Mar 7, 2019 09:53PM Moderators wrote:
Hi there, ShayShay. We are so very sorry to read your post, it just broke our hearts. Breast cancer effects all aspects of your life, and it certainly doesn't end at diagnosis. You've only been dealing with this since October, so it's completely normal that you would still be dealing with the side effects and aftereffects of treatment and all of the mental and emotional turmoil that often comes with a diagnosis. Obviously, a diagnosis effects everyone in a family, but it sounds as though your husband is being unreasonable and unsupportive, just when you need support the most. Your diagnosis is not your fault, and to be treated as though you've done something wrong is, as you said, completely unacceptable.
We're not sure if you've tried talking to your husband about your feelings, but we strongly urge you to find someone you can confide in - a friend, a therapist, someone from your church, or a family member who can help. You're going through a lot right now, and to carry this burden while trying to get through your treatment is a lot for one person. We certainly understand not wanting to turn friends and family against him, should things turn around. But at the same time, you can't go through this alone. You have the support of this community, and we encourage you to use it as a place to vent and get advice from people who know what you're going through!