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Apr 21, 2019 03:54AM
Hugs to you and I am so sorry you have to go thru this whole ordeal. It definitely is devastating and frightening.
When I had my first bout of BC, my family who I thought I was close to, basically were not there for me at all. This in itself was devastating. I have heard the stories of, people can't handle it, they don't know what to say.... blah, blah, blah. But the truth at that time was it was hurtful to have people who I thought I could look to for support were not there. I did not care about their perspective, I must say. I always believed close family were there for you. I was shocked when that wasn't the case.
13 years later I had another bout of BC and again, my family were not there. I wasn't devastated this time about that though because I didn't expect them to be. They showed their true colors first time. But I did have support this time from a very dear friend and this made my ordeal much easier to bear. Plus, I had this site.
Its been 15 years now since I was dx with BC, and I am still dealing with the aftereffects. BC is not just a cold that you will get over. It definitely changes your life. You will reach a new normal. you will adapt because us humans do that. I think the relationship with your daughter will be changed forever now to, for better or worse. That is what BC does. It changes everything - your perspective, your anxiety, your body, your sleep, your joy, your meaning in what you do, and you find out who is really there for you.
God bless and I hope you keep coming back to these boards. You will find support here.
Hugs again. Let us know how your surgery goes.
3/29/2004, IDC, Right, 6cm+, Stage IIIA, Grade 3, 2/18 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
3/31/2004 Lymph node removal: Right, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Right
5/31/2004 AC + T (Taxol)
11/30/2004 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall
1/25/2017, LCIS/DCIS/ILC/IDC/IDC: Mucinous/IDC: Cribriform, Left, <1cm, Stage IB, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-
3/7/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Fat grafting
Aromasin (exemestane), Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)