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Mar 11, 2019 06:06AM
If she has phobia of doctors, then I'm betting it's taking pretty much everything she's got to follow through with the diagnosis and treatment plan. Remember, she has to do this her way, not the way you would do it if it were you. That's just impossible, as much as we might like to make it so.
Can you try to focus on giving her big love and props for doing the hard stuff that she's doing? It doesn't sound careless to me, it sounds like she's managing something that probably hits a ton of her anxiety points, and doing it pretty well, just not perfectly.
Researching supplements and stuff, that may feel helpful for you to feel a greater sense of control. But if it's not her thing, then just remember that you really are doing it for you and not for her, and try not to let it get in the way of having the best times you can with her.
Keep monitoring her for emergency situations but otherwise try to focus on supporting her doing things her way. No matter what happens or how things turn out, I promise you, you will both feel better about the process and you won't regret it.
It can be very hard to watch someone we love make decisions we wouldn't make. Take care of yourself too, but get support on this from us, or your friends, and try to just give support to your mom and love her.
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