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Topic: I lost my friend to breast cancer today

Forum: Caring for Someone with Breast cancer —

A place to share your struggles and concerns about supporting and caring for a person you love diagnosed with breast cancer with others who understand.

Posted on: Oct 2, 2017 07:53PM

Trishyla wrote:

I lost my dear friend to breast cancer today. Her name was Marcela. She was only 45. She leaves a husband and a three year old son. I want people to know she lived. She mattered. She is loved. And she won't be forgotten.

I am so angry right now. I hate this frigging disease.

Dx 8/30/2016, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 8/30/2016, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Dx 9/6/2016, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 9/28/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 4/4/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap Chemotherapy 8/4/2017 Xeloda (capecitabine)
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Oct 2, 2017 08:10PM couragement wrote:

Dear Trishyla,

I am very sorry for your loss. She certainly did matter, and I hear you on your anger. I am sending you much love and care.

May you be well and strong, always.


May we all be well Dx 5/11/2016, IDC, Right, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 2/24 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (FISH) Dx 6/10/2016, IDC, Left, <1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Targeted Therapy 8/15/2016 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy 10/15/2016 Gemzar (gemcitabine) Surgery 2/23/2017 Lymph node removal: Left, Right, Sentinel, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Tissue expander placement; Reconstruction (right): Tissue expander placement Surgery 6/6/2017 Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Targeted Therapy Perjeta (pertuzumab)
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Oct 2, 2017 08:18PM Legomaster225 wrote:

I'm sorry for your loss. Extraprayers for Marcela, for you, and for her family. I'm sad for her little boy.

Diagnosed at 50. Currently 54. Oncotype score 39. One node positive at diagnosis negative after preadjuvent chemo. Bilateral cancer discovered at BMX. Left breast was supposed to be prophylactic. :-( Dx 12/3/2016, IDC, Right, 3cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 0/4 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 1/19/2017 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 6/21/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Dx 6/22/2017, DCIS, Left, <1cm, Stage 0, Grade 1 Dx 6/22/2017, IDC, Left, <1cm, Stage IB, Grade 1, 0/0 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Radiation Therapy 8/21/2017 Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Hormonal Therapy 10/16/2017 Hormonal Therapy 9/8/2018 Aromasin (exemestane)
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Oct 2, 2017 08:37PM NotVeryBrave wrote:

I'm so sorry - for you, for her husband and son, for the long life she should have had. I hate this disease, too.


TCHP x 6 with pCR. One year of Herceptin. DTI pre-pec surgery. Quit Tamoxifen after 3 months. Dx 11/21/2016, DCIS/IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2+ (IHC) Targeted Therapy 12/19/2016 Herceptin (trastuzumab) Chemotherapy 12/19/2016 Carboplatin (Paraplatin), Taxotere (docetaxel) Targeted Therapy 12/19/2016 Perjeta (pertuzumab) Surgery 5/9/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left; Prophylactic mastectomy: Right; Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant Hormonal Therapy 9/9/2017 Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone) Hormonal Therapy 6/26/2020 Evista (raloxifene)
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Oct 2, 2017 09:08PM Falconer wrote:

Trishyla, I am so sad to read about the loss of your friend and that she leaves a little boy behind. My heart is with you.
Strong is the new strong. Dx at 45. Onco 16. Monthly Lupron shots Nov. 2016-December 2017 Dx 7/2016, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IB, Grade 2, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 7/2016, DCIS, Left, 5cm, Stage 0, Grade 3, 0/3 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 5/29/2017 Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap Surgery Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left Radiation Therapy Whole-breast: Breast, Lymph nodes, Chest wall Hormonal Therapy Aromasin (exemestane), Femara (letrozole), Tamoxifen pills (Nolvadex, Apo-Tamox, Tamofen, Tamone)
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Oct 2, 2017 09:55PM Trishyla wrote:

Thank you all for your kind words. It's so raw right now. I cry, then I scream in anger. She was too young.

Dx 8/30/2016, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 8/30/2016, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Dx 9/6/2016, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 9/28/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 4/4/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap Chemotherapy 8/4/2017 Xeloda (capecitabine)
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Oct 3, 2017 08:51AM dtad wrote:

So sorry for your loss. We need to make metastatic BC a priority...

Dx 3/20/2015, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 4/10/2015, ILC, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 2, ER+/PR+, HER2- Surgery 5/21/2015 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): Silicone implant; Reconstruction (right): Silicone implant
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Oct 3, 2017 10:34AM Peacetoallcuzweneedit wrote:

Trishyla -

I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Her life mattered and she will continue to matter always....

I am sending my deepest sympathies to you and her family - I know the road ahead is difficult - sending strength and peace.

5/2017 Left Breast DCIS 6cm Grade 3 6/2017 Right Breast IDC Stage 1A, Tmic 0.5mm, 100% ER+/100%PR+/ HER2- 6/2017 BMX, SNB left, TEs x 2 8/2017 TE deflated -Replaced Oct 2017 Hysterectomy + ooph 11/2017 Implant Exchange June 2018 Nipples.
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Oct 4, 2017 01:22AM Trishyla wrote:

Thank you, Peace. I miss my friend. She was a sweet, lovely woman.

Dx 8/30/2016, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Dx 8/30/2016, IDC, Right, 1cm, Stage IA, Grade 3, 0/1 nodes, ER-/PR-, HER2- Dx 9/6/2016, IDC, Left, 1cm, Stage IIA, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Chemotherapy 9/28/2016 AC + T (Taxol) Surgery 4/4/2017 Lymph node removal: Sentinel; Mastectomy: Left, Right; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap Chemotherapy 8/4/2017 Xeloda (capecitabine)
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Oct 4, 2017 08:02PM edwards750 wrote:

I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. I'm sure her husband and little boy are devastated. She was too young. It's hard to make sense of or understand why this happens. It's heartbreaking.

I have lost 2 friends to BC but neither were as young as your friend. It's still hard but worse for a young child who has lost his mother.

I feel your pain. I was angry too when they died. It's hard to feel optimistic we have made headway curing this horrific disease.

Diane

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Oct 10, 2017 11:30AM ekb88 wrote:

So sorry for the loss of your friend, and for her family :(

Dx 7/2017, DCIS, Right, Stage 0, ER+/PR+ Surgery Lumpectomy: Right Surgery Prophylactic ovary removal
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Oct 10, 2017 12:05PM Micmel wrote:

I am so sorry to hear of this. Yes she mattered. Of course she is loved. So unfair this disease is. I wish I had a magic wand. I would take away everyone's pain and heartache. I am sending her beloved friends and family my deepest sympathies. I just don't understand why something so beautiful doesn't stay here to spread beauty, but the mean horrible criminals, Are allowed to live?? . May you find some peace in knowing she is no longer suffering. May her family know they now have their own beautiful angel watching over them every second of everyday. Although never the same. ~M~

Everyone has to dance, they just don’t know what song they will get. Dx 1/22/2016, IDC, Left, 4cm, Stage IV, metastasized to bone, Grade 2, 13/35 nodes, ER+/PR-, HER2- Chemotherapy 2/10/2016 AC Surgery 6/21/2016 Lymph node removal: Left, Underarm/Axillary; Mastectomy: Left Chemotherapy 7/19/2016 Abraxane (albumin-bound or nab-paclitaxel) Targeted Therapy 11/6/2016 Ibrance (palbociclib) Surgery Chemotherapy Chemotherapy Hormonal Therapy Arimidex (anastrozole)

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