such a big deal on the body again, that they feel it's better to wait. However I understand where you are coming from with the age thing..I'm 37 and similar predicament. Have you considered seeing a fertility specialist and freezing embryos, that way you could possibly wait a year or two.

Dx 9/2015, IDC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IIIB, Grade 3, 2/14 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole), Zoladex (goserelin) Radiation Therapy Whole breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Surgery Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Latissimus dorsi flap; Reconstruction (right): Latissimus dorsi flap Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol)
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Jul 26, 2018 11:48AM peregrinelady wrote:

Julie, after having two different types of breast cancer now, I think you should consider what may happen if your cancer recurs in another part of your body. My twin sister wanted a 2nd baby so badly that she did 3 rounds of IVF at age 40. At 42 she was diagnosed with stage 3 BC. Unfortunately, she passed away just before our 45th birthday, leaving her son at age 10. He was the most important thing in her life and she never would have tried for the 2nd baby if she knew this would happen. I am not trying to scare you and I understand the deep desire for a 2nd baby, but please consider how it could affect your daughter. Her son is now in college and doing okay, but he has now lived longer without his mother than with her.
Dx 4/24/2015, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 5/18/2015 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Left) Hormonal Therapy 6/1/2015 Liquid tamoxifen (Soltamox) Surgery 4/19/2016 Mastectomy; Mastectomy (Right); Reconstruction (Left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (Right): DIEP flap Hormonal Therapy 8/1/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole) Hormonal Therapy 7/20/2020 Femara (letrozole) Hormonal Therapy 3/4/2021 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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Jul 26, 2018 10:14PM RRusso23 wrote:

It was nice seeing what other women have been through with this topic. I’m 34 and 15 months post chemo. I had stage 2a triple negative cancer in my right breast which we found 6 weeks after giving birth to my daughter. 

2 kids was our plan, but after recently being told by my doctor that I’ve most likely started menopause and would need fertility help if we wanted another child, we don’t think trying for a second is right for us. To be honest I’m terrified to be pregnant again for fear of it coming back on the other side since it manifested at some point during my preg

Dx 11/18/2016, IDC, Right, 5cm, Stage IIA, ER-/PR-, HER2- Surgery 5/30/2017 Lumpectomy: Right Surgery 6/13/2017 Mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Chemotherapy AC + T (Taxol)
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Nov 12, 2018 03:47PM BCFighter2017 wrote:

it's been 15 months since chemo and i have been on Zoladex shots since 17 months ( through my entire treatment). Currently i am on Zoladex + Aromasin

My cancer was also discovered when my baby was 7 months. We always wanted a sibling for her and treatments did delay the plans.

I am most probably going to talk to my Onco next year ( either Jan or April) to stop hormonal to try. I am 36 right now and next late year will be 37. Don't want to delay further

Moreover there are studies that show pregnancy doesn't increase the recurrences chances .

I am not thinking about the recurrence , what ever has to happen will happen irrepsective of taking medicine or why not go for it ? :-)

Dx @ 34 thinking it was closed milk duct after stopping breast milk pumping Dx 4/10/2017, IDC, Right, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 3, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 5/3/2017 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 9/5/2017 Lumpectomy: Right; Lymph node removal: Underarm/Axillary
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Nov 30, 2018 02:50PM christina0001 wrote:

I have had two kiddos since treatment ended, they are now 2 and 3 and perfect in every way. My oncologist was not supportive of my choice but that never bothered me, his job is to keep me alive, not happy. *smile*

Surgery 1/11/2012 Lumpectomy: Right Dx 1/16/2012, IDC, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 3, 0/7 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ Surgery 2/10/2012 Lymph node removal: Right, Sentinel Targeted Therapy 2/13/2012 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy 2/13/2012 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery 8/10/2012 Mastectomy: Right Hormonal Therapy 8/24/2012 Radiation Therapy 10/1/2012 Breast Surgery 7/30/2013 Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap
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Feb 22, 2019 08:38AM Mrsayala24 wrote:

Hello ladies. I’m also wanting to have a baby. I just completed my surgery and will be moving on to radiation. I already finished chemo. During my last app with my oncologist, he was very against me wanting to do IVF after the two year mark after chemo since I’m hormone positive.I explained to him that not having a baby was not an option.

Christina, I'm very happy to hear that you were successful in having two babies! I'd be happy with 1. Did you complete IVF or did you get pregnant naturally after?

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Feb 22, 2019 10:58AM - edited Feb 22, 2019 11:41AM by Gudrun

Dear young ladies,

coming here to tell you my daughter is expecting a baby. She is in her 10th week of pregnancy now and very happy.

Her oncologist had no objections. He only told her not to wait too long, not to do breastfeeding and to restart Tamoxifen right after having given birth.

See her profile below.

Love and best wishes to all of you, Gudrun

Myself: dx at 55 in 2013, ILC, stage IIa, G2, ER+/PR-/HER2-, KI67 20%, BMX, Letrozole 5.5 years. Daughter: dx at 28, stopped antihormonals after 2 years to have a baby and restart tx afterwards: Dx 8/2015, IDC, Left, 3cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+, Hormonal Therapy Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone), Zoladex (goserelin) Targeted Therapy Perjeta (pertuzumab) Targeted Therapy Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel) Surgery Mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): TUG flap
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Aug 2, 2019 12:39AM - edited Aug 2, 2019 12:40AM by Tweefl


I was diagnosed 4/26/19 - profile below...had been trying to conceive natural for a few years. Then turned to IFV & then diagnosed with BC a couple of days before starting meds for implantation. Lumpectomy on left breast w/breast reduction/construction completed. Starting 3 weeks of targeted radiation to begin 8/5. Then Tamoxifen for 5 years. Cancer was caught early & did not spread, very thankful. Wanting to complete IVF after radiation and to delay Tamoxifen after delivery...thoughts? My onco of course is not on board. I'm In my40's & waiting 2-5 years isn't an option. Thank you for your thoughts in advance. I hope I'm not not the only one in this predicament

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