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Topic: Helping long distance

Forum: Caring for Someone with Breast cancer —

A place to share your struggles and concerns about supporting and caring for a person you love diagnosed with breast cancer with others who understand.

Posted on: Jan 19, 2016 06:59PM

Irishwfl wrote:

I have a friend who lives far away. We are not real close but I still want to show my support and love. She has a husband, grown kids, siblings and parents close by so her basic needs are taken care of. Other than sending cards and prayers does anyone have any suggestions of things I can send her (someone already did the box of sunshine). I would appreciate any suggestions. I haven't been through breast cancer myself, just a scare.

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Jan 19, 2016 07:14PM rainnyc wrote:

I have gotten some wonderful long-distance care packages while going through chemo and surgery. It doesn't have to be huge or expensive, and it is so nice to know that someone far away is thinking of you. A couple of magazines or a good paperback book, a package of ginger candy and/or ginger tea, a warm, cozy scarf...things like that. But I have been moved even when someone just sends a card. It's lovely that you're thinking this way, and I'm sure that your friend will appreciate the gesture.

Dx 4/2015, IDC, ER-/PR-, HER2+ Chemotherapy 5/11/2015 Taxol (paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 5/11/2015 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Surgery 9/22/2015 Mastectomy: Left, Right Radiation Therapy 10/31/2015 Lymph nodes, Chest wall Targeted Therapy Perjeta (pertuzumab)
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Jan 19, 2016 07:16PM farmerlucy wrote:

I think consistent caring contact is the most meaningful. Most folks are one and done. Just a simple weekly / biweekly call or text asking "how was your week" is powerful mojo and will allow your friend to express herself and not feel so alone. Being a good listener is key. I would do it until she is a month or so past being done with active treatment. You're a good friend for wanting to help

Dx at 51 after a preventive mx that wasn't. Oncotype dx 3. 3D tattoos from Vinnie! PTSD?? You are not alone! Surgery 2/20/2012 Prophylactic mastectomy; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Dx 2/24/2012, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/1 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- (FISH) Surgery 3/10/2012 Lymph node removal: Sentinel Surgery 7/21/2012 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Hormonal Therapy 4/9/2013 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Surgery 4/13/2015 Prophylactic ovary removal
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Jan 21, 2016 05:50PM Irishwfl wrote:

Thank you rainnyc and farmerlucy! I welcome any other ideas

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Feb 2, 2016 10:50PM Helen0112 wrote:

I am so glad to have found this! My step mother was diagnosed with breast cancer almost 3 weeks ago she had a double mastectomy on Friday and is supposed to start chemo in a few weeks. I live 16 hours away and I can't be there. I want to help I am naturally a fixer but I can't be there any advice on what I can do from here?? She likes for me to translate the information she has been given for her but it has been overwhelming for all of us and I feel like I am only getting bits and pieces of information.

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