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Topic: Death and grieving how are you doing?

Forum: For Caregivers, Family, Friends and Supporters —

A place to share your struggles and concerns about supporting and caring for a person you love diagnosed with breast cancer with others who understand.

Posted on: May 6, 2019 01:42AM

thatsvanity wrote:

It has been almost nine years since my sister died of breast cancer. I don’t cry everyday anymore. I miss her and think of her everyday. If I listen to music the grief is fresh and new or when I’m alone

Atypical lobular hyperplasia(11/11/10) PBMX NS mastectomy on 5/26/2011 Dx 11/11/2010, Stage 0, 0/0 nodes
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May 6, 2019 02:22AM Peregrinelady wrote:

Tomorrow is 11 years since my twin sister passed away from MBC at almost 46 years old. I cried every day the first year and then gradually tried to remember her before cancer entered our lives.The first five years were the hardest, but year ten (last year) was also difficult. This year has been better, but I still am upset that she missed so many years of her life. I am sorry for your loss, but glad that you have been proactive with your health.
Dx 4/24/2015, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 6/1/2015 Liquid tamoxifen (Soltamox) Surgery 4/17/2016 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Prophylactic ovary removal; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap Hormonal Therapy 7/30/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole)
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May 6, 2019 03:19AM Meow13 wrote:

Do you have dreams where they appear and are not sick? I do every so often I always am so happy when I talk to them.

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May 6, 2019 03:10PM thatsvanity wrote:

meow13 I haven’t had a lot of dreams but the dreams I’ve had she lets me know that she is okay. Maybe now that I can talk about her without sobbing, I may have more dreams. I hope so!


Atypical lobular hyperplasia(11/11/10) PBMX NS mastectomy on 5/26/2011 Dx 11/11/2010, Stage 0, 0/0 nodes
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May 6, 2019 03:19PM thatsvanity wrote:

Peregrinelady,

I am extremely sorry for the loss of your twin sister. Losing a close sibling is such intense pain and grief. A hospice nurse and writer asked me, “Who will be there for you when you die?” I said, “I don’t know.” She answered, “your sister will be there for you.” I believe we will be with our loved ones again. When she was transitioning she believed she was going on a trip. Death isn’t an ending it’s another beginning

Atypical lobular hyperplasia(11/11/10) PBMX NS mastectomy on 5/26/2011 Dx 11/11/2010, Stage 0, 0/0 nodes
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May 7, 2019 03:03AM Peregrinelady wrote:

Thank you, I remember when a politician in Europe lost his twin brother in a plane crash, they said losing a twin was like losing a spouse. It is difficult to fathom that she missed out on half her life and her son has now lived longer without her then with her. Unfortunately, my dreams have been few, but yes, Meow, she was healthy and happy. I have to think of that as a sign and carry on positively. None of our loved ones would want us to be sad forever, but these anniversaries can be tough.
Dx 4/24/2015, IDC, Left, 2cm, Stage IIB, Grade 2, 1/2 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2- Hormonal Therapy 6/1/2015 Liquid tamoxifen (Soltamox) Surgery 4/17/2016 Mastectomy: Left, Right; Prophylactic ovary removal; Reconstruction (left): DIEP flap; Reconstruction (right): DIEP flap Hormonal Therapy 7/30/2016 Arimidex (anastrozole)

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